Assorted Truth

An ongoing series of Assorted Truths


Dec 22, 2019


     First dates are hard enough to get through, with all the rules, and protocols assigned to each person involved. Both men and women make mistakes when navigating the maze of the first date. So many questions, concerns, and expectations have made dating more complicated than it should be. Certain things should be just automatically known, but for some reason, we've forgotten them, we're never taught, or just don't give a shit enough to be considerate. Either way, if nothing else, it's entertaining to relay the ridiculous shit that happened on our date the night before to our friends, resulting in a good laugh at the very least. Then there are things that are just fucking annoying and we should just know better.

     Don't talk about sex on the first date; unless you REALLY don't want a second. That includes asking about favorite positions, what they are or aren't into, how long they wait until having sex or how long they make a person wait before having sex. Don't ask about theirs or volunteer your likes or dislikes Don't even ask how long before being invited in. It'll happen when it does. Don't get pissed because you have to wait to get some ass. You know if she gives it up too soon, you'll take it, but realistically, won't see her as relationship material because she gave it up so quickly. That's a pretty quick way to ensure the first date will be your last. Just because there was a level of physical contact or chemistry between the 2 of you doesn't mean sex is on the menu for the night. You just may have ended up meeting someone who's more in touch with their sensuality than most and they have no issues showing affection. That doesn't guarantee sex.

     Don't take it upon yourself to think your date wants to know who you last dated or had a relationship with, so why do people feel it necessary to point out an ex if they happen to see one? Another way to fuck up a decent date is to bring up your ex in any way, shape, or form. Whether positive or negative, the person sitting across from you doesn't want to hear how much they remind you of the last person they were fucked over by or were in love with. Knowingly taking your date somewhere you'll end up running into an ex just to spite them is just fucking dumb, but people still do it. They want that other person to see you've moved on when in actuality you haven't; otherwise, them seeing you with someone else wouldn't give you any type of satisfaction.

     Be careful, you don't know this person anywhere near where you should be comfortable letting them know where you live. There's nothing wrong with meeting for dinner, movie, or whatever. Chivalry, tradition, gentleman behavior; call it what you want, it's not worth the risk of letting a stalker, abuser, rapist, or your kidnapper know how to get ahold of you in your most vulnerable environment; you're home. Be extra careful when being invited to someone else's home. It's 1-2 AM; you know what he's about. You know why he's inviting you to his place, don't play fucking stupid when he starts making a move on you or gets pissed because you want to put on the brakes. A woman will invite a man inside for sex as well, but for the purpose of winning him over. She knows he'll lose interest or run the risk of not wanting to see her again if she doesn't.

     Bad manners is another quick way to graduate to single-date status. It shouldn't have to be said, but open belching, gas, nose-picking, coughing. Don't be late for no reason. A call or text takes just a few seconds. Showing up or getting drunk while on your date. Men will act an ass. Women will put themselves at risk by getting shit-faced without any avenue of support, other than the guy they're out on a first date with. None of her friends know where she is, who she's with, or have any type of backup or rescue plan if she needed one. If there's a remote chance of alcohol being part of your night, have a plan of action.

     Ordering messy food can result in a huge stain in that nice, white blouse you just paid $50 for. Those Bbq pulled pork tacos you love so much isn't worth the risk of dripping sauce on the crotch of your jeans. Want your first date to be your last with that person? Try being rude and shitty to waitstaff, that'll do the trick. For the sake of all of us, chew with your fucking mouth closed.

     Dress for the evening, Leave your, "Thug shit" at home. Get out of your, "Soccer mom" bag and put something on that'll catch his eye and keep them fixed on you; otherwise, don't get pissed if their eyes wander around the room. On the other hand, don't get caught, checking someone else out or making eye contact and flirting with someone across the room. Don't forget your bra. Shave. Wash your ass after work. Remember your deodorant and mouthwash. If you know your date hates smokers, don't even get involved with them if you smoke. We can smell the smoke and the weed on your clothes and in your hair. Especially when you smoked in the fucking car on the way to the date.

     Don't flash what you don't have. Don't brag. Don't misrepresent yourself. The truth will come out eventually, so why put yourself out there to be something you're really not. If you don't have the money, don't act as you do; don't spend your child support on a date. Clean out your fucking car. There's nothing sexy about old fast food bags, sweaty gym clothes, or trash in your ride, especially when you're picking your date up; waiting to get in isn't the right time to clean out the passenger seat.

     Don't get caught cheating. There's no coming back from having your partner (Who's NOW your ex) cause a public scene when they followed you and your date to the movie or dinner and call you out with someone else. With cellphone videos and social media being the way it is now, a woman walking into a restaurant with your kids and catching you with another woman will make a hell of a viral sensation. Having a man show up at the club and catching his woman grinding up against another man will certainly turn ugly really quick.

     Don't bring your kids on a first date. Showing off pictures or videos of your kids should be done in severe moderation. In doing so, don't get caught with porn on your phone either; that'll be funny as hell to have your date see your downloading interracial porn in the background of your phone. Don't argue or try to force your views and opinions during a conversation. Don't talk too much or interrupt when the other person is speaking. Finishing someone else's thoughts or sentences is also fucking annoying. Don't share too much about yourself. Your date doesn't want to hear you talk about everything you hate about yourself. Keep your personal problems to yourself.

     It's understandable that things do and will come up, and the occasional cancellation is inevitable. Make sure it doesn't become a habit. Don't get too serious too quickly. Don't assume one date means a relationship is a next step. If you know you're not the only person they're dating, don't expect monogamy after the first date. Don't agree to another date if you didn't have a good time or feel a connection, just to be nice. If you're not feeling it, don't suggest a friendship if you know the other person wants more, just end it where it is. Pet names; "Babe, sweetie, sweetheart, etc." That's a first date turn-off for a lot of people, whether they admit it or not; it's actually fucking creepy. Make sure you use the right name; introducing Becky to your friends as Sarah will also fast-track you to single date status. True, it may be easier sometimes to text, but in the case of a first date, pick up the phone and dial her number. As a woman, don't be so stuck in the past that you can't or won't call up a man and ask HIM out.

     Unless it's an emergency, put your fucking phone away. Texts. Unimportant calls from your buddies. Social media. Not everyone wants their picture taken or end up in a media video, and it doesn't mean they have anything to hide. Besides, that light is fucking annoying. Don't intentionally end up somewhere your friends will be and allow them to wedge their way into your date. Don't invite your friends to join your outing, especially without the other's knowledge. Don't ask or expect your date to play matchmaker with your respective friends.

     You may think it's a man's responsibility to pay for the date, but don't be shitty and not at least offer to pay for your alcohol. Your glass or 2 of wine can add another 30% or even double a dinner check pretty quick. Just because someone else is paying is NOT the time to try something you've never had before and end up not liking it or only eating half your meal, but wanting snacks at the movies. Don't intentionally order something different than your date, thinking you'll be able to sample theirs. Be considerate when going out and spending someone else's money. You may be used to ordering certain things when you're paying, but consider the finances of the other person when trying to keep up with your normal lifestyle; HE may not be in the position to pay for lobster, etc. If one pays for dinner, the other pays for the movie, etc.

     While these may seem like a lot to take in, but in my opinion, most should be common sense. The sad part is with the progress of dating technology, common sense seems to be a thing of the past, replaced by expectations of sex and self-preservation, Shitty manners, Rules or Misrepresentation. Everything that takes away from the actual enjoyment of the first date. We need to stop sabotaging ourselves before we even say hello.


Assorted Truth

An ongoing series of Assorted Truths

Q&A VOL. 10

Dec 08, 2019


Q: What chore do you hate the most?

F: Laundry.

M: Sex with the wife.

Q: What's your favorite exercise?

F: Any but Burpees.

M: Anything that keeps from watching her big ass do Burpees.

Q: What's your favorite time of year?

F: Christmas; because I get to go home and visit my family.

M: Christmas; because she goes home to visit her family.

Q: What's your favorite/least favorite body part

F: My hair/my breasts.

M: My abs/her breasts.

Q: What would you do if the world ended tomorrow?

F: Pray for forgiveness for all my sins.

M: Her cousin, Mandy.

Q: Who would you want to spend your last day on earth with?

F: My husband and children.

M: Her cousin, Mandy.

Q: Name something that made you stronger?

F: Quitting my job and starting my own business.

M: Fucking the wife last night.

Q: When was the last time you were nervous about something?

F: The STD test I took last week when hubby was out of town.

M: The STD test I took when I got back in town last week.

Q: What's something you've done that you'll never do again?

F: His Brother.

M: Skydive.

Q: What's your worst habit?

F: His Best friend, Darius.

M: My Best friend, Darius.

Q: If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self?

F: Pay more attention in school, wait to have children, don't marry so young.

M: Wear a condom with her mom, her sister, and this coming weekend.

Q: What reminds you of me?

F: Our favorite song on the radio

M: Pork fat

Q: Do You believe in karma?

F: Yes.

M: Depends, let's wait to see how the tests from the free clinic results come back.

Q: What's been your scariest experience?

F: Not making that stripper wear a condom last night.

M: Not wearing a condom when I fucked that stripper last night.

Q: What did you think when we first met?

F: He seems like a great guy.

M: I hope she swallows.

Q: What do you remember about our first date?

F: How great a guy he was.

M: She swallowed.

Q: Did you think we'd actually last this long?

F: I wasn't sure at first, but I'm glad we did.

M: I wasn't sure at first, because you weren't down with anal for a while

Q: What's the biggest fear in your relationship?

F: Losing the love of my life.

M: Leg cramps.

Q: Do you believe there's only one person you're meant to be with?

F: Yes, and I'm glad I found him.

M: Unsure, but I'm STILL hoping she'll come along.


Assorted Truth

An ongoing series of Assorted Truths


Nov 24, 2019


     When calling a woman a "Tease," first understand and realize why you're calling her that. Is it because she spent the night, enjoying the free drinks you bought, feeding off the attention you paid, even though she told you she had a man or husband? You STILL decided to try your luck, despite the fact she told you she was just hanging out with her friends and wasn't looking to meet anyone? She's not a tease, she told you what she was about for the beginning, but your pride and ego wouldn't allow you to walk away. The competition and conquest became paramount and eclipsed your better judgment.

     Flirting and teasing can be both positive and negative. Flirting can be used to show or gauge someone's interest, but also because they want something from the person they're flirting with, as in a gift or favor. Teasing can be used to show playful sexual attraction but also embarrass or humiliate someone, as in to make themselves feel attracted to someone else, other than their partner, or to boost their self-esteem. Although flirting and teasing are viewed as more of a female action, men are also just as guilty. In simplest terms, I am teasing and flirting certain offer expectations with absolutely no intention of immediate follow-through, if any at all. Women tease on a more physical level, while men do it emotionally.

     Granted, they have dual purposes, flirting seems less harmful and more playful, teasing is downright fucked up. Making a guy believe you're interested or sexually attracted to him just to make yourself feel bigger or a man making a woman feel like she's more than just a fuck is seriously a shitty thing to do all around, no matter how you slice it. It's a game; a stupid fucking childish game and the person being teased isn't even the main prize; bragging rights to the conquest is what they're REALLY after. A woman will take pleasure in pulling a man's attention away from another woman he's trying to get to know, or even draw his eyes away from his lady. A man celebrates his victory when he knows he can fuck the female he's been feeding lines to, or getting her to consider fucking around on her man, thinking he's a better choice.

     Teasing is wanting to humiliate and make fun of you. It's to make a person look and feel like an ass in order to supplement a deficiency in the teaser's self- confidence and self-esteem or ego. Flirting could be a form of teasing, but there's a line a flirt won't cross. If the person walks away feeling foolish, it was done less intentionally by a flirt than a tease.

     Friendliness can and will often be mistaken as flirting. A smile, an overly enthusiastic greeting, compliment, or comment about how someone' s losing weight or looks nice on a particular day can be taken out of context and misunderstood as flirting. Not clearing the line of the intent behind the behavior could set a person up to feel as if he/she was being teased. Sometimes, people are just being friendly; they're not flirting or teasing. Sometimes a smile and hello is just that.

     Here's the truth about teasing and flirting. Both can be playful and fucked up. Someone can be in-your-face obvious, or they can be subtle and discreet. As adults, we shouldn't have to resort to this game, no matter the intent. Do you truly think so little of yourself you have to make someone else feel small so you can feel better about yourself or to supplement the lack of attention you're getting from your partner? If so, you have some serious issues, and you should have your fucking head checked. If you think it's cute or endearing, check again. You're an adult, act like it. Instead of flirting, just be straight forward and let your thoughts and feeling be known; there are only two ways it can go, in your favor or not. Don't be so afraid of rejection.

     Another truth? Before calling someone a tease or flirt, realize and understand why you're assigning this label; it could be because of your own doing.

     A woman can meet a man and find him attractive and interesting. Their physical chemistry could be off the charts; so much so, her desire to show and express her attraction to him will sporadically eclipse her judgment and put her in a position to where her sensuality will take over and pull her from her typical character. She'll go back and forth with this while kissing, touching, and allowing him to reciprocate.

. It's his turn to understand the position she's put him in, and the future of her continued expression now entirely depends on him.

OPTION 1. He can go forward and allow her to express herself naturally and take things as they go organically and just enjoy the interaction as it is.

OPTION 2. Like most men, he'll assume they're going to have sex, based on her behavior thus far.

     Most men will go with option #2. He'll go too far and assume he's gonna fuck tonight, and that'll be his expectation and focus going forward. After the night's over, he'll walk her to her car, where they'll get a little hotter and heavier until she realizes he's trying to score right then and there. She'll politely put on the brakes, thank him for a good night and reassure him she wants to see him again in the near future. As she's getting if her car, he's looking like, "WHAT THE FUCK?"

     Just because a woman's into you and there's an OBVIOUS sexual attraction doesn't mean she's obligated fuck you! Just because she may get a little out of pocket and grind on you isn't a promise to fuck. Her rubbing on you and allowing you to touch her sensually isn't a physical contract, signed in a spermicidal lubricant that you're going to be getting some ass that night. So because she didn't go home with you that night, you call her a tease and say, "Fuck it," I'm not calling her ass, she's a tease." For all you know, she WANTED to invite you back to her place, but she had to work early the next morning and stayed out far past her expectation because she was into you. She didn't want you to get the wrong idea about her if she gave it up on the first night. She probably went home, jumped in the cold shower, and played with herself until she had one of the biggest orgasms of her adult life. Maybe her apartment was messy after a long week, and she wanted to clean it before you came over. Whatever the reason was, the fact you couldn't fuck THAT night got you so pissed off; you shit yourself of a great night in the future. Good job, asshat!

     The reason more women don't show their physical or sensual interest is that we're fucking stupid. We're incapable of just enjoying what's going on right at that moment and taking things organically. More women would enjoy being expressive with their sexuality, but they can't because men are always focused on the second option; instead of taking it for what it is, they slam blinders on their heads like fucking racehorses and focus on nothing else but the finish line.

     On the other hand, men have it just as bad. He can't express HIS attraction to a woman he's met without HER thinking all he's trying to do is fuck. Just like his female counterpart, all he's trying to do is show his sensual interest in her. So many men have fucked it up for him in the past, even the slightest intimate contact will have her slamming on the brakes and pushing him off, thinking he's trying to get something started she's not ready to give into. True, more men go out, looking for sexual/physical interaction, but not all of them. Women harp about not being compared to what some other women do or did; it's about time to practice what's preached.

     It is teasing and flirting. Is it worth it? Does it make people want or desire each other more? Does it add mystery and spice to a situation? Is it a turn on? An aphrodisiac? Or is it just a fucking game people play when they don't have the nerve to be a fucking adult. Approach someone like an adult, introduce yourself and say, "My name is _____, and I'd like to spend some time getting to know you, can I sit down?


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Nov 17, 2019


     When you assume shit, that's when things go bad, you make shit worse, or you miss out on something. They say when you assume, you make an ass out of you AND me; the truth is you just end up making an ass of yourself.

     Assuming someone's too good or good-looking for you is no exception. The funny thing is there are a lot of really attractive people who are and have been single for quite some time because people either assume they're taken, too hot to be faithful to one person, a player or out of their league.

     We sell ourselves short and downplay our strengths and qualities just because the object of our interest looks a certain way. We look at people and assume they don't/won't date outside their race. We fear rejection and humiliation. We want to avoid the ridicule for aiming too high and being shot down, especially in public. We'll sit on the sidelines, wanting to get into the game, but in the back of our mind lingers the fear of dropping the game-winning pass when the championship's on the line.

     Things like our height, weight, skin color, looks, build, and intelligence will all come into play when deciding whether or not to approach someone, based solely on how they look on the outside. Most men will look at a woman and assume she's way too hot to be single. Men may not even care if she has a man once he starts talking to her, but his biggest hurdle at that moment is the initial approach and the thought of rejection. A woman will look at a man and think he's way too good-looking to be single, so she'll stay away. She'll also see him as someone who couldn't be faithful to just one woman. Both men and women will look internally and rationalize. There's something about themselves that makes them unworthy of another person.

     Being afraid to take a chance is why we assume someone won't be interested in us. Willful ignorance will keep us on the bench and from aking the coach to put us in. The thought of not being as good as we think we are is more than we're willing to show ourselves and others. If we approach and get rejected, that sucks crazy balls, but if we never ask, there's always the hope that we could've been wrong, and hope is better than, "Nope."

     Why do we assume we're not good enough, or someone won't want us? Because we've put them on a pedestal, based on just looks, or what we know about them in passing. Just because someone may be good-looking or have an incredible body, doesn't mean they're a good person, or if we'll even like them once we got to know them. They can be the hottest person you've ever seen in your life, but instantly turn ugly as fuck as soon as they open their mouth. They could be a smoker, contently unemployed, have shitty manners, chew with their mouth open, have three kids by six different people, whatever. All you know is that they look good.

     Assuming a person's preference and whether or not you stack up is a form of stereotyping. Judging someone based on limited information is the same as judging someone based on age to skin color; it's normally inaccurate and costly. We look at hot women and think they've stuck up bitches where we'll look at a good-looking man and assume he's arrogant. We'll theorize that just because a man's in shape and works out that he only prefers women who just as much into fitness as he does or has a particular body type. Men will assume a woman's racial preference, based solely on her looks.

     We'll assume someone's, "Out of our league" based on just physical appearance. We'll allow how others to see someone as a template to how we view them. We can look at someone and see an 8-9; someone else could look at that same person and see them as a 6-7, where the person being evaluated could look in the mirror and see themselves as a 5-6. We're all attracted to different things, and to group someone into a category on looks alone is a little ignorant, or it's used to justify why don't you have the courage to approach them.

     "Leagues" don't really exist; at least not in the way we relate them to physical attraction. Where someone may excel in physical appearance, they may fail miserably when it comes to personality or intelligence; you're just focused on their looks. Determining whether or not a person may be out of your league is a compilation of many things, ranging from physical appearance to personality to ideas and values. Someone may come out of your league due to religious differences or social standing; it doesn't make them any better, or you any worse, your differences just make you incompatible.

     When you assume someone's unavailable because of their looks, you influence and possibly sabotage your chances. You also limit the other person's options and choices. Do you wonder why they always end up with jerks, assholes, or gold diggers? Because you've taken yourself out of the equation, thinking you don't measure up or deserve them. You've voluntarily eliminated yourself from their choice pool.

     At work, the gym, or the bar/club; that hot guy with the chiseled abs you're convinced won't give you second look is actually very much attracted to thicker, curvier women; that's why you always see him turning down the hot, thin, model-types with fake tits. He prefers his women with thighs, hips, tits, and ass to grab on to. The girl you've been watching all night who's turned down every guy that's approached her? She's not stuck up; she's heard every line in the book and under the sun. She can tell when guys are hitting on her, just to get some ass. She's actually into comic hero/sci-fi movies, pizza, and wings, and would rather have one decent guy approach her without leading with his dick or his wallet. Unfortunately, you'll let how they look to keep you from running a race. You have the best chance of winning.

     You get wrapped up in what you feel you're supposed to have, instead of what you really want. You'll settle for what you feel you're capable of getting. You assume there's no way they'll want you when there are so many others who seem to be their type, wanting them. You can't handle the idea of what others will say under their breath about you as a couple. You can almost hear people thinking of how mismatched you look. You've been screwed over before by someone who doesn't look half as good as they do, so you can only imagine what they'll do to you. You won't even give them a chance WHEN or IF they approach you. When you assume, you just make an ass out of you!  


Assorted Truth

An ongoing series of Assorted Truths


Nov 10, 2019


     An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. As a society, we depend on the mythical entity called karma to avenge wrongdoings directed towards us by others. But do we wish karma on those we share a romantic connection or relationship with? Of course, when it comes to cheating, the answer would be a resounding, "Yes," but what about the lesser infractions that only cause ripples in the cohesion of the relationship? Want karma to step in maybe a little more over-the-top in most of those cases. Praying to the karma gods for vengeance may not be the intent, but they need to teach someone a lesson or show someone how it feels to be treated a certain way is not too far from being the same.

     In the case of a much milder offense, you have to ask yourself and decide if the action was intentional the result of inconsideration or lack of thought vs. malicious intent. Did the offender purposely say or do something to stir a negative reaction from you, or was it the result of an honest mistake or they just didn't think it was a big deal and they assume it wouldn't be one to you.

     This whole concept of, "Since you did it, I should be able to do it too!" It is a game, nothing more; stupid-ass game grownups play for whatever reason they feel is necessary. You spent $150 on something, so they did too, just to teach you a lesson. You went out to the club with your friends, so they did too, even though they fucking hate the club; they just did it because you did. You said or did something that hurt their feelings, so it's only fair that they get to do it right back. You checked out some woman at the mall and made a comment about her shoes, and you decided to point out some guy's muscles, trying to show them how it feels. The truth about this game is that it just may come back to bite you in the ass.

     To the offender, How would you feel if your partner did some of the things YOU did, thinking it wasn't a big deal? You stare at and comment about other men or women in front of them. When you go out with your friends, you flirt with other men or women; you buy drinks or dance up too damn close. You take money from your home and family and stuff the underwear of strippers or get lap dances. You hang out with members of the opposite sex without your partner. You go through their phones and social media, but you keep your shit hidden or locked. You bring up their past every chance you get. You don't call or return calls or texts. You withholding sex, trying to get something you want, or as a punishment.

     When people feel that karma maybe a little too harsh, they'll refer to a lesser form of retribution I refer to as, "Taking someone to battle" The truth is no matter which way you slice it, it's STILL revenge; plain, old-fashioned revenge. Someone said or did something you didn't like, and now you want to show them how it feels; instead of sitting down and telling that person how their words or actions made you feel. You chose to go to war instead. They fired a shot at you, so HAVE to fire one back. They may have accidentally flown too close to your airspace during a patrol, so you HAVE to return the favor. People feel as if they need to battle in order to show they're not afraid to go to war with you or how it felt to them when your warships came way too close to their nautical boundary.

     People will allow pride to prevent themselves from sitting down with the offender and negotiate a cease-fire. The fear of appearing weak doesn't appeal to them. Choosing not to just go to war isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of true strength, resiliency, and intelligence. Building alliances will increase national favor with other countries and build a reputation for being a beneficial ally. Your partner will most likely learn from and be more thoughtful and considerate with their actions in this manner, as opposed to having 40mm warning shots fired across the bow of his missile cruiser.

     Going to battle is different from revenge only in the sense that the intent is more for teaching a lesson than anger, spite, or wanting to cause pain or misery. They don't want to go to war with you, but they want you to know how it feels to be brought to the brink. People will choose to battle over peace talks because they feel it's the best way to get someone to understand them better. They feel it'll motivate the other person to do or act better, according to what THEY want. They'll use the lesson to get something they want. The offense may have been accidental or done out of absent-minded inconsideration; you're going into battle to prove yourself is an intentional response to a possible lack in judgment; they just didn't think it was a big damn deal.

     One of the drawbacks of going to war with someone over-communicating is it can lead to a larger issue than it should be; retaliation from the initial offender, or even a breakup. You could end up doing something you'll regret, have to apologize for, or even admit to, and deal with the consequences if you happen to fire at your partner after hearing an engine backfire.

     What happens when you choose to go to war under false pretenses? Someone THOUGHT they saw your partner doing something they shouldn't have been doing? Instead of sitting down for peace talks, you chose to strike first and ask questions after the battle has started, only to find out a third-world country infiltrated your borders and executed an act of sabotage, assassination, or terrorism? Someone else in your life was seeking revenge against you for ending foreign trade or raised import/export taxes. You feel the only way to avoid looking weak is to execute a pre-emptive strike against your partner, who has no idea what's going on. You fucked around because some told you they saw your partner fucking around, so you decided to return the favor to teach them a lesson, only to find out you were furnished with bad intel; now what?

     Choosing to go to battle instead of communicating shows your strength, and you won't be taken advantage of; you are not a nation to be fucked with. You're a superpower and you have the tools, troops, and weapons to defend your borders and you're not afraid to use them. Your nation's flag WILL be respected and feared. You will absolutely NOT be made to be a fool.

     Going to war won't fix anything; it shows a shitty side of yourself. It's pointless and childish. It'll definitely give your partner second thoughts about being completely honest with you going forward. 

     Going to war or trying to teach someone a lesson is to avoid communicating your feelings, your needs, or the pain someone's actions actually caused. It'll prevent people from dealing with the issue at hand; even at the risk of creating a much bigger issue. Trying to teach someone a lesson is a way to show or exert control or superiority; to humiliate or embarrass your partner. You feel it's the only way they'll learn to treat you better or show you the appreciation you believe you deserve. Whatever the reason, going to war has only one truth; there's always a loser, never a victor


     An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. As a society, we depend on the mythical entity called karma to avenge wrongdoings directed towards us by others. But do we wish karma on those we share a romantic connection or relationship with? Of course, when it comes to cheating, the answer would be a resounding, "Yes," but what about the lesser infractions that only cause ripples in the cohesion of the relationship? Want karma to step in maybe a little more over-the-top in most of those cases. Praying to the karma gods for vengeance may not be the intent, but they need to teach someone a lesson or show someone how it feels to be treated a certain way is not too far from being the same.

     In the case of a much milder offense, you have to ask yourself and decide if the action was intentional the result of inconsideration or lack of thought vs. malicious intent. Did the offender purposely say or do something to stir a negative reaction from you, or was it the result of an honest mistake or they just didn't think it was a big deal and they assume it wouldn't be one to you.

     This whole concept of, "Since you did it, I should be able to do it too!" It is a game, nothing more; stupid-ass game grownups play for whatever reason they feel is necessary. You spent $150 on something, so they did too, just to teach you a lesson. You went out to the club with your friends, so they did too, even though they fucking hate the club; they just did it because you did. You said or did something that hurt their feelings, so it's only fair that they get to do it right back. You checked out some woman at the mall and made a comment about her shoes, and you decided to point out some guy's muscles, trying to show them how it feels. The truth about this game is that it just may come back to bite you in the ass.

     To the offender, How would you feel if your partner did some of the things YOU did, thinking it wasn't a big deal? You stare at and comment about other men or women in front of them. When you go out with your friends, you flirt with other men or women; you buy drinks or dance up too damn close. You take money from your home and family and stuff the underwear of strippers or get lap dances. You hang out with members of the opposite sex without your partner. You go through their phones and social media, but you keep your shit hidden or locked. You bring up their past every chance you get. You don't call or return calls or texts. You withholding sex, trying to get something you want, or as a punishment.

     When people feel that karma maybe a little too harsh, they'll refer to a lesser form of retribution I refer to as, "Taking someone to battle" The truth is no matter which way you slice it, it's STILL revenge; plain, old-fashioned revenge. Someone said or did something you didn't like, and now you want to show them how it feels; instead of sitting down and telling that person how their words or actions made you feel. You chose to go to war instead. They fired a shot at you, so HAVE to fire one back. They may have accidentally flown too close to your airspace during a patrol, so you HAVE to return the favor. People feel as if they need to battle in order to show they're not afraid to go to war with you or how it felt to them when your warships came way too close to their nautical boundary.

     People will allow pride to prevent themselves from sitting down with the offender and negotiate a cease-fire. The fear of appearing weak doesn't appeal to them. Choosing not to just go to war isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of true strength, resiliency, and intelligence. Building alliances will increase national favor with other countries and build a reputation for being a beneficial ally. Your partner will most likely learn from and be more thoughtful and considerate with their actions in this manner, as opposed to having 40mm warning shots fired across the bow of his missile cruiser.

     Going to battle is different from revenge only in the sense that the intent is more for teaching a lesson than anger, spite, or wanting to cause pain or misery. They don't want to go to war with you, but they want you to know how it feels to be brought to the brink. People will choose to battle over peace talks because they feel it's the best way to get someone to understand them better. They feel it'll motivate the other person to do or act better, according to what THEY want. They'll use the lesson to get something they want. The offense may have been accidental or done out of absent-minded inconsideration; you're going into battle to prove yourself is an intentional response to a possible lack in judgment; they just didn't think it was a big damn deal.

     One of the drawbacks of going to war with someone over-communicating is it can lead to a larger issue than it should be; retaliation from the initial offender, or even a breakup. You could end up doing something you'll regret, have to apologize for, or even admit to, and deal with the consequences if you happen to fire at your partner after hearing an engine backfire.

     What happens when you choose to go to war under false pretenses? Someone THOUGHT they saw your partner doing something they shouldn't have been doing? Instead of sitting down for peace talks, you chose to strike first and ask questions after the battle has started, only to find out a third-world country infiltrated your borders and executed an act of sabotage, assassination, or terrorism? Someone else in your life was seeking revenge against you for ending foreign trade or raised import/export taxes. You feel the only way to avoid looking weak is to execute a pre-emptive strike against your partner, who has no idea what's going on. You fucked around because some told you they saw your partner fucking around, so you decided to return the favor to teach them a lesson, only to find out you were furnished with bad intel; now what?

     Choosing to go to battle instead of communicating shows your strength, and you won't be taken advantage of; you are not a nation to be fucked with. You're a superpower and you have the tools, troops, and weapons to defend your borders and you're not afraid to use them. Your nation's flag WILL be respected and feared. You will absolutely NOT be made to be a fool.

     Going to war won't fix anything; it shows a shitty side of yourself. It's pointless and childish. It'll definitely give your partner second thoughts about being completely honest with you going forward. 

     Going to war or trying to teach someone a lesson is to avoid communicating your feelings, your needs, or the pain someone's actions actually caused. It'll prevent people from dealing with the issue at hand; even at the risk of creating a much bigger issue. Trying to teach someone a lesson is a way to show or exert control or superiority; to humiliate or embarrass your partner. You feel it's the only way they'll learn to treat you better or show you the appreciation you believe you deserve. Whatever the reason, going to war has only one truth; there's always a loser, never a victor


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Nov 3, 2019


     Certain things are best left in the realm of the imagination, especially when it comes to sex. What could seem like the hottest thing in your head could actually be the nastiest reality you could ever imagine. Throw porn in the mix, and you're asking for some potential shot that could fuck your head up and turn your stomach in a fucking knot. Stop to think about half the shit we've seen in movies or heard our friends talk about their personal experiences. Truth is half of its straight bullshit, a quarter of it is embellished, and the remaining portion is questionable fucking behavior people hope never gets out in the open.

     For example, Jim and Ted go out for the night, and they meet Lisa. She's a real party girl who's had a few too many and before long, is out on the dance floor, grinding up on both of them. After shoving her tongue in the mouths of both guys, they're convinced they can get her home and tag-team her, which will be something they can brag about for years to come. The next morning, after dropping Lisa back off at her car, they head out to breakfast to celebrate their unforgettable night. As they wait for their food to come, here's what they didn't realize until just then.

     Even though their fantasy night went as planned, and Lisa fucked them both, one of them went second. In the case of double penetration, both oral and vaginal, Jim came in her mouth, and she swallowed his load. Ted came inside her, and neither was wearing a condom. When the switched positions, she began kissing Ted before going down on him, and Jim bent her over and pushed his meat inside her. As the first forkful of pancakes was rolling around his open mouth, Ted suddenly realized he was kissing a woman who had his friend's cum in her mouth; not only that, but since Jim went second, his dick was covered in his best friend's cum. Now, they're both sitting to breakfast with each other's sexual fluid on their dicks.

     Even if there were condoms involved, just the thought of kissing a woman who had another man's dick in her mouth, the night before, she could've had her man's dick in her mouth, If not the previous night when she got drunk and met someone else. Having sex with a man she just met could've still had HD his woman's pussy on his dick when she took him in his mouth or rode him in the front seat of his car.

     Whether man or woman, no matter the situation, certain situations need to be realized. When you hook up with someone you just met on impulse, you're not the first person they've done that with. You may not even be the first person they've done that with that week. You don't know if they have an STD. In the case of Jim and Ted, men don't discuss if they're carrying an STD.



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Oct 27, 2019


     The "Macho" mentality. While I believe men should ALWAYS carry themselves like REAL men, it's funny as hell when guys go overboard when it comes to flexing their masculinity, especially how they want to be seen by women and their friends. I don't think some guys know what a man being is about, except for what they see on TV, or think society expects from them. Funny is really the only way to explain how we act when we're trying to be tougher and more manly than we really are, or when trying to display courage and bravado when our image or manhood may be challenged or under scrutiny.

- Men think they spend more money when they have a woman in their lives. The truth is men spend more money when they're single. Between dating, trying to impress women, wining and dining, buying nice clothes, jewelry, etc. When men are in relationships, those aspects are no longer an issue; they actually spend LESS money. Their focus shifts from spending more to EARNING more, thinking he's going to have to maintain the tempo and image he's set for himself during the dating process, whether the woman expects this or not.

- A man will fall, break his arm, and push through it like nothing. He'll break his leg and hike down the trail to the nearest sign of help, 2 miles away. Dislocate his shoulder, and he'll put that shit right back in place himself against a door frame. He'll slice his hand wide open and sew it back together with super glue or fishing line. Let that same man get a cold, and he'll turn into a bitch; a deep-fried, cornmeal coated, served with coleslaw and baked macaroni bitch.

- Men believe their masculinity is defined by how much he drinks or CAN drink. "Drinking someone under the table" is a source of pride for men, which a lot of times will lead to them saying or doing questionable shit, resulting in alcohol-related health issues, his ass getting kicked severely, DUI, or getting himself in a situation with a young lady he shouldn't be in the next morning when she can't remember giving her consent to sex.

- Men believe REAL men drive fast. The stereotype has always been that women are bad drivers. Men think wherever they're going is more important than anyone else, and you need to get out of their way. They'll pull up and ride the bumper of the driver in front of them, trying to force others to drive faster than the speed limit, just because they want to go faster. Go fuck yourself!

- REAL men don't have mental or psychological issues. Depression. Self-loathing. Anxiety. Phobias. A small issue that could be dealt with by just talking to someone is seen as being weak. Those same issues can be compounded over time, resulting in the evolution of those issues or even more, just to be ignored. The cycle will continue until the worst-case scenarios come to fruition.

- REAL men don't have time for vegetables, except potatoes. The over-consumption of red meat can lead to a host of medical issues, including high blood pressure, cholesterol, heart disease, and stroke. Typical, "Man foods" can't be the staple ingredient in any diet; the requirement of fruits and vegetables is also EXTREMELY important!

- Men believe they have to sleep with lots of women in order to prove their manhood. His masculinity is defined by how much sex he's had or can get whenever he wants it. The drawback? HIV. AIDS. Men are at higher risk for STDs/STI's than women. Men feel sex isn't the same when using a condom, so they'll assume some random hook up is just as clean as he THINKS he is. Women are more likely to get tested for diseases than men who feel they're too invincible to catch anything.

- Macho men will hit the gym with a, "Go hard or keep your ass at home" mentality. They'll add extra weight on the bench, just to match the guy next to him. They'll push themselves FAR past their limits or capabilities to display their manhood or turn up the treadmill to the max, just to impress the woman running next to him. The risk of injury is a backburner thought until he trips, falls down, and shoots off the back like a fucking circus cannoneer.

- A REAL man won't back down, no matter what. Some guys believe they have to fight to send the message they won't be bullied or disrespected. The thought of walking away from a confrontation doesn't even cross his mind, especially when/if fueled by alcohol. The drawback; being arrested, getting fucked up or dying. At the very least, you risk losing your friends because they never want to hang out with you anymore or your relationship because you're a fucking embarrassment, especially if he starts the fight and gets beat up.

- A man will use, "Being a guy" as a rationalization when he's caught, checking out another woman when he's with his lady.

- Men take it harder than a prison-style gangbang in the shower with no lubrication if he's not the best at everything he does. He won't try anything new. His addiction to victory will cause others to exclude him from being invited to play a simple, friendly game of basketball or flag football with the guys because he acts like he's playing in the professional league championship game. What's worse for him is if he loses, especially to his woman. He won't give her credit for doing well; instead, he'll sulk, ridicule, and make her feel like crap for doing her best. He'll expect her to play beneath her capabilities in order to make sure he wins as to not jeopardize his masculinity.

- Men believe they should be the big breadwinners of the home. In this modern time, the expectation of the man going to work and earning enough that his woman should stay home has never been more ridiculous. The dual-income family dynamic is essential for survival. The macho man will see himself as less than a man if his partner brings home a bigger paycheck, and his delusion will convince him his friends see him as a failure. The truth is, unless the macho man is friends with nothing but other macho men, his friends could care less who makes more money in his home.

- Macho men won't communicate or share their feelings. That doesn't mean crying at a movie or saying, "I love you" after every conversation, but it does refer to understanding what his needs are to contribute to healthy friendships and relationships. Communicating his needs is just as important as understanding his partner's needs and meeting them. A man can't meet HER needs if he can't even recognize his own.

- Macho men feel they need to be, "Super macho" when with their girlfriends. Not so much relating to married men, because a wife knows whether or not she's married to a true man or a lightly-powdered baby bitch. A macho man will walk by someone and bump into them. He'll continue walking, without saying, "Excuse me," leaving his lady to apologize for him, which doesn't mean shit. The result? That macho guy being confronted or having his ass kicked, just for trying to be a tough guy. At the every least, everyone who witnessed the event now knows he's an asshole.

- A macho man would act like he could care less if his lady walked out during an argument. He'll put on his "Fuck off" armor and tell her he's sick of her shit and better off without her. He'll preach to her about all the other women who want him, and she should be grateful he chose her. She'll return the sentiment as she heads for the door, and he'll flop down on the couch, grab the remote, and act like she doesn't exist. He'll look up on more time and ask, "Are you still here?" As soon as the door closes behind her, he'll transform into a fetus, a light-pink, cashmere sweater-wearing, love-song singing heap of what once resembled a man, crying like an infant dinosaur, longing for the return of his mother from hunting for food.

- Macho men won't admit they're afraid. Not the type of fear associated with a horror movie or walking outside in the deep woods at night, but the type of realistic fear people is exposed to regularly. Fear of failure. Phobias. Insecurities. Being alone. Fear of death. Fear of mortality. Fear of not meeting the expectations of others. Fear of communicating that fear alienates the macho man from his friends and loved ones who could potientially be his support system.

- The macho man won't commit to a relationship, no matter how great the woman is or how well she treats him. They make the best couple, much to the envy of most of their friends. He'll want to, though, he'll spend as much time with her as possible, exhibiting almost every "relationship" amenity, trait, and behavior, but will also leave her absolutely ambiguous as to where they stand with each other. He's convinced he'll miss out on something else out there. In HIS mind when he's single, it's harder than hell to find someone. As soon as he's in a relationship, it seems women come out of the woodwork, corners, shadows, and everywhere in between; they all seem to be smiling, waving, making eye contact, checking out, and flirting with him. Why does this phenomenon even exist?

     The answer's pretty simple. It's all in his head. When he's single, he pays more attention to women, and he's most likely approaching them as the arrogant, "Macho man" he believes he is, which turns women away and sends them running for the nearest exit. When in a relationship, unless he's a 100% farm-fresh, cage-free, organic assbag, he won't exhibit that behavior. What WILL happen is women will, of course, notice him if he's an attractive man, but every smile, playful flirt, or instance of eye contact doesn't mean she's interested. She could be merely a friendly person, or someone being civil, initiating small talk while waiting in line, or saying hello. To the macho man, though, every woman who looks his way wants him.

     Men care about how others see him; he always wants to be right, in control, and believes he's earned the right to be a leader of the pack. Anything less is unacceptable in his eyes. He won't ask for help, believing assistance is a sign of weakness. He has to be loud, boisterous, and forceful. Everyone has to know he's the man. Their impression of being an "Alpha male" means being an asshole, calling all the shots, & making decisions for everyone. While there's a definite attraction to a confident and secure man, there's a clear line between confidence and macho, the latter of which costs so much more than any guy should be willing to pay.


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Oct 20, 2019


     One of the stages of the end of a relationship is letting go of the emotional attachment you may have with that person. Whether you agree or not, that also includes their family, and more importantly, their children. That holds even truer when one or both is trying to begin a new relationship.

     If you're at the point where you're getting to know someone else or cultivate a new relationship, there's no reason you should expect or try to maintain a relationship with your ex's family or children. If you're not ready to do that, you're not ready to interact with or be with anyone. No matter what the new partner says, trust me, they have an issue with it. They may not in the beginning, but as your relationship grows, they will. The only man who WON'T have an issue with the new woman in his life, keeping a relationship with the family or children of her ex is a man just looking for a piece of ass.

     There's absolutely no reason to try and continue to keep a relationship with the children of your ex. After the relationship is over, moving on is essential to the healing process. It makes it seem as if you're trying to maintain the relationship with your ex and keep them in your life. Trying to rationalize or defend your relationship is even worse. Using the tenure or obligation to the family or children may make sense to you, but expecting your new partner to accept it is not only ridiculous but downright ignorant and disrespectful on your part.

     Why would you think your new partner would be okay with you keeping in contact with your ex about their kids? Yeah, it made be hard and emotionally taxing to make that break, but that's a break that needs to happen nonetheless. Would you be okay if YOUR present partner was still going to family reunions, birthday parties, or other special events? Would you go with them? Would you expect to? Wouldn't you feel stupid as fuck eating cake at a birthday party for the child of your partner's ex and they're there? Would you be okay with their ex still calling, the two them talking and laughing about something his/her kids did or said? What about when they want to bring that other person's kids to their home, or the home you now share? What about an anniversary? Do you believe Ted's okay with Sarah going to her ex's home for his parent's 30th wedding anniversary dinner? Would Sarah be cool with Ted going on a weekend trip with his ex and her family? Fuck no!

     When they're older and can make their own decision to keep in contact is one thing; children of an ex can continue that relationship without the involvement of your ex, but if they're still young, you have no business reaching out to your ex about his/her children. Going to parties, cookouts with their family, etc. won't be accepted well, and it'll become an issue for every future relationship you hope to have. The fact of the matter is at some point, Sarah's going to be in the same room as Ted, his ex and HER new man, as well as the kid's mother, and possibly another, "Baby-mama" if he has kids by more than one woman. That's three other women involved with Ted staying in contact with his ex's kids.

     The fact of the matter is trying to maintain a close relationship with children or family of your ex is a dumb goal or expectation to have. It's not entirely for the welfare of the children; it's mainly for yourself. Your obligation is only about 30%-40% about the children; the rest is about you. You spent time around those kids, raised them as if they were your own, and now you have to let them go, and you're not ready to do that. If that's the case, you're not ready to move on to a new relationship. It's not about the children; your involvement in their lives keeps the children from forming a relationship with the new person in their parent's life. The fact that someone else is taking your place hurts like hell, and you hide behind wanting what's best for the children as a shield to remain relevant to them. If their best interest and happiness really your main concern, then you'll allow them to miss you and move on. When all else fails, if the ex doesn't want you around, that's it, walk away.


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Oct 13, 2019


     Your boys are your boys, your hangout partners. The group you hit the strip club or the sports bar with. The guys you grew up with or met along the way, and you just clicked as a unit. You can be who you are, act immature as hell with, or scream at the television when the referee makes a bad call. Your boys don't judge you, expect much from you, and accept you, flaws and all. They tell you when you're acting like an ass or when you're right on the money. You can be both silly and dirty as hell, talk about women, and things you'd do if you had the chance.

     Your lady is your lady, the woman you spend your romantic time with. The woman you go out with and show a side to your personality that your boys don't see because that's not what they're for. When that line gets blurred, things can get complicated.

     Normally, getting along with their friends is more of a concern for or importance for women, for most men, as long as his boys show her respect, that's good enough for him. Sometimes, a woman will want to be and attempt to be, "One of the guys."

     I can't speak for anyone else, but my lady is my lady, not one of the boys; I don't WANT my lady to be one of the boys, and I don't NEED her to be either. Your lady shouldn't be so close to being one of the guys that she can't be a lady. Your boys have a different place in your life, and so does your lady; there's nothing wrong with being able to hang out together and you want your friends and your woman to get along, but not where they're so similar in behavior and how they interact or react to each other. That's how things can potentially be disastrous for your relationship.

     When your lady's hanging out with your boys, she hanging out with other men; they're just men you already know. At least one of them has or will eventually find themselves attracted to your lady, whether it be physically, emotionally, or sexually. On the other hand, Your lady may be spending so much time with you and your boys she's thought the same about one of YOUR friends. You're so busy, "Kicking it with the guys," you're too blind to see what's going on right in front of your face.

     Why would a man want to treat his lady like one of his friends? To downplay their relationship. In public, because he wants to appear single when other women are around. When he feels he may have a chance with somebody else that catches his eye. As long as they don't think he's in a serious relationship, he can claim his lady as, "Just a friend" or, "Nothing that serious." He'll be ambiguous in private because he's not ready to give up his freedom or his other women. As long as she's giving up the ass, or is available to be his lady at HIS convenience, he's just fine with that. He'll have his boys interact with her as if she's one of them to confuse other women who were maybe checking him out or vice-versa. That put's him an optimal position to downplay his relationship with his lady.

     A man wants his lady to be one of the guys to keep her in limbo, avoiding the actual depth of their relationship. He'll act like they're together when he needs to, but never confirm or deny it to her or another woman; he'll continue to allow her to think whatever she thinks they are. When other men ask, she's your lady; when other women ask, it's "complicated," or he'll claim her as one of the guys.

     A female wants to be one of the guys to keep tabs on her man. She wants to be included in everything he does. Any free time should be obligated to their time together; otherwise, he's doing dirty shit behind her back. Being one of the guys also allows her to evaluate his friends, who she's okay or not okay with him hanging out with when she's not around. She can use her, "Guy" status" to keep her friends in the loop about how their men act when they're not around for them. What she doesn't get is that even though they treat her like one of the guys, they still know she's a woman who's obligated to her own friends, and they'll STILL be on their best behavior, just like her man will. She'll NEVER see how they really are when their women aren't around.

     A woman may use being one of the guys to make a patient, calculated move on one of his friends. She may have heard about how one of them is in bed or by experience knows him to be a great guy, possibly better than her man. She's tired of being left in limbo or convenience and wants more. That good man won't mess with her because he's a good man.

     Eventually, the lines will get blurred to the point where women will jump back and forth between friends and lovers. One of them will go too far and say or do something inappropriate and wonder why they got upset. Sooner or later, they'll get frustrated because you always want to be around, and they can't get any time for themselves. She'll complain there's no romance; that's because she's struggled so hard to be one of the guys, that's how he sees you now. Your friends won't want you or your lady around because they know she'll run back and snitch on them. Your boys won't say anything to you about it, but they will talk among themselves. There will be that one friend who'll defend her being around, and that's the guy ho wants to date or fuck your lady.

     There's nothing wrong with a woman getting along with her man's friends, but trying to be included in their normal activities tells him you don't trust him, you don't or can't have your own identity, or she wants to take advantage of a pool of men you won't be suspicious about. A man will push his woman to be one of the guys in order to downplay his relationship with her but still keep her around in case he's in a dating slump. Your boys are you boys; your lady is your lady. They have their own place and time with you. Your lady's friends don't want you around all the time, and I don't think a man would even WANT to be considered, "One of the girls."


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Oct 6, 2019


     We like who we like, and that's no one's business or concern; but it does get fucked up when the reason we go after someone is less than physical, mental, or emotional attraction. Some times people choose a certain type of person, for an ulterior motive, other than just sex. Society wants to blame men a lot of the time for doing dirty shit to women and fucking their heads up to the point where they become so guarded, a good man's in for a hell of an adventure, trying to prove his sincerity. But what about the women who do the same?

     Yes, there are men out there who ain't about shit, but what they can get There are women out there who ain't about shit. There are hot, smooth-talking, gold-digging opportunists of both genders, all races, colors, who choose to be with someone, based primarily on what they can get or what the other person has to offer; and that's just fucked up to do to someone, and fucked up to have happened.

     The one thing I'm going to touch on in this article is why some white women choose black men when the attraction isn't the first thing on their minds. Not to say they won't find him attractive, but there's also an underlying reason or reasons they've chosen to pursue an interracial relationship for the first time.

     Yeah, she likes him and thinks he's hot; but why now? During or after 4 years of high school, even in middle school, some white women may have had a crush on a basketball or football player, or maybe somebody in the band or even the math club, but the thought of dating him or even admitting to her friends that she like him seemed, "Off-limits" or unacceptable. The thought of her family or friends not accepting or condemning her for wanting to pursue him, even if he asked her out, put her in a weird frame of mind. She may have known there were people in her family or social circle who'd be less than thrilled to see her with someone of a darker skin tone, so she avoided the situation entirely. Now that she's older, and possibly on her own, she has no one to answer to, but for some reason, can't let go of that childhood or younger adult mentality when it comes to wanting to be with/date her first black man.

- THE EXPERIMENT. Curiosity. They want to see what's it's like. They're curious as to how people will react to them being in public together. They've heard the stories about how black women react, and they want to see it for themselves. They're curious as to how and what their friends and family will say or interact with him/them.

- THE SEX. Everyone's heard or knows the stereotypes associated with black men; the sex is better, or they have bigger dicks. White men only care about busting a nut where black men want to, "Beat it up," "Break your back," or dehydrate you. They want to fuck you so good you'll tell your friends so they'll want to get some dick. They've heard all the rumors and want to see how many are true.

- THE EXPERIENCE. Dating or fucking a black man's on their "Bucket list." It's something easy to cross off before getting serious and settling down with a nice white guy and beginning her pursuit of the big house, 2-car garage, white picket fence in the suburbs fantasy. They treat it like a right of passage before marriage.

- THE DEFIANT ACT. What better way to piss off her racist ex-boyfriend or parents if the next guy they see her with is the last person they'd expect or the first person they'd hate? She's grown and out of the house, but she STILL has some of the Spoiled little girl" inside of her who wants to show her independence to her parents. The thought of making that man uncomfortable as fuck during Holiday dinner at their house means nothing as long as she gets the satisfaction of seeing how much it fucks up her parent's head that they no longer can threaten her with not paying for her car, college, or whatever else if she ever brought home a black man.

- SHOCK VALUE. Some women enjoy the thrill of pushing the envelope, the "Shock and Awe" mentality. They're always looking for the next thing to create drama, start rumors and gossip, or be the center of attention. Showing up for family dinner or happy hour with someone they're least expected to associate with. It's no different than two women out on the dance floor, rubbing and grinding on each other or making out in front of a group of horny guys, cheering them on; it's all about the shock value. They know it's going to cause ripples and waves.

- THE TROPHY. "Look what I did!" or, "Look what I got." Just like taking off from work, spending a half-day in line, just to be the first in your group to have the latest phone or gadget to hit the market, they want to be the first in the group to have a black man. And just like that new electronic marvel they unnecessarily spent way too much money for, they'll want to show it off to any and everyone they can. He's an expensive accessory, a purse, a pair of designer jeans or heels worn by some famous celebrity. She'll rub him in the face of all her friends that she has one and they don't

- REVENGE. She got cheated on. Her ex-boyfriend or husband never appreciated her. Even though they're the same age, she got too old for him. His friends or porn convinced him he deserves someone smaller and younger. He criticized her figure and her weight; she was 115 pounds when they met four years ago, and now she's pushing 140-150 with thick thighs, hips, tits, and ass. He thought the grass would be greener on the other side. Imagine how he'll feel when he sees her with a black man who's all about her curves and how she's rocking the fuck out of that short, low-cut, fitted black dress, grinding and rubbing that thick ass on his dick. She knows he's racist, and posting pictures of and fucking a black man after their breakup is the ultimate revenge.

- THE SAVIOR. She enjoys having someone to take care of. Even though he's a freeloading shitbag who doesn't want to work, she'll take care of him because she feels validated when she has someone dependent on her. "He's just had a hard life and some bad breaks" He's got five kids he doesn't even think about; he has all these plans, but no action. He's an "Entrepreneur" He wants to be a rapper. He has no motivation or drives to get away from his fast-food job; hell, he doesn't even have any aspirations of moving up to management. He's a charity case and her good deed to brag about to her friends and family. He's her community outreach project.

     Not to say ALL or even a majority of white women have any of these reasons in their minds; nor am I condemning interracial relationships in the least bit. This situation isn't limited to just white women and black men; it can refer to ANY racially or ethnically diverse relationships. It's just been my own experience where I've seen it more in the white woman/black man dynamic than any other.

     With the same mentality as some women have as soon as they turn 18, one of their first and quickest acts of defiance against their parents' wishes is to run out and get a tattoo. Their message is simple; they're grown now, they don't need anyone to sign anything to let them do what they want. They don't have to hide their cigarettes anymore, and they're sitting on the kitchen counter, right next to the keys to the car their parents still pay for. They're sick of their friends trying to fix them up with guys THEY want to see them with, and these women want to send a clear message that's it's THEIR choice now, so back the fuck off. 


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Sept 29, 2019


     Technology. From shopping online to paying bills, even finding love. We rely on technology to make as much of our everyday life as easy as possible. Technology is ever-evolving and improving; sooner or later, we may not even have to leave our homes, we can send our clone or a robotic version of ourselves out into the world. Until then, there still are things we have to do for ourselves. Technology isn't an individual venture; it's what's in the best interest of the majority, but I still think there are some things that need to be invented for those of us who are just little bit different.

- DUAL GLAUCOMA TESTER/BLOWER - I think we've all been in the situation where we HATED going to get our eyes checked. Why can't they invent the machine that blows the air in BOTH eyes and take a picture or something so the optician can analyze them? We all know how hard it is to keep that other eye open after that gust of air fucked us up the first time. And the faces we make in anticipation of that second burst of air? Damn!

- FAKE ORGASM DETECTOR - Women don't have to ask, because most men are pretty obvious about it. Men like to think we're handling our business in the bedroom, but the truth is, some of us aren't, and we sound kinda lame, asking the woman if she's had an orgasm. Wouldn't it be cool if there was a device that told us the truth? Especially when it comes to having sex with someone you actually care about, we know you're not going to intentionally say some shit to fuck our head up, so why not skip the curiosity or obligation to fake?

- 10-15 MINUTE BABY MAMA/DADDY TEST STRIP - There's no need to go to a separate testing facility to get a drug test for a new job anymore. Parents have been doing it for years; buy and use, "At-home" drug tests. Putting a tab under your tongue or pissing on a stick tells you if your kids a druggie; the need for a similar parental identification testing device couldn't be in more demand than right now. I wonder what type of damage would that cause for the tabloid-style talk shows that focus on the, "You ARE/are NOT the father" craze?

- EMERGENCY BODY ODOR/DEODORANT STRIPS - I can't be only one who's ever walked out the house, got halfway to work, the club, or on a date and realized I forgot to put on deodorant. Would it be nice as hell to be able to swing by the gas station and snag a 5-pack of dissolving antiperspirant/deodorant strips you can put under your arms to fight the stank? Just don't get them confused with you fresh breath strips!!!

- TOILET THAT ACCOMMODATES A BIG DICK AND A BONER - Some people don't understand the balancing act. When using a public toilet, some of us have to stick our hand in the toilet to hold our dick down; otherwise, we'll end up pissing just over the seat either on the floor or even worse, the back of our pants. Also, we have to keep the tip of our dicks from making contact with the underside of the front of the bowl, which is just fucking gross by the thought. If the bowl were just an inch longer, it would be a hell of a lot more comfortable to use.

- AWAY TO BENCH PRESS WITH A BONER - It has absolutely nothing to do with anything sexual; sometimes when working out, a guy gets hard. It's no different than women when they're, "Headlights" is shining like stadium spotlights. Just because a woman's nipples are practically tearing through her top, doesn't mean she's turned on in any way, shape, or form. It could be nothing more than she's cold. Nevertheless, it's a weird situation to be in, especially when you know others have notice and get the wrong idea of why it's happening.

- SPORTS BRA FOR WOMEN WITH LARGER BREASTS - Only those women who had to cross their arms when running can understand this one. Trust me when I tell you the amount of cleavage she's showing or the amount of bounce in her chest is not on purpose, nor does it have anything to do with trying to get anyone's attention. They just don't make much for women with large breasts that actually provide comfort, support, or effective results.

- WIDER TOILET SEATS FOR BIGGER HIPS AND ASS - Trying to balance thicker hips and an ass on a regular seat can be uncomfortable as hell; factor in those rare times a woman will come across a toilet that isn't properly bolted or secured to the floor, nothing will make her more nervous than that feeling when the toilet tips or tilts to one side. Eighteen inches of hips and ass past the seat on either side will freak the fuck out or anyone.

- PANTS WITH REINFORCED BACK BELT LOOPS - Again, only people with wider/thicker hips or backside can understand the need for this. There are women who are extremely gifted in these areas, and their pants naturally are hanging up in the back, just by, "Belt-to-loop" contact. It only takes a while before the natural wearing of the pants tears that back belt loop, causing them to drop low enough to show her underwear. Women who don't have this issue will talk shit, but there's really nothing to be done about it, besides immediately taking her pants to have the rear loops reinforced after purchase. The same goes for most of her shirts/tops. While it's not her intent to show off the amount of cleavage she does, but expecting her to wear sweaters and turtlenecks all year round is also stupid. It's even worse when they know they can't have a conversation with a man without having their tits stared at.

- HAVING TO ADJUST FOR COMFORT - Having your junk sticking to your leg. How about getting a boner when your shit already tilting downward? You don't want it to snap off at the base, so how about a cross between boxers AND boxer/briefs to where it doesn't look so weird when you're trying to shift your shit, so it doesn't hurt? People are staring at you like a sexual deviant when you have to stick your hand in your pants and move your shit around to get comfortable.

- COOLING PAD FOR YOUR HOT CAR SEAT - How about a cooling pad that doesn't require your seat being wet when you sit on it but keeps you from sitting down in your car and burning your balls?

- PUSH-UP OR PADDED BRA INDICATOR - It's so irritating when you get to the checkout and find out the great deal you just found on a television set was mismarked and is actually more than the price on the shelf. Of course, you're going to want it for the price advertised because you were under the impression that's how much it costs. You expect the pricing to be accurate, so what makes you think the same wouldn't apply when it comes to a woman's body? You'd criticize a man for putting a sock in his front pocket to make his shit look bigger, so why's it different when you want your tits to look bigger or perkier than they really are? Sooner or later, we're going to find out your DD cup is actually a C cup, so why not be honest about it from the start?

- MUSCLE SHIRTS - How about a shirt that allows scrawny guys to feel bigger than they are, and in the same way, prevents the bigger guys from flashing they are sweaty, "Side-boob" action, thinking there's nothing disgusting about that shit?

- ANTI-PINCH TOILET SEAT - Show me a guy who's never sat on a loose toilet seat and have it slide to one side and pinch the tip of his dick and I'll show you a guy who's never sat on a toilet seat.

- CHEAP YOGA PANTS - This isn't something we NEED, this is something need to get rid of. Yeah, it may look nice to see a plump, round, or tight ass in those cheaper retail store yoga pants, because they're pretty much see-through, but realize if you can see through the back and you're not wearing underwear, you can see through the front also. Plus, some women just look fucking gross in those pants. Please, on all that's good and pure, stop making these pants in larger sizes for big ass women!

- SCENTED PRE-SEX WIPES - Just like a man, even if he showers right before going out for the night, he might not smell fresh-out-the-shower by the time you get back to his place for some lovin'. Women have the same issue, no matter how clean they are. Not saying they stink, but the idea of a quick, fresh-scented pre-sex wipe might be a great solution to this.

- NOISE-canceling PARABOLIC-TYPE MICROPHONES - What if women in the club could hear what men say about them or call them right before approaching? What if men could hear what women REALLY say/think about them after they've walked away? When a group of guys is standing around, planning their pickup strategy, or women are pointing and staring; are they checking you out, or talking shit about you, curious minds would like to know.

- PERSONAL SELFIE/VIDEO SCRAMBLER - No one says you can't take pictures of yourself or videos of you and your friends having the time of your lives, but understand not everyone wants to be in you fucking pictures or in your video for social media. Just because YOU think something is cool and want to share it on your page, doesn't give you the right to invade someone's privacy. Not only is it rude and intrusive, but it's disrespectful to include someone in your picture or your panoramic video without their permission. Especially after they've asked you not to do it, don't get pissed if a confrontation follows. It would be great to have an app on your phone that scrambles your personal space so your privacy can be protected.

- A TOILET DEEP ENOUGH SO THE WATER DOESN'T SPLASH YOUR ASSHOLE - I don't think this needs much explanation. We've all been a victim of this atrocity, and it doesn't get any easier to deal with as it continues to happen.

- MACHINE THAT TELLS YOU WHAT TYPE OF FART/SHIT YOU'RE ABOUT TO HAVE - This device would be worth its weight in gold. Success favors the prepared soul.

- OUTFIT APP - Why can't there be an app where you could take a photo of what you're wearing out for the night, and your friends can anonymously comment on whether or not you should buy or wear what you've chosen? Chances are they'll be more open, to tell the truth, if they could get away with it.

- PRE STD TEST - How about a test strip you could pee on and find out if the one-night stand or first-date fuck you're about to hook up with has some dirty shit in their system? What about a test that tells you if someone ALREADY has something you really don't want?

- ABOUT TO GET CAUGHT CHEATING APP- An application that tells you when your partner's phone is within a certain proximity of yours, alerting you to an impending confrontation.

- SALTY BALL WIPES - Before trying to get head from your lady or someone you just met, it would be respectful to have your shit clean and possible salty-ball free before taking it to the throat. Maybe mint-chocolate, peanut butter, or even bacon and salted caramel would be better.

- ATM TURNSTILES - Some of you have absolutely no fucking concept of personal space; you don't need to be up someneone's ass or practically on their back when it comes to waiting your turn at the ATM or checkout line. Back the fuck up before you get cursed out. Your turn will come when I'm done!

- PERSONALIZED CAR ALARMS - "Get off my shit!" or, "You're way too fucking close to my car!"

- EASIER TO OPEN PLASTIC PRODUCE BAGS - I can't be the only one who has an issue with this!

- BODY SPRAY FOR SMOKERS AND POTHEADS - If you choose to smoke or smoke that shit when your alone or with other smokers, that's your thing; I can respect that. When you go out in public and force everyone else to smell it on you, then you're a fucking asshole who needs to spray right in the fucking face with some sort of refresher-type spray that keeps others from smelling that bullshit!

- SINGLE QUESTION TRUTH SERUM DROPS - It would be nice to know someone's true intentions when they approach you; a guy won't normally just come right out and admit he's just looking for sex. A woman's not going to admit he ain't getting a damn thing if she's looking for someone to get to know.

- TAMPERED DRINK TEST STRIPS - Wanna know if that guy slipped something in the drink he just brought over for you? For one, stop letting men bring you drinks and order them from the bar or waitress, stupid! Just whip out one of these handy-dandy test strips, put a drop of the drink on the tip and if it changes color, follow up with a strategically-place throat punch!

- LIMITED ITEM DRIVE-THRU WINDOWS - You have 3-4 different orders? Not in THIS drive-thru you don't; bring your ass inside.

- JUICE-FRIENDLY TOOTHPASTE - Just brushed your teeth? Watch out for that glass of orange juice! That bite's gonna hit harder than a rattlesnake!

- BODY LANGUAGE TRANSLATOR - It's no secret that most men are horrible when it comes to reading body language, so I'd assume women would love to have a device that made the message behind their gestures more clearly. Although it would be simpler just to tell someone, they're not interested.

- GYM SETTING FOR CELLPHONES - Much like the airplane mode for your phone, there should be an equal option for the gym; it's fucking irritating when someone's sitting on a machine, texting, checking email, talking, searching for the "Perfect song" or social media. Get off the machine and do that shit!


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Q & A VOL. 9

Sept 22, 2019


Q: What does he think when he eats my pussy?

A: Your sister

Q: How do I get him to take me places we've never been to before?

A: He did; remember that tour of the gym you went on the other day?

Q: What does she mean when she says she's not in the mood?

A: You have a tiny dick

Q: How do I know she still loves me?

A: Because you have a tiny dick.

Q: Why's she always so worried about what the couple next door is doing?

A: She hates sharing.

Q: What's his favorite food?

A: Michele.

Q: What's he hiding from me?

A: You.

Q: Why doesn't he have the drive & motivation to have better in life?

A: He does... Why do you think you & your mom are so close all of a sudden?

Q: How do I know it's time for me to go on a diet?

A: Your jeans have stretch marks in them.

Q: What should I make for dinner?

A: Depends... What's left after YOU had lunch?

Q: Would it kill him to hold/kiss me like that?

A: Probably not, but let's not risk it!

Q: Why does he drink so much when he goes out?

A: Because he eventually has to come home.

Q: What's that new cologne he's been wearing for the past month?

A: His Co-Worker, Carlos.

Q: What's that air freshener scent in the car?

A: Michele.

Q: Does he find those porno girls sexier than me?

A: Now, why would he want a sexy porno girl when he has you to fuck?

Q: What do those male strippers have that I don't?

A: HER attraction, YOUR money, and HER mouth.

Q: Ewww... What's that white bitch doing that I'm not?

A: Your man and working out.

Q: Why are so many black men against dating black women?

A: Because they know they'll NEVER be half the man she already is.

Q: How does my lady afford these new clothes?

A: Her husband's a doctor.

Q: What's your man do for work?

A: Heather and Maria.

Q: Mom, why can't we have a dog?

A: Because we already had to pay a pet deposit for your dad.

Q: Dad, don't we still need a hose for washing the car?

A: No, son, we already have your mom and your sister!


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Sept 8, 2019


     We've written and posted a few articles about infidelity here on the dark truth. We've covered many reasons why people choose to be unfaithful instead of simply ending their relationship and moving on; we've also covered a lot of the bullshit that accompanies being caught and the bullshit excuses people come up with to justify their actions. Two of these excuses are such that needs to be explained and addressed in a more in-depth forum, ERECTILE (SEXUAL) DYSFUNCTION and SEXUAL ADDICTION.

     I do believe in E.D. and sexual addiction, but not in the way people have been using it to justify their bullshit actions, such as cheating on their spouse or partner. If you need a prescription to have sex with your lady, but you get hard as a rock watching strippers or porn, you don't have Erectile Dysfunction, you're just not attracted to your partner. A woman who can't get aroused by her man but just the thought of that guy at work or the gym creams your stretch pants; you don't have any medical issues. You're just not attracted to your man anymore. E.D. or Sexual Dysfunction excuse is straight bullshit. Things like age, medications, physical or mental issues or trauma may play a role in a person's inability to have sex, but that also pertains to sex in general, it's not individually specific unless the trauma is linked to the person who's trying to have sex with you.

     Legitimate sexually dysfunctional people are dysfunctional all the way around; it's not something that can or will be selective or individualized to a specific person. People who claim dysfunction to their partner, but have no issues with outside forms of stimulation are assholes. They use S.D. to justify why their sex life is in the shitter, why they're at the strip club every other night, or why they have to go out and meet other men/women; even have sex outside their relationship.

     Sexual addiction is just a chaotic mix of psychology and bullshit. You got caught cheating, and the reason you gave for your actions is that you're addicted to sex. It's funny how you never mentioned it before until AFTER you got caught fucking around. You were too embarrassed to speak up and say something before, but you suddenly dare to admit it now since you got caught with your dick in someone else's cookie jar? Or you're a woman who got caught sucking on another man's ice cream cone? That's fucking ridiculous!

     If your partner wasn't able to meet your sexual needs at the beginning of your relationship, then why did you continue the relationship? Their inabilities would've shown itself early on, so would your so-called, "Addiction"; not after 2-3 years into a relationship or after ten years of marriage.

     An addict wouldn't leave a sure thing at home in search of his addiction of choice and risk not finding it. An alcoholic wouldn't leave a heavily stocked liquor cabinet at his home to walk or drive to the store for liquor unless he was intentionally looking for something different to drink. A drug addict wouldn't leave his home, where he already has the pot, crack, heroin, or meth in his bedroom drawer in search of more unless he WANTED something different. Hell, even a smoker won't go out and buy another carton when he has two at home already, unless he was looking for a different brand to smoke. That being said, a TRUE sex addict won't get dressed, leave their husband, wife, or significant other in search of sex with someone else when they have a guaranteed sexual partner at home.

     An addict's instincts are far too primal to put risk and effort into something that may not even work out for them. That entire idea goes against the whole definition and concept of addiction. To an addict, it's all about the fix; as quickly and as often as possible. They want their addiction of choice to be as readily available at all times.

     A TRUE sex addict won't take the risk of not finding someone to have sex with when it's at home, eager to give it up. They won't/don't have the desire, or patience to put into the preparation, time, effort, or risk into something they may not even find. They are going out, scoping the room until they find what suits their attraction. The approach, the conversation, spending time with and dating someone until they're comfortable enough to have sex? An addict won't do that. Everything else that leads up to the mere possibility of being able to have sex; which may not even happen that night? That's not something an addict will put themselves through. They'll stay at home, and satisfy their addiction with their partner. People who go out, looking for other men or women to fuck when they have it readily available at home aren't addicted to sex, they're really allergic to monogamy.


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Sept 2, 2019


     The male preoccupation with size. Yeah, we're all guilty of measuring our manhood at least once in our life. Men make a bigger deal about their size than women do. We don't go around, looking at other men's junk and comparing how big their dick might be to our own, but we definitely emphasize how big or small we are when it comes to the women we're having sex with. We want to be told we're above average, but realistically, that's not going to happen for everyone; not in the least bit. Not every woman has had a 4 inch or 12-inch dick; what may be pretty damn small for one woman who's had bigger may look average to another, based on her own experiences. Trying to associate a standard size to match every woman is absolutely impossible. Knowing this, men are still self-conscious about their size.

     Every man at some point, whether joking or self-conscious, has measured their dick. Anyone who tells you any different is lying. They'll NEVER admit it, but men do and will compare the size of his dick to the actors they see in porn & base their own ability to satisfy real-life sexual partners by the reactions of the women in the movies. If the guy in the movie has a bigger dick and the woman's reaction is mediocre, he'll be self-conscious about his own performance. If he's bigger than the actor and the actress is moaning and screaming bloody murder, he'll expect that reaction from the women he has sex with and his head will get fucked up if that doesn't happen. The fact they're performers won't even compute to him. This is something he'll NEVER tell another soul; not even his very best friend.

     The association between his size and his ability to satisfy a woman will always fuck a man's head up, no matter he says, or how much confidence he portrays to have in his dick. Men will think if they were even just a little bit bigger, he'll be better in bed. Dick size doesn't mean satisfaction or lack thereof. The funny thing is to the men who brag about having 12 inches of dick won't get as much sex as he may think. Most women won't even entertain the thought of letting a man with a foot-long dick anywhere near her. She's not interested in having her pussy, "Beaten up" as some men will brag about. Depending on size and curve, some positions aren't even an option for some men.

     Women will only tell a man he has a small dick IF he actually has a small dick; she'll only lie to him about being small when he's not for revenge. Other than that, she'll tell him the truth about his size. Women will, however, lie to a man about being bigger than he really is to keep from hurting his feelings if she likes him. Even if he's average-sized, men don't want to hear that; they want to be told he's bigger than average. Of course, his ultimate goal is to be the biggest, but realistically, he's not going to be the biggest dick a middle-aged or older woman has ever had. His concern should be on not being the smallest dick she's ever had. Even so, size still doesn't relate to performance. A guy could be hung like a donkey and not have the slightest idea of how to use it. On the other hand, a guy with an average or slightly less than average size dick can have her climbing the walls like an angry fucking monkey.

     Men will criticize their own size, just to get praise, compliments, or reassurance from women. From going overboard in the gym to buying a big truck or flashy sports car, men will use unrelated accomplishments or acquisitions to compensate for what they lack in the pants. Women know this already; a man's physical stature has nothing to do with the size of his dick.

     Does size matter? To men, yes. To women, yes, but not as much as men worry about it. As long as he's big enough to take care of business, a woman doesn't care if a man has a huge dick; that only matters to a man. A woman's not in search of the biggest dick in the world; she just wants good dick. She doesn't care if you have the biggest dick she's had or seen in her life. Satisfaction is her focus, whether that satisfaction comes from a 10-inch or 6-inch dick. However, if a man's in a relationship and he's truly self-conscious about his size, it's not just an issue for HIM to get over, it's also his partner's responsibility to reassure him he's more than adequate for her satisfaction and that's all that matters to her. His insecurities should NEVER be an object of ridicule or to be taken lightly. 


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Aug 25, 2019


     Walking away from a bad situation or confrontation doesn't make someone a pushover or weak; nor does it reflect negatively on his manhood or her personal strength. It doesn't make them a coward or victim. Being smart and choosing not to engage someone who obviously craves a physical altercation, just because they stepped on your shoe or looked at your girlfriend shows maturity and strength of character.

      We're adults, let's act like it. Let's try to set the example for the younger generations, and some of us are behaving worse than they are. Young people are risking the wrath of their parents at 3 am for a ride home after a night of underage drinking, where adults are choosing to hop in the car and drive home drunk and getting DUI/DWI's. We're so quick to raise our hands or pull a gun to solve a stupid fucking argument over some stupid fucking shit. These aren't the youth behaving this way; it's those of us who should be teaching the youngsters to solve their differences in non-violent ways which are acting like fucking idiots.

     Your feet WILL get stepped on. Your shoes are going to get scuffed; you're at a crowded bar or club with $200 white shoes on. You're going to get bumped and ran into. People are going to be rude, no matter where you go. People are going to cut you off while driving, and take that parking spot someone just pulled out of, even though you've been waiting and had your signal on. Accidents happen. That isn't and shouldn't be an excuse to be rude and not acknowledge or apologize for their inconsideration, but neither is trying to fight, damage their shit, or go for a gun. If you're the offender, it doesn't make you any less of a manly man or strong woman to turn around and say, "Excuse me." Manners are still the best way to avoid a confrontation or diffuse a possible hostile situation before it gets out of hand.

     Essentially, there are at least three different types of people who'll try to argue, fight, or escalate a situation to unnecessary proportions; ignorants, idiots, and cowards. The idiot will cause a scene or engage someone verbally because they feel as if they've been disrespected, and their pride and personal dominance has been challenged. They know they're wrong but refuse to admit it for fear of showing how much of an idiot they are, so they escalate by yelling louder and using the threat of violence as a deflection from their idiocy.

The ignorant don't have the mental capacity to walk away or communicate intelligently to navigate the altercation in a non-violent way. Like a child who gets frustrated because they can't communicate what they want or want to say, they'll become irritable and angry that they're not being heard or understood. To the ignorant, trying to pound the understanding in with their fists is the only thing they know.

     The coward's easy to spot. They're the person who'll go straight for the fight but in public. The coward will fight because they feel disrespected or feel they're being ridiculed. A coward will fight inside the club because someone looked at them or their partner. The coward will fight because someone's wearing the sports team he hates. The coward will fight because his/her ex walked in with someone new. They'll fight because they think someone's talking shit about them. Whatever the reason, the coward fights because they don't want to look weak; pride is the driving force for the coward. They don't want to appear soft or like they're being punked in front of their friends or their significant other. They'll fight in public because they know if they're getting their ass kicked, security will come to break it up before they get hurt too bad.

     True, there are and will be times where a physical altercation is inevitable, and the fight will happen; but that's not the point of this article. The point is to shine a light on those who choose to fight rather than walk away because they can't get their pride under control. The point is to bring to light those who choose to turn and walk away from a situation and how it has absolutely no bearing on their ability to defend themselves, their partner, or family/children. Choosing not to fight over something stupid or over something you'll regret reacting to the next morning doesn't make you a doormat. Nursing the black eye, five missing teeth, or dislocated jaw you have to have reset because you were drunk makes you an idiot. You tried to fight someone twice your size because that liquid courage got the better of your judgment. You wouldn't let him walk away, and he bit into your stupid ass like a Jaguar.

     Stop fighting over stupid shit. Stop fighting over men or women you don't even know. Stop fighting that other woman you caught your man with. Stop trying to fight that guy your woman lied to and told she was single. If you stopped and composed yourself, you would've found out your significant other was the guilty party, and the other person knew nothing about you. Even if they did, why fight for someone who obviously didn't want to be with just you in the first place?

     Walking away shows character, intelligence, and a higher sense of self-evolution. That doesn't mean a person shouldn't defend himself or let people run all over them; you can be assertive and non-violent. You can stand up for yourself and keep your hands in your pockets. You can be a card-carrying, 2nd Amendment supporter, without going for your gun every time you feel threatened. You can make it known you won't be taken advantage of or walked over, without throwing a single punch. Those who are incapable of accomplishing this are those who are quick to throw their hands up.

     The world is filled with punks, bitches, mother fuckers, assholes, racists, jackasses, dicks, cunts, white trash, niggers, and any other name you've ever been called or used yourself. Are you any of those? You are what you respond or answer to, so when you choose to react to verbal abuse, you're confirming you are what you're being called, so why are you fighting? Because someone saw right through you and called you out for who/what you indeed are? Hey, you reacted to it, so I can only assume you're the asshole they called you.


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Q & A VOL. 8

Aug 11, 2019


Q: What's the antibiotic in the medicine cabinet for?

A: Your benefit and health.

Q: Why doesn't she believe anything I say?

A: Because you're talking... ASSJACKAL

Q: Does SHE think I'm stupid?

A: Absolutely

Q: Does HE think I'm stupid?

A: Depends... have you done this week's laundry yet?

Q: How can I tell if my kids are being bullied?

A: Just look at their father

Q: Why are we so deep in debt?

A: Two Christmas trees, two video game consoles, two diamond necklaces, two plasma TV's two Thanksgiving dinners with all the trimmings, etc.

Q: It's just the two of us, why do we need a minivan?

A: Because it's the law for children under a certain age to be in a car seat.

Q: Is it wrong to still spank my son?

A: Depends; does he like when his wife does it?

Q: What's a good sign that it's time to stop breastfeeding?

A: When he starts jacking himself off.

Q: Am I a bad mother?

A: No... EVERY 6-year-old should know how to change his baby brother's diaper.

Q: Am I a bad father?

A: Not at all... It's normal for a 5-year-old to be too big to support his own weight.

Q: Why doesn't his family like me?

A: Because you're his teacher.

Q: What should I get my husband for his birthday?

A: A Lighter version of his wife.

Q: Why can't he remember his anniversary? We've been together for four years now.

A: He does; he hasn't missed one in over 15 years!

Q: Why does he always jack off when he has me at home?

A: Becuase, you don't get along with the lady who lives next door.

Q: Why does he ALWAYS want anal so bad?

A: Because Carlos is the dominate one.

Q: Where's all the duct tape... What's she doing with it?

A: Her back.

Q: Wait... WHAT?

A: Just kidding; her bikini area...

Q: Are you serious?

A: I'm just being silly... You'll find out tonight.

Q: What's she doing in the laundry room for so long?

A: Finishing what you started.

Q: What's she thinking when she's sucking my dick?

A: She finally got that piece of roast beef from between her teeth.      


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Aug 04, 2019


     We post ourselves on the couch or in our favorite chair every week, grab the remote, and tune into the latest episode of the real-life bullshit of somebody famous, or their spouse. We religiously binge watch past episodes of the arguments, catfights, backstabbing, and name-calling. We troll the internet for the latest tabloid-type bullshit we can't live without. We love watching others act a fucking fool over garbage. We show up for work the next day, cackling like hens about who did this or who did that. We gossip about people behind their backs about the problems going on in their personal lives. We fake concern or sympathy and understanding to their faces, while internally celebrating their misery. We'll pretend to empathize with their plight and even offer words of wisdom or advice, hoping to sound as sincere and genuine as possible, only to run back and tell EVERYONE who'll listen to the intricate details that were just confined to them.

     Why do we enjoy drama, misery, and negativity? Why is it so much easier to believe bullshit than it is to believe what's actually true? What pleasure can possibly be gained from the misfortune of others, to where we feel we have to not only share, but compound a simple issue into a Hollywood level production of negativity, drama, and, despair for someone else? Another question; why's it so easy to believe the worst, especially if the facts against them are purely circumstantial at best? Why have we been trained to accuse and presume guilt until proven innocent? Why do we allow manufactured conspiracy in our lives? Why do we cultivate and feed on it? Why do we crave the negativity and misery that comes with drama?

     The unforgivable sin. Sometimes we've fucked up so much or so bad in the past; there's an actual valid reason for people not to be able to trust or believe ANYTHING someone says or does. Their word means absolutely nothing, and their integrity has more holes in it than a pasta strainer. We've screwed someone over so bad, world peace is within closer reach than the hope or thought of forgiveness and reconciliation with that person or those people. We have a history of fucking up, and our friends and family have reached far past their limit of tolerance, and they've washed their hands of us. Our actions have led others to expect nothing less than what we've shown them and any effort to convince them otherwise would fall on deaf ears, a blind eye, and a great big, "Go fuck yourself!"

     People are drawn into drama and misery because their friends and the people around them are unhappy and miserable. They want you and as many people just as unhappy as they are. "Misery loves company"? You bet your ass it does! From their personal to their professional lives; they're just generally shitty people who make shitty choices, and they hate you for having a better life than they do. They're jealous of what you have, and they want it, or at the very least NOT want you to have it. They have a cheating partner or spouse, and they're out to convince everyone they know that since HER man is a dirty, cheating fuckface, ALL men are lying, cheating fuckfaces. They don't think you're smart enough to see the signs they see, even if/when there's nothing to see.

     People draw others into their negativity and drama because they always have to be right and the need to say, "I told you so" is nothing short of a narcotic. They find pleasure in the misfortune and misery of others, and they're happier when someone's life is worse than theirs. People will pretend to have the best interest of others in mind to get them to share as many details about their life, only to spread it around like wildfire when things take a turn for the worst or even the slightest hint of an issue. People draw others into misery and drama to escape their own private hell, and it takes their attention away from their own bullshit; much like an alcoholic who seeks refuge in a liquor bottle. People incite drama to justify their own shitty attitude or the way they talk and interact with those around them. In their mind, they have a right to be the way they are because so many people have been fucked up to them.

     Drama-driven individuals enjoy seeing others fail if they can't be part of that person's success. That's why so many people tune in and log on, just to see the lives of celebrities crumble under the watchful eyes of society. Their supervisor seems to be in control of everything at work, but their home life is in shambles. Dramatic people will flourish mentally upon hearing the slightest hint of a personal break down, family issues, or her breakup with their seemingly, "Perfect" relationship. Seeing others suffer is an aphrodisiac. They enjoy the power of influencing others. They'll influence others with their bullshit and negativity, all the while, leading them to believe they have the other person's best interest in mind. The victim of this drama-whore won't believe this particular person would lead them astray, give them bad information, or lead them in a wrong direction. Especially when the dramatic person is a friend or family member. They'll use their relationship to strengthen the idea of the drama they're spreading is being done out of friendship, love, and concern.

     People spread and flourish in drama and bullshit because they simply want to be popular; they want to be that person EVERYONE goes to for the juiciest gossip, even if they have to manufacture it themselves. They crave attention and acceptance. Lies and drama sound a hell of a lot better and more exciting than the actual truth. People will embellish the truth to make it worth telling and hearing. Dramatics blow things out of proportion. A simple fender bender will be a 15-car pileup, resulting in 20+ fatalities. A slight professional disagreement between 2 co-workers will become a knock-down, drag-out, brawl in the bathroom when coming from the mouth of the dramatic. A woman will tell her friends her man went out with his friends but didn't call/text when he got home. By the time the dramatic friend tells it to someone else, she saw her friend's guy out at the club, mouth-fucking multiple women, because it sounds better than the truth.

     Dramatic people cause turmoil and shift negativity to divert attention from their own shitty lives: spite or revenge. People will believe an angry, bitter, ex (Man or woman) over their own experience and judgment of someone else. A woman will trust the word of a strange woman who approaches her with a "Warning" about the man she's dating, or even talking to. It's easier to believe he's the cheating or abusive piece of shit the ex makes him out to be. Let me be clear, as I've said before, any woman who feels the need to, "Warn" someone else about what her ex did to her DOES NOT have your interest in mind; it's not about looking out for that new woman at all; it's about her hatred for that man. She either still wants him, wants him miserable, or will be damned if he moves on before she does.

     People feed into drama and allow it to consume their lives because they expect it. They're not surprised when it happens. They'll create a crisis to rationalize their hesitation to trust anyone, to be vulnerable, or a reason to keep their walls up. They can't let go of the past. They see the same things in their friends' lives that remind them of something that happened to them that triggers a hurtful experience. Dramatics believe their experiences is how life is and should just be expected. "ALL men are players" Any thought of meeting someone of quality who'll be genuinely interested in a fairy tale. Everything's too good to be true; they're waiting for reality to appear. They believe they deserve to be hurt, and happiness is a myth.

     Again, why are people drawn to, intice, feed into, or accept negativity and drama so willingly? Easy, because they're obviously unhappy, unfulfilled, or miserable with their own ACTUAL lives.


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July 27, 2019


     The truth is not every breakup has to be the result of a negative situation. "What did he/she do?" Right out the gate, most people assume someone cheated and got caught or some other hurtful or catastrophic situation that caused the separation. That's not always the case.

     Trying to explain how two people can be amicable, or even friends after a breakup can be difficult, especially when trying to justify that friendship to a current significant partner. They'll have an issue with you being friends with someone you've had sex with, spent time getting to know, or have expressed love for. While that concern is valid and deserves its respect, consideration for the other person has to observed as well. Just because a relationship between two people has ended, it doesn't mean they have to hate each other; but it also doesn't mean it's appropriate to dismiss your current partner's feeling about the situation. It would be just as unfair for them to require you to walk away from that friendship.

     Even before entering a new relationship, The subject of opposite-sex friendships should be discussed. Some may have an issue with it, while another might see it as exactly what it is; a friendship, nothing more or less.

     Anyway, the point is to outline the other reason why a relationship may end, other than the typical worse-case scenarios.

     Couples break up because they can't communicate or meet each other's physical or emotional needs. Knowing and understanding your own needs is the first step. A person can't expect to meet their partner's if they're out of touch with themselves. People are quick to say a relationship is a 50/50 partnership, but that's bullshit. a relationship SHOULD be 100/100. If each person's only putting in 50%, where's that other 50% going? What's it being applied to? One person may still be guarded; holding on to the past or a past love/relationship. One person may not have wanted to put the work into making it work.

     A couple could realize they're not on the same page. Different views on finances, how to raise children, whether or not they both even WANT children. Religion. Distance. Communication. One person could feel as if they're putting more into the relations than the other; unequal labor, lack of reliability, lack of trust, due to lying or inconsistency. Lack of support or even immaturity; one person may be content with being a homebody, while the other still like to go out and party. There's no long-term potential. There's physical chemistry, but absolutely NOTHING else.

     Career differences may be the cause of an amicable breakup. One person may have to move away in order to accept a promotion; long-distance relationships are a HUGE cause of breakups where two people may still love and want each other, but reality has made the ugly choice for them. One may feel neglected because the other's time is under more demand at work. Insecurity they may be left behind because of their partner's success. Someone's new work obligations leave them limited or irregular time for cultivating a serious relationship. A simple misunderstanding, blown far out of proportion could be the culprit behind a breakup, and pride will keep them from reconciling.

     Something as simple as growing apart; or maybe one person met someone else they have more chemistry and a connection with. The point is that there's no reason to assume every breakup has to be the result of a negative, heartbreaking episode. Things happen. Life happens. Every relationship isn't meant to last the long haul; some truly are stepping stones and learning experiences to prepare us for the time when we come across, "The one" A question a lot of people ask, "If there was one person you regret being in a relationship with?" I alway say NO. Because good or bad, right time or wrong, short or long-term, each relationship and experiences mold us into to person we are now.


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July 21, 2019


     We like what we like, and we go for what we like. We have certain things we like in a person both mentally and physically, and it only has to make sense to us. No one looks at another person and thinks, "Damn, they look like shit, but I'll bet they'll treat me like a king/queen." No one can convince us to change what we like, but trying to cultivate and maintain a long-lasting relationship based solely on looks is a whirlwind of problems in the making.

     Looks can get your foot in the door. Looks can get you the phone number exchange. Looks can get you an invitation to sit down and interact in conversation. Looks may get you through the first few dates and possibly sex for a short while. Eventually, the "Honeymoon phase will run its course, and then it's about personality, beliefs, interests, hobbies, and so on. That's when you find out if there's enough in common to make an effort into going further or calling it quits.

     Just because we like the way someone looks doesn't obligate them to see us in the same light; nor will everyone see the same physically attractive qualities in someone as you do. One person could look at you and think you're a solid 10, while someone else will see you like a 5-6. Men will judge or ridicule their friends if the person that catches his eye doesn't meet their approval. Women will do the same, but nowhere near as much as men. It's more of an emotional or mental attraction, based on his approach or personality.

     When it comes to deciding whether or not to approach someone or to allow an opportunity to get to know you, how they look is only the first step in a process to a higher agenda. The problem is people don't take the time to put into really getting to know someone or finding out what they're about until later on or after sex. They're focused on the outer wrappings than the actual package. I've never known of a child waking up on Christmas morning, tearing open all their presents and throwing the toys off to the side, while concentrating on the wrapping paper. People will dismiss another person because they feel they deserve someone more attractive when they're no prize themselves.

     While there's absolutely nothing wrong with being confident, arrogant confidence makes you an asshole. If you're 280 lbs. of out-of-shape blubber or beer belly, how dare you turn your nose up at a 160 lb. woman, referring to her as a "big ass girl?" There are women who'll get a false impression or inflated ego about how good she looks, because of all the male attention she gets at the club, or work. What she doesn't realize (or maybe she does) is all that attention comes from men who know they're fucking if she goes out with them. Men talk, and you can bet your ass it's through the office that if she goes out with them, the pussy is guaranteed.

     Men will date an absolute snotty bitch if she's hot enough. The high-fives and jealousy from his friends are what's important to him. Arm candy is more of a concern than how she interacts with him or other people. As long as she looks good, he'll deal with almost anything she dishes out. Men will also use this to make other women want him. He's hoping being with one of the hottest women in the room will make him feel more confident and appear to be a better catch in the eyes of other women. He'll use that hot woman as a billboard or a silent spokesperson to all the other women in the room, with the message being, "There's something about me you're going to want to find out about."

     The funny thing about looks is when people get angry because someone doesn't find another person as attractive as they do. What's even worse is when people react negatively when someone doesn't find them attractive. Society has this idea of what beauty is, and anyone who doesn't fit the mold is flawed. We've been brainwashed into thinking thin is sexy. Being a B-cup or smaller or having absolutely no ass at all makes the best models. We look on television and the "Reality shows" are cast with hard bodies and flat stomachs. That's not reality; that's not even realistic. Even the so-called "Weight-loss" shows make you think these people are losing 5-10 pounds a week when in reality, it's taking them weeks to do so. We fool ourselves and allow ourselves to fall victim to what society has dictated what we should strive to look like in order to be accepted.

     Even in our own social circles, we'll segregate ourselves from others, based on the situation or environment. Those friends we'll take to the ball game or hang out at the pool hall won't be the same people we take out to the club or bar because we believe the way they look bring s down the stock value of the group. One would think the, "Clique" mentality fades away as we get older. The truth is it actually DOES fade to some degree, but evolves and resurfaces into something else, where physical appearance and ability to attract equally attractive members of the opposite sex is the goal.

     People who look better get treated better; where the,"normal" person will approach a store employee, inquiring about the location of an item, they'll get a pointed finger or a verbal location. An attractive person will get an escort right up to what they're looking for. Attractive people will always catch the eye of a busy bartender before the person who's been waiting 10 minutes to order a drink. Attractive people will shift a waitress or waiter's bad mood into a smile after dealing with shitty customers and bullshit tips from her last 3 tables.

     Someone may look good on the outside, but can be the absolute ugliest person on the inside. Their attitude and feelings of entitlement will turn their outward model appearance into something straight out of a horror film. Men will depend on their chiseled chest and bulging biceps; women will flaunt their asses and cleavage to get attention, hoping to find someone and will try to base a long-term relationship on physical appearance. The thought of developing an actual personality doesn't occur to either of them, as long their looks are getting them the attention they need or want.

     Men are arrogant and believe a woman should just want him, not matter what he looks like; he doesn't believe he should work out, put effort into his health or fitness or outward appearance, but he'll spray black paint or powder on his head, comb over those 8 strands of hair over his entire head, and dip down into that sports car, feeling like a million bucks. Women will fight the aging process tooth and nail, with the ferocity of a pack of wolves. Creams, injections, concealers, surgeries, and fad diets; just to keep themselves looking and feeling young.

     Looks fade, skin wrinkles, boobs sag. You may not be able to get or stay hard like you used to. (IF you were able to in the first place) Bellies hang, Your hairline will retreat to the safety of the top of your head or turn grey. Your looks may take you to the front of the line, but you'll need more than that to ride the ride of life.


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July 14, 2019


     Body language - it's hard enough trying to get through the double-talk most people spew due to alcohol, uninterest, nervousness, or a combination of other variables I hadn't previously mentioned. The truth is when it comes to the sexes, men are more unaware of a woman's body language, due to ignorance, arrogance, or disrespect. They may be ignorant of the concept of a woman's body language because they've never thought about it. Arrogance, believing they have so much, "Game" and they're so fucking smooth, there's no way ANY woman wouldn't be interested. Disrespectful; the mentality that whoever he decides he wants is not only going to engage him positively but like it or not, she's giving up the ass that night, no matter what she thinks or says.

     Here's the sad truth. While men are more sexually goal-driven, there has to be something SERIOUSLY fucked up about a woman if he won't even entertain the thought of taking her home to fuck for one night. Be it something she says, does, or whatever. Men will overlook a lot when getting some ass is his priority. Of course, women also venture out, looking for the same, but hooking up usually is a male-oriented endgame. Nevertheless, whether male or female; whether the goal is fucking or looking for a potential candidate for something more like dating, etc. one of the most effective tools in this contest is body language and the ability to recognize, realize, decipher, and interpret body language.

     Body Language: The process of verbal or nonverbal communication through conscious or subconscious gestures and movements. From our facial expressions to the way we simply stand speaks volumes about what we're thinking or how we feel. I may not be able to speak for the past, but I can definitely say in this day and time, the art of reading body language is like trying to find a country where Latin is spoken as it's the national language. Being the case, allow me to decipher a few of the more obvious signs in case ignorance is your predominant reason for not being able to pick up the cues that someone may or may not be interested.

- They lean towards or away from you. A woman will lean towards you if she's interested in you or what you have to say. She'll close the gap between the two of you to be as close as possible. If there's no interest, she'll make it a point to back away; every time you try to get close to her.

- Eye contact. Vs. The wandering eye. Eye contact is a sure indicator of interest. Looking around at other people or just scanning the room for anything else to focus on other than the person talking.

- Removing or creating personal barriers. The crossing of the arms and feet keeps the other person at bay and prevents them from invading their personal space. It draws a clear line; they don't want to be crossed.

- Negative/fake smiles.

- The tone of voice.

- Verbal response vs. nodding. A person who's interested will actively participate in the conversation. They'll ask questions or ask you to repeat something they may have missed or didn't hear or understand. Nodding is a sign of pacification and disinterest.

- Both men and women grow out of naturally showing their front teeth when they smile between ages 8-10, so if you can accomplish this feat, you're golden!

- Laughter is also a pretty good indicator of interest or boredom. The question is, are they laughing WITH you or AT you?

- Physical touch. A woman will not allow a man she's not into to touch her. She'll move away or ask him not to touch her. In reverse, if she's interested, certain places women like to be touched are the back of her neck, small of the back, or her tri-cep area; all of which are also areas of control or dominance. If you've ever watched police officers handle offenders, it's usually by these same areas. She trusts you enough to allow contact in those areas.

- A man or woman who's interested will make herself as available as she can to get to know you better. He/she will ignore the friends they came with to focus on getting to know you better. If there's no spark, they continually invite their friends to join the conversation, or they'll simply turn and engage them completely.

- If a woman's interested, she'll accept an invitation to dance or otherwise separate herself from her friends to spend time getting to know you one on one. If not, she'll drag her friends out on the floor or outside; whatever it takes to avoid being alone with you.

- Someone who's not interested will pawn you off to his/her friend.

- Fidgeting. Playing with their hair. Wiping the sweat from their palms. Fixing clothes. Crossing/uncrossing of legs. All these are positive signs of nervousness.

- Hand holding. It's sad yet entertaining to watch guys dance with a woman once and honestly, believes she belongs to him for the remainder of the night. He'll try to openly show or stake his claim on her by attempting to hold her hand as they walk, to which she'll either oblige politely snatch away.

- Men who are interested will sit with his legs slightly open. Women will do the same, but will always keep her ankles crossed. An uninterested woman will keep her feet, knees, thighs, etc. close together if her ankles aren't crosssed. Look hard enough and the conscious intent to keep them that way will be obvious.

- Checking phone multiple times throughout the conversation is a definite sign of uninterest.

- Phone number exchange. If it's not a mutual exchange, the person who doesn't offer theirs or seems relauctant is the uninterested one.

- An obvious sign of interest is if/when they turn down another person's interest or advances.

- A person who interrupts to finish a sentence or contribute to the conversation is interested. Interruption to divert their attention from the conversation to something or someone else is another story.

- An uninterested woman will over-exert her dominance in a conversation, hoping to cause enough tension the man will get the hint and walk away. An interested woman will embrace more of her submissive side and allow him the opportunity to show his masculine, protective side.

- A mans hands in his pockets is usually a bad sign.

- Animated facial expressions. Raised brows. Parted lips. Batting eyes. Giggling. Brushing hair behind ears. All good.

- Playful hitting or nudging. Also good. If you say something you think is funny and she punches you in the throat, she's NOT interested.

- If they introduce you to their friends, they're interested in and seeking their approval. If not, they don't think you're worth it.

- Anything that draws attention to her lips/mouth is a good sign.

- An interested woman will complain about a certain part of her body being sore from working out, possibly setting a man up to offer a back massage. She'll slightly arch her back, hoping to bring attention to her curves, especially her chest, hips, and upper legs. She'll also find a way to show off her cleavage. Uninterested men and women tend to slouch.

- Personal space. If they like you, they'll want you close. If not, watch out for the force field.

- Learn how to check for heart rate via the hand/wrist area. Increased heart rate and faster breathing are both positive.

- Mirrored behavior. Take a drink. Brush your hair back, etc. If they copy your actions, they're interested.

- Stripping. She slides her purse from around her neck or off her shoulder. He takes off his jacket. She removes her sweater. All signs of getting comfortable.

- When nature calls and they insist you come back. DEFINITELY a good sign.

- Primping. When a woman returns from the restroom with newly applied lipstick, an undone button or so, hair down, glasses off, etc.

- One word answers are a sure indicator of uninterest.

- An uninterested person will find a reason to just walk away.

- Yawning.

- Very few topics will kill a mood quicker than any initial conversation about their ex. They're either still damaged over the breakup, or they're tryring to make you so uncomfortable you'll jump ship and swim for the shore in shark-infested waters.

- It's funny as hell to watch men try to get up a woman while she's dancing with her friends. She'll notice him and move away, just to have him come up behind her again, grinding his nasty crotch on her ass to which she'll move away again. Not taking the hint, and before he knows it, he's chased her for 2 or three laps around the floor, and will think he scored big time!

- If they don't invite you to sit and join them or their group, you're not invited.

- Being labeled as a, "Nice person". You ain't getting shit!!

     As you can see, there are many forms of body language, both positive and negative. It continues to fuck me up in the head that so many people are still oblivious to these signs. Two or three I can understand, but so many are so obvious, it has to be ignorance or arrogance that keeps people from taking the hint to walk away or step up and make that move. Whatever the case, I hope writing this has helped make things just a little easier to navigate the initial interactive journey once you've said, "Hello, my name is..." 


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Q & A VOL. 7

July 7, 2019


Q: Is he gay?

A: I don't think so, but I think his husband is.

Q: Why doesn't she wear her glasses?

A: She'shorribly far-sighted & her self-esteem is fucked up enough as it is.

Q: Does he think I'm not smart?

A: Nope!

Q: Is she hinting I'm too skinny?

A: No... she's just asking you to stop wearing her slacks to work for nothing.

Q: Put me down... What the hell are you doing?

A: You told me to take out the trash before I left for work, didn't you?

Q: Does he not hear me when I'm talking?

A: Yes, he can hear you, that's why he's looking in the opposite direction?

Q: It's been seven years of happiness... What did I do to deserve a man like mine?

A: Dropped and broke a mirror seven years ago.

Q: Does he think my kids are ugly?

A: Depends... Are they listening?

Q: Do my children annoy him?

A: Are they listening now?

Q: Why in the world would he cheat on me with that homewrecking slut?

A: He tried being married to a bitch and look where that got him.

Q: Is she cheating on me?

A: Depends... Did you guys break up last weekend?

Q: Does she have a sense of humor?

A: Obviously... you guys are still having sex, aren't you?

Q: Does she have a UTI or an STD?

A: Fuck her & find out; I DARE YOU!!!

Q: Is his dick clean?

A: Yep... go ahead and suck it; just ignore that fizzing sound.

Q: Is her pussy clean?

A: Yeah, go ahead and eat it; just ignore that violent foaming action.

Q: Where are all my thongs?

A: You're wearing them... EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM!!!

Q: Where are all my tube tops?

A: In that box in the closet marked, "Winter skirts."

Q: Does he think that girl's prettier than I am?

A: Yes... Yes, he does.

Q: Does she REALLY think my grey hair's sexy?

A: Yes... Yes, she does...

Q: Why is only his pubic hair grey?

A: He can't reach under his belly with the washcloth.

Q: What's on his phone that he doesn't want me to see?

A: Your mom. 


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June 23, 2019


     We'd all like to have at least one person we can go to talk about things that cross our mind, from the good to the bad, positive or negative. The exciting news is way more exciting when you have that one person to share the news with. Someone to go to for advice, to tell us when we're right on the money, or we're unreasonable and out of pocket — that person who'll give it to us straight, with no bullshit. Sometimes having somebody to talk to makes us feel better. Just getting something off our chest makes us feel a hell of a lot better. However, there are just some things that should be kept in-house, especially when it comes to your relationships and personal info. Just like there are people on your side who want nothing but the best for and will offer an ear or the best response and advice they can, there are those who'll use that same information to create turmoil, chaos, doubt, and bullshit for you.

     Never talk about your partner's past! It's a HUGE violation of their confidence and trust in you. Who they know, or met. Someone in their family may be famous or even a serial killer. Don't tell your friends if they've been locked up before or for what reason. If they've had an STD, been in drug/alcohol rehab, or anything else that may cause an abnormal or uncomfortable situation if they ever met your partner.

     Never talk about their fears or phobias. Your partner's insecurities about their weight, looks, crossed eyes, lop-sided breasts, or the fact he only has one testicle; keep that shit to yourself. It's not funny in the least bit to go to work Monday morning and talk about how cute it was to see your man freak out because he's scared of spiders. Don't put your woman's fear of heights out in the streets; men can be assholes, when they meet her, chances are, at least one of your friends will comment about it, trying to be fucking funny.

     Your partners' failures. It's bad enough to try something they had their heart set on and it not work out, but to find out your partner told someone about it will fuck their head up even more. Don't use their lack of success as comedy material for a few laughs around the metaphoric water cooler. Their income should NEVER be discussed, nor should yours. This SHOULD be a no-brainer, but nevertheless, it has to be said. The last thing a man wants out in the streets is that when he lost his job, he had to take one as a janitor or work overnights, stocking retail shelves because of some bullshit. She doesn't want to hear her friends criticize her for being a part-timer because she wants to concentrate more on being a mom than to chase her CEO. Money issues are another big no-no.

     Telling your friends about your boring, unsatisfying sex life is just plain fucked up. If you have issues with your sex life and they're not willing to listen or change, then maybe you should consider ending the relationship. If that's not something you want to do, then keep that shit to yourself. Don't embarrass your partner, just to get some laughs or to have people talk shit about your partner behind their back because that's EXACTLY what your doing; talking shit behind their back. Don't tell your friends how good your partner is in the sheets; chances are, at least one of them will be intrigued or tempted to find out for themselves. Positions, places, fantasies, etc.

     Sex. Good or bad. Their (Or your) sexual history is also off-limits. Unless you want to be viewed as a player or slut or ridiculed as a "Virgin' or tease, telling your friends about how small your man's dick is, or his lack of stamina will get you nowhere but a fast trip to singles' night when he finds out. Telling your friends the reason you don't have sex anymore is that she's gained too much weight is shitty. Also, commenting or joking about faking an orgasm to, "Get it over with" is SERIOUSLY fucked up and it makes you an asshole.

     Illness. If your partner's being treated for something, or they have a chronic illness, and they share it with you, that's not your fucking place to share it with anyone else. To tell someone else, your partner's being treated for cancer makes you fucked up. That's not for you to share! That's THEIR business. Don't be surprised or pissy if they don't tell you anything else; EVER!

     Private correspondence. Texts and pictures of a sexual nature. If your woman sends you dirty pictures or text messages, for you to share them with your buddies makes you as fucked up and dipping your coffee cup in a public toilet and taking a HUGE gulp. And you know your woman would fuck you up if she found out! If your man sent you a text message, telling you he can't wait to eat your asshole, he doesn't want people to know he eats ass!

     Never discuss which of your friends your partner doesn't like or care for. It'll create an uncomfortable situation the next time they're around each other, especially if your partner doesn't know you told that friend. General issues with their friends is another. Problems. Disagreements, Arguments, or fights. Go ahead, tell your friends about the issues you have with your partner and you'll almost be able to see at least one of them plotting right in front of you to break you up so they can make their move. Besides, why would you WANT to put your bullshit out in streets? I do understand that sometimes it's healthy just to be able to talk to someone about your problems, but be careful with who your share that type of information with. Sometimes it does help to have someone on the outside tell you-you're being unfair or unreasonable about something or whatever it was that upset you is petty in the grand scheme. Again, be careful with who you share this with and how often you share with this person. They may not even want your partner, but sooner or later they WILL get sick of hearing you complain!

     Your intent to break up with your partner. No one wants to hear about it unless they're the person that wants to be with you. Trust me; no one else is interested. It'll be even worse if your partner hears about it second hand; that's how your shit will end up out on the front lawn with dog piss on it.

If your partner cheated and you're working it out, keep that shit to yourself, unless you're ready for a massive barrage of, "What the fuck are you still doing with them?", or, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." comments.

     Past or present military information. Again, like any illnesses or treatments your partner may be going through, their military experience or history was told to YOU in confidence. Their job, rank, especially overseas duty is absolutely nobody's fucking business but who THEY choose to tell. When a woman's friends find out she's dating a servicemember, one of the first things they ask is about his rank. Why the fuck does that matter? What does his overseas duty/deployments have to do with your friends? If he's active duty, where he's stationed is again nobody's business.

     Last, but not least, anything you don't want to your partner to ever find out, or anything you haven't discussed with your partner. Maybe they did something that bothered you the weekend prior and you haven't spoken to them about it. While there's nothing wrong with askng a TRUE friend their thoughts on the situation, as long as you have the intent of discussing it with your partner also.

     Telling your friends about your partner or your relationship is like giving away your playbook to the opposite team the week before the big game. You're showing your hand during the biggest game of poker of the year, surrenduring before the fight even takes place, broadcasting your combat strategy. You've revealed your battle plan and jeopardized your entire unit. You've just committed treason, you idiot!


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June 16, 2019


      We've all done it; at one time or another. Some, more than others. We've had it done to us. For what we thought were good enough or selfish reasons. We did it as children; we do it as adults. It's a crime everyone's guilty of; we lie. From the moment we become self-aware to our last breath, we're capable of lying. No one's exempt from lying or being lied to. Lying is the one thing no one is above or has the right to look down on and turn their nose up to anyone else for doing. When it comes to lying, we're all equal.

     Even the best of us have been put in situations where we've had to weight the pros and cons of the truth vs. lying. Does a woman REALLY want to tell one of her best friends the outfit she thinks is cute makes her look like shit? Does a man truly want to tell his son he fucking sucks on the basketball court? Some struggle with the dilemma of when it's better to not lay it all on the table or to let the truth out in the open. Others find it as easy as second nature to throw half-truths & straight-out lies.

      Our definition of lying is making a false statement, knowing it's not true. There's an ongoing debate that almost always ends up being split right down the middle. The concept of lying by omission. If a person chooses not to divulge knowledge or a portion of the truth, is it considered lying? Some say yes, while an equal number will disagree, again, depending on the situation.

     People always want to ask, "Why lie?" Is there ever a good enough reason? Is there ever a good time, circumstance, or situation where the truth does more harm than good? How many times have we told our children their guitar lessons are paying off and they're getting better? How many times have you told your daughter or niece, her voice sounds just like her favorite singer? We tell our friends or our partners their cooking was better than it really was as we try not to run like a track star to the nearest bathroom to throw up. Show me a woman who's NEVER faked an orgasm, and I'll show you a woman who's full of shit!

     Let's take it one step further. Do you think a parent will have to will to fight for his/her own life as they lie in the ICU, circling the rim of life and death if you tell them the rest of their family lost their lives in the car accident they were just in? Do you really want to be the person to walk into the burn unit and tell a mother who's not going to survive the next 30 minutes her children also perished in the fire? Wouldn't it be better for them to cross over believing their children or family survived? No one says it's okay to lie but to allow them peace is definitely worth the omission in my mind.

     There's no such thing as a, "Little white lie" Lying is lying. There's no hierarchy to lying; there are no points given or taken away, based on the subject matter or magnitude of the lie being told.

     Why do people lie? We lie to avoid consequences. From breaking dad's favorite coffee mug to avoid facing criminal charges to trying to save our own lives. We'll tell someone what they want to hear to give us time to figure something else out. We'll lie when confronted about infidelity, and we'll lie to cover up something we've said or done behind someone's back. We'll lie about making a move on one of our friends' significant other, and we'll lie about talking shit about someone when they weren't around.

     We'll lie to be popular. We lie in the form of gossip because the truth is fucking boring. We know nothing happened at last week's happy hour between Chris and Tracy, but the fact he gave her a ride home because she was too drunk to drive will be a full-blown year-long affair by Monday morning after the liar gets through telling it. We'll lie about what we did over the weekend, our hobbies, interest, etc. We lie about who we know, who we've met, and what we've done in life, all just to make ourselves more accepted into our desired social circle. We lie on our resume' to make ourselves more competitive for a job or promotion. We lie for attention. Some of you are so fucking boring, you have to make shit up, so people don't realize all you do after work is drive home, microwave a packaged dinner, and spend the rest of your night, watching porn, surfing the internet, or sitting on the floor, butt-ass naked, playing video games.

     We lie for sympathy. Claiming illnesses, you don't have or deaths in your family that never took place or happened 5-6 years ago. Men will lie to their lady who's on her way out the door to their relationship about the loss of a loved one to turn her around and keep her at his side. A woman will lie to her man about how much she REALLY paid for the new furniture she just bought, or how much she spent on her new heels. Men will lie about his age online. Women will lie about their body/weight. We lie to manipulate, to force others to dislike or exclude someone you hate or dislike. "He said/she said." Rumors. People will lie to gain favor from a particular group of people in order to gain the desired outcome, such as with politics.

     We lie for revenge. We lie to show someone else how it feels to be lied to. We'll lie because someone hurt us. Women will lie by not admitting what SHE did to contribute to the end of her last relationship. Men will lie about not being in a relationship. Men will lie about not having children. Young girls will lie about their age, not giving thought to the legal consequences a man can/will face when her parents find out he's 25 when their daughter is 16 but told him she was 19.

     A man will lie on his dick quicker than he can pull it out to stroke it. He'll always lie UP when talking to his friends, but DOWN if asked by a woman. Women will either tell the truth or lie DOWN as to not appear to be easy or slutty. Men will lie about being more sexually experienced, as in having a threesome in his past, where a woman will lie about NOT having one to protect her reputation. We lie for pride. We'll lie about who dumped who. We'll lie about spraining our ankle when we lose a game of 1 on 1. We'll lie about leaving our wallets at home during dinner, knowing we didn't have the money in the first place to take someone out on a date. Women will lie and say their child is sick to get out of a date at the last minute for someone else. She'll claim, "That time of the month" if she's not in the mood. We'll lie to avoid someone. Phone died. Didn't hear it ring. They have to work the next day so they can't go out. They have to go out of town, etc.

      People will lie to their friends about their partner to cause instability in their relationship. They either want the friend to being single and miserable along with them or to get them away from a toxic or hurtful relationship. Even worse, they want your partner and will lie to break you up. We lie to humiliate someone, to make them look stupid or incompetent. We lie out of jealousy. We lie because, in some sick-ass way, we want the lie to be true so badly, we'll actually start to believe it ourselves. We lie because we get a thrill from it. Some lie so much, they're actually addicted to it; like a drug, they couldn't stop, even if they wanted to. We lie to avoid confrontation. We lie to protect someone's feelings. We lie because we know if we tell the truth, it'll cost us our friends or loved ones.

     "I didn't see anything, officer." We lie to protect ourselves. We don't want to be a witness to a murder or against a drug dealer. We definitely don't want to tell the police a friend of ours drove home from the club, shit-faced, and hit someone crossing the street. We lie because we don't want to get involved with bullshit between other people. We lie to maintain our privacy.

       How can you tell if you're being lied to? Inconsistency; the details are never the same every time they tell the story. Look for facial expressions; raised eyebrows, lip-biting. Fidgeting, sweating, continuous blinking and repeating the question, as if stalling for more time to recall the lie. Over-selling the story; giving too many details, instead of focusing on the meat of the story. Or they can't remember any details. They're in a hurry to end the conversation or walk away altogether. Defensive; they get upset because they don't think you believe them. No eye contact. They look nervous while they speak. They'll search your facial expressions for signs of doubt. They keep repeating the same few things over and over again. Stuttering or long pauses. They'll put distance or barriers between them and the person they're lying to; leaning back in a chair, folded arms, etc.

     Where some see lying as wrong, no matter what the reason, others see it as situational. One thing is certain; people will lie until the end of time. Is honesty always the best policy? The truth is a human being is the only species on the planet, capable of lying whether malicious or noble; right or wrong, being sentient or self-aware gives us the opportunity to choose whether or to lie.


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June 9, 2019


     I don't know if it's the concept of entitlement, lack of intelligence, the progression of technology, or just not giving a fuck if it doesn't come in an application on your phone, but I can't stand by and continue to be a witness; a silent bystander when there's so much ignorant bullshit floating around modern society. I could care less what this is or how much technology has made our lives easier; there are STILL some things people should just fucking know or know better.

     It's not about being from the old school, or not wanting to evolve with technology; it's about basic shit we should just fucking know how to do. We did away with art and music. Driver's ed wasn't a waste of time. Sexual education wasn't just a class about the reproductive system; it was also about avoiding unwanted pregnancies and how to protect yourself from STD's/STI's. The easily offended thought it was too much of a useless or inappropriate subject and should be left up to parents to decide when to have that conversation with their children; it never happened because they were uncomfortable doing it. How the few felt was more important than being informed of the dangers that lurked around the corner from their children. So, ALL children missed out.

     I remember that week we spent in school, learning how to fill out a job application properly; how to write a resume. How to navigate a job interview, from what/what not to wear to how to answer questions during the interview.

     What's happening to us as a society? Have we really become so dependent on computers, the internet, and phone apps. That we've forgotten the basic shit, every person should just know? What if the computer goes down? What if the network fails while your business is full of customers who want to pay you for your service or products? What if you walk into a potential employer and they hand you a physical application AFTER you've emailed your resume? Without the basic knowledge of certain skills, you're pretty much fucked.

     The truth is, everyone (Or at least 85% of all people) should know:

- HOW TO CHANGE A TIRE. Even if they choose to wait on their roadside service company.

- WORK A MANUAL CREDIT CARD MACHINE. Are you really going to turn away paying customers because your manager doesn't know how to use a knucklebuster?




- BOIL WATER FOR PASTA. Just a little vegetable oil and salt in the pot will not only keep the pasta from sticking together in clumps, but it also keeps the pot from boiling over.




- CHECK YOUR VEHICLE FLUIDS. Not knowing how to check your brake fluid, transmission fluid, engine oil? You're asking for costly repairs for your vehicle that could've been easily avoided.

- JUMP START A CAR/USE JUMPER CABLES. Yeah, there's a lot of people who don't know red doesn't mean positive or black means negative; they're color-coded that way to keep you from crossing the cables and fucking up the battery or your car.

- NOT TO REMOVE RADIATOR CAP RIGHT AFTER SHUTTING OFF YOUR CAR. Unless you want a scalding hot chemical face peel.




- HOW TO DO A PROPER PUSH-UP. Elbows should be at your side, close to your body, not out like a, "T."



- SHAVE WITH A RAZOR. The battery in your electric shaver might take a shit, or you just may have left it at home or somewhere.

- SIT PROPERLY WHILE WEARING A SKIRT OR DRESS. Believe it, or not a lot of women don't know this; more than you think!

- PICK UP SOMETHING FROM THE FLOOR WHILE WEARING A DRESS OR SKIRT. It's called a squat, not the bend and reach.

- FIND A BOOK IN A LIBRARY. Remember Dewey Decimal? It wasn't a dream & it's NOT a fucking cartoon character.

- FIX A RUNNING TOILET. Don't be afraid to take the fucking top off the back of the toilet, that's actually clean water!

- READ A MAP. "GPS signal lost? FUCK ME!!!"

- DRIVE IN RAIN AND SNOW. Slow the fuck down and be careful. Crash into me because you're stupid and in a rush? I'm kicking your ass!!


- STOP TALKING AND LISTEN. You don't know everything; sometimes it's best to shut the fuck up.


- THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SAE AND METRIC. The U.S. Is the only place in the modern world that STILL uses SAE.

- APOLOGIZE. Enough said.


- PARALLEL PARK. Why the fuck isn't this skill a requirement in every state?

- HOW TO SHAKE HANDS WITH A MAN AND A WOMAN. Yeah asshole, there IS a difference!



- WRITE NEATLY/LEGIBLY. I don't read shorthand or that bullshit you call your handwriting. If it looks fucked up, I won't even try to read it. As far as I'm concerned if it looks like shit, I didn't see shit, and I don't know shit.

- SPEAK PROFESSIONALLY. When you're with your friends, etc. slang is cool; but know how/when to put your speech game on point when necessary.

- BASIC CHESS MOVES. Just how the pieces move on the board. If you try to jump me like you're playing checkers or yell, "King me" during a chess game, I WILL smack you with the fucking board!

- USE A MANUAL CAN OPENER. There aren't any outlets in the woods when you're camping, jackass!







- PROPERLY USE SINGULARS AND PLURALS. "Feets"? "Tooths"? "Gooses"? "Peoples"? Really? "No, I didn't see those 4 MOUSES running across the fucking floor!"













     Sure, some of you may be wondering why these things seem important. Some may wonder how the fuck do people not know how to do them. Some may believe that when the time comes to know, they can just whip out their phone, go online, and find out how to do it at the moment they need to. The truth is, right then & there might just be too late. You may be stuck in an area with no internet or no phone signal, then what? Your battery's dead, or your tires flat and you're staring at a spare you don't know how to fucking change it.

     You may think a lot of this is common sense until someone walks into your office for a job interview with an application filled out in light blue ink, with scribbles all over it from where they messed up, their resume has more misspelled words than a rap song. Your son tells you he's going to be a father at 14 because he either didn't use a condom, or he or his girlfriend didn't know how to take the rubber off the right way. You get a phone call from the manager at your business, telling you the card reader's down and they have to send paying customers away because they don't know how to fill out a manual slip. What happens when your son does the laundry, and your whites are red because he just threw a pile of clothes in the washer? Do you wonder why you're always getting overdraft Notices? Because one or neither of you is balancing the account properly; Then what?


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June 2, 2019


     As teenagers and young adults, one of the most important and critical duties of being a girl was found a boy too, "Hook up" with her best friend. Hooking up didn't mean the same then as it does now, it simply meant playing matchmaker. It was the responsibility of a girl's best friend to find a guy who was suitable for her. Back then, almost every girl wanted an athlete or someone popular; then it went down from there. Nevertheless, being a matchmaker was a sacred responsibility, one reserved for only the best friend. She was entrusted with finding the best guys who would take her friends to the movies, skating, the mall, dances, formals, and finally, the prom. That type of responsibility was an honor, and it wasn't taken lightly.

     Even now, grown women STILL see it as their duty to play matchmaker. While it was fun and sometimes necessary to nudge two people who obviously liked each other towards one another, things have gotten far more complicated; and with complication comes the potential for disaster. Where some women still think it's cute to play matchmaker, it's really fucking annoying and can cost you far more than you're willing or available to pay.

     First off, you know your friends as just that; FRIENDS. Unless you've dated one of them, the scope of your experience and knowledge of both people are based solely on a friendship level, no matter how long you've known them. Again, unless you've dated one of them, you're pretty much ignorant to how they are or how they function in a relationship. He could be a player, and SHE could be a slut. You could be setting your friends up with a stalker, abuser, sexual deviant; or even worse Even the best of friends don't share everything about themselves or their past; there are and will be things even your closest friends won't share with you, but will with their partner.

      Putting 2 people in the same place at the same time then walking away, allowing nature to take its course is the safest route to go when trying to make a love connection between friends. Playing matchmaker as an adult isn't the same as it was when we were younger. Matchmaking is manipulative. Mildly, "forcing" 2 people into a situation to interact, whether they really want to or not, for the sake of your friendship is pretty shitty. Of course, that may not be your intention, but that's how some people will take it. Part of the reason they're even going along with it is because of their obligation to your friendship. On the inside, they may secretly wish your gasoline-fuel flaming torture.

      Matchmaking is a form of intrusion and gossip. Before you shake your head in denial, it is; YES, THE FUCK IT IS! You've inserted yourself in someone else's personal life and nominated yourself as the confident, the ambassador, and the go-between in relation to their dynamic. You have to accept a few truths when playing matchmaker. Just because YOU believe two people would make the perfect couple, doesn't mean they will. It's not your place to take it personally. Your friends may not like your choices; hell, it may actually offend the fuck out of one of them. Matchmaking can destroy friendships; Your friends could actually get offended by your choice in who you thought they are attracted to. They could get pissed at you for choosing someone with a fucked up personality or ugly as fuck in their eyes. They'll assume you think they're equally ugly as fuck and call you an asshole for fixing them up. Your view or definition of what's attractive may differ from theirs. Playing matchmaker can give your friends a complex that you believe they can't find someone on their own.

     Your friends may stay in a match-made relationship far too long past its time; an obligation to your friendship. They'll feel as if they've let you down if things don't work out. The matchmaker will unknowingly make the person who isn't interested feel shitty about not being interested. They'll feel like they failed as a friend and the matchmaker will sometimes not even realize it. They'll ask 50 million questions as to why you weren't interested or why there was no spark, all the while digging a hole of guilt for the uninterested person to sink deeper into.

     The thing to consider before trying to play matchmaker is your role doesn't end after the set-up. You're going to have to choose sides; no matter what you think or say. If/when it doesn't work out and there's a breakup, your allegiance will have to go one way or the other. You'll deal with the blame of putting them through the heartbreak they would've NEVER had to go through had you minded your own business. Even if things progressed to marriage, during the divorce, you'd STILL get blamed for setting them up. Be ready to hear about every argument, fight, or disagreement. Every time one of them does something the other views as an issue of discussion, you can bet your ass, you'll hear about it. It's YOUR fault if one person's interested, but the other isn't. Be prepared to tell your friend why someone you thought would be perfect for them doesn't want to go out with them again. Be ready to hear all about the sex; EVERY DETAIL. Good or bad. Strap yourself in to hear about how big or tiny your friend's dick is or how bad she sucks dick or how much she enjoys anal.

      Matchmakers will also try to influence their friend's decision as to who they think they should be with. The matchmaker may not agree with the choices of their friends and believe they deserve better or different. In the interest of inner social group matchmaking, the matchmaker may want to keep all their friends as couples, with no outsiders involved. They may sabotage the relationship between their friend and an outsider to keep all the matches, "In-house" Another danger when matchmaking is the "Unforeseen" factor. Keeping in mind your experience with your friends is purely on a friendship level, seeing a friend of the opposites sex interact in a romantic capacity may backfire, causing the matchmaker to develop or realize their attraction or feelings for their friend. Even more, fucked up, you may become jealous of the relationship you actually set into motion.

      A little known 3-part tool of matchmaking:

1. The Self-matchmaker. A woman will comment on a man who just walked into the room, knowing her friends will take it upon themselves to approach him and try to match them up if they find him attractive enough.

2. The Middleman matchmaker. A woman's friend will send her man over to initiate the match, after hearing how hot her friend thinks a guy is

3. The third-party matchmaker. A woman will comment on a guy she finds attractive. Her goal? Her best friend's man will take it on himself to approach that other guy and, "Suggest" he comes over and talks to her.

     Overbearing matchmakers will go as far as to create online profiles for their friends on dating sites. They'll shop their jobs, their children's after-school activity groups, or daycare facilities for eligible, single people to fix their friends up with. Their circle of friends is a pool of choices for each other. Some people view matchmaking as a violation of their privacy. When someone tells you they're not interested in being fixed up. Remember; no means no.

     So, what have we learned about matchmaking? It's a bad fucking idea. It was funny and cute as teenagers when our idea of relationships was limited and underdeveloped. As adults, there's much more that could go wrong and even more to lose. When matchmaking, you're placing yourself in the path of a drug-fed rhino, on the verge of, "Roid-rage," waiting to charge. Don't assume someone's single because they can't get anyone or because they're shy. They just may not want to be with anyone. Respect your friendship, respect their wishes, and respect their privacy. If they tell you to stop, don't take it personally, JUST STOP!


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Q & A Vol. 6

May 19, 2019


Q: Does he want oral more often?

A: Absolutely not. It's EVERY man's dream to go the rest of his life with dry, chapped dick.

Q: Is sex REALLY that important to him?

A: Depends... Do you mean in general, or with you?

Q: Why are more black men dating white women?

A: Because white women aren't black women!

Q: Where does he go when he's out with her friends?

A: Depends on how cute or in shape YOU are...

Q: Why does she always want to go dancing?

A: That's the only time she's able to see a man with stamina and rhythm.

Q: Why doesn't he want me to know where he's going when he's with his friends?

A: Because if you showed up, everyone would wonder why his babysitter is at the club and not at home, watching his kids.

Q: How do I know he's being honest with me?

A: Because you haven't asked him anything yet.

Q: Why does he like porn so much?

A: He likes women who don't look like they have on big, baggy sweatsuits when they're naked.

Q: Why doesn't she want me watching porn?

A: Her weekend in Vegas 2 months ago.

Q: Why does she want to work out all of a sudden?

A: She's tired of you wearing her jeans all the time.

Q: She'll NEVER meet another man like me!!

A: That's what she's hoping on... ASSJACKET!

Q: I've been home from my week-long business trip on Monday... Why haven't we fucked yet?

A: She's still sore from Saturday night.

Q: Why does he jack off so much when he has me to fuck whenever he wants?

A: Because he has you to fuck.

Q: Why doesn't he take me out anymore?

A: Because you always find your way back home.

Q: What's her favorite scent on a man?

A: Memphis BBQ.

Q: Why can't he just lay with me after we have sex?

A: Seasickness.

Q: If all men are players/dogs, what does that make women?

A: Habitually stupid.

Q: Why does he always leave the room when his cellphone rings?

A: He doesn't want you to hear what he's saying... STUPID!!

Q: What do those bitches at the gym have that I don't have?

A: Less...

Q: Why does he watch sports instead of spending time with me?

A: Because if he doesn't watch sports, he'd be spending time with you.

Q: What's your wife's Bra Size?

A: Just above the knee.

Q: Why won't she wear dresses?

A: Her bra size.



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May 12, 2019


     Women complain there aren't any good men out there; just like people say there aren't any jobs. The truth is there may not be many basic, entry-level, retail, or gas station attendant jobs; but there are plenty of jobs for people who are qualified for them. Those who put themselves ahead of the competition by making themselves competitive, based on their experience, training, and education. The same goes for good men. If you have something to offer what the competition lacks, then you should have no issues attracting a good, decent man, or getting one to approach you.

     You may be out with your girlfriends or solo, enjoying a drink after work, or waiting for your friends to show up. You see a good-looking man who might seem to have his act together, based on the way he's carrying himself and want to get to know something about him. He notices you, and you exchange smiles, thinking you gave him the, "Go ahead, come on over signal." He remains right where he is, and you're wondering what the hell the problem is. Fifteen minutes later, another woman approaches him, and after a few dances and some conversation, they exchange phone numbers and continue the night, getting to know each other.

     Was she prettier than you? Maybe/maybe not. Was she sexier? Thinner? What was it about that other woman that got his attention when you were pretty sure your body language or whatever hints you threw out were obvious enough for a 3rd grader to pick up on? The simple answer is she saw what she wanted; she got out of her seat, and SHE approached HIM! She made herself open and available to be approached. Her attitude, demeanor, and her more outgoing personality are what snagged his attention.

     Finding a decent guy isn't as difficult as women make it seem. Sure, there's a shitload of players, just looking for a piece of ass. Women can normally sniff these guys out and send them packing before they can annoy her with his, "Game." But what about positive men? The decent guys? The guys who seem to have something going?

     You aren't being approached because you've turned down every guy so far, and everyone in the room has been watching. Apparently, there was something wrong with every last one of them. Having standards is great, but you just may be expecting just a little too much. You aren't being approached because the look on your face says you're not interested. You look like you just don't want to be bothered. Your body language says, "Leave me the fuck alone!" You were down-right shitty to the last person who approached you. You were WAY too fucking animated with the last guy. All he did was ask you to dance, and you did this crazy, weird, "Hands waving in the air" thing when you turned him down. That behavior had no purpose except to humiliate him and bring unwanted attention to the fact that you turned someone down and wanted to make a spectacle of his rejection. I hope you feel good because the guy you REALLY wanted to approach you saw it and was NOT impressed in the least bit.

     You may see a guy you like, but you don't remember him from the past when he may have been chubbier, or not dressed the way he is now. Facial hair or he may have been wearing a hat, or whatever. He came at you a few weeks ago, and you were downright rude to him, and he didn't forget it. You were rude to one of his friends. You were dismissive; not even eye contact. That's why he's not approaching you now, no matter how much you smiled at him.

     Men don't approach you because they've learned from other people that you feel as if they have to earn you. You feel you deserve to pursued. If he doesn't pick you up and pay, you'll attack his masculinity and question his respect for all women. You preach about being an independent woman; not needing a man. How you pay for all your own shit. You're the pinnacle of a strong, independent, modern woman UNTIL it's time to pay for dinner at the end of a date. You have a reputation of preaching your independence when it's beneficial, but want tradition when it's convenient for you. Men won't approach you because you think you're an "Alpha" You may be the boss at work, but you don't know how to be a woman in a social setting.

Men won't approach or put time into a woman who just assumes ALL men are ass-seeking players. Sure, there are a lot of them out there, but not as many as people think. Just because a guy goes out, doesn't mean he's on the prowl; he may just want to be out and enjoy himself. Every man isn't looking for ass, and every guy shouldn't be viewed or treated that way. If a decent guy does happen to approach, you've pretty much already stacked the deck against him, based on your past.

     You can't control who walks up to you and tries their luck for your attention and conversation, but a decent man doesn't want to be just another member of your fan club. He'll think you'll see him as just another guy, trying his luck. It's hard to pin you down to interact with you. You came in with a group of friends, or you're hanging all over your male friends. You're not getting approached because you're on the dance floor, wedged between 2 men, bouncing around and grinding back and forth between them. If you're the type that likes to flirt and hang all over every guy that smiles at you, a decent man will look right past you; only a player will approach a woman like that. You seem to live and feed off the attention you're getting, and that's a turn-off for him. Whatever the situation is, a good man won't be disrespectful and approach you in case one of the men you walked in with is your man.

      You're always with you girls. You seem to be focused on just spending time with them and don't want to deviate from that plan. A decent guy won't want to interrupt your girl's night out. You don't give yourself a chance to be caught alone to be approached, not unless you're heading to/from the bar, restroom, etc. You've stuck yourself in a corner, or someplace where a person would have to have jungle warfare training to get to you.

      You're always on your phone. Nothing turns a guy off like a woman on her phone all night long. That tells him you're either texting your man, or there's something that's going to take your attention away from the effort of getting to know us. Some guys just don't want to be on social media. You or your friends can't go 2 minutes without snapping a picture or taking a damn video. For one, that bright ass light is fucking annoying. Before you run to your fallback and assume we have something to hide, some people just aren't into that social media shit.

      Men don't approach you because you're still wearing your wedding ring. Men don't approach you because you swear more than a gangster rapper. You smell like weed, you smoke, or you've had six beers in the last hour, and you can barely stand. The people you're with don't even seem to like you. Your friends don't approve of your choices, and they treat the guys you choose like shit. When it comes to interracial attraction, you may unknowingly have racists friends. Or they'll want you to be with someone they've already chosen for you; who they believe is the best match and everyone else fails by comparison.

     You choose men who wouldn't be interested in you anyway. You're not their type at all. You're literally in a place where the typical guy who goes there wouldn't be interested in you. For example, you may be attracted to the cowboy type, but you're not the typical type of woman a cowboy would go for. You may be turning men down, waiting for a fitness, bodybuilder type; but you may be a little bigger than what they're attracted to.

     You may not get approached by the men you're into because they don't think you'd mesh well in the long run and they're saving you from future bullshit and heartbreak down the line. He may be into health and fitness, but you're obviously not. He could be into his work at the moment, and he doesn't have the time or availability to put into anyone. He could be focusing on spending more time with his kids. It could be a laundry list of things.

     You misrepresented yourself. Online dating has made it much easier to do that. Looks. Body type. Height/weight. Behavior. When the 2 of you met, you were more outgoing and flirtatious with him. You put more interest and focus on your interaction and your chemistry. Fast-forward to the first date, and you're absolutely NOTHING like you were when you first met. Everything about you was the product of how much you had to drink. The kissing, touching, dancing, making out was "Totally out of character for you" Even the short, tight, low-cut top and skirt you wore. Basically, when you're drinking, you're fun, but when you're sober, you're boring as fuck.

     You're worried about your image; you care more about how you're viewed to strangers than to be who you are or comfortable with yourself. You don't want people to get the wrong impression of you. You're worried people are talking about you behind your back, making comments about your behavior, just because you met a man and had intense physical chemistry. You're too worried about being disrespected. You won't interact in certain situations, because you don't want to look goofy on the dance floor; you'd rather sit there, wanting to dance. You have an obvious low self-image and hearing you talk about it all the time will frustrate the hell out of anyone. After a while, he'll find a reason to walk off and find someone else.

     The truth is there are a lot of good decent men, looking for good decent women. Not to put all the blame on the woman, but it's far easier for women to approach men. We're in a new day and time; if you see a guy you're interested in, walk up to HIM; approach HIM, let your attraction and interest be known. We don't respond to subtle hints or signals. You preach independence, and how you're such a strong, modern woman; put your money where your mouth is and step the hell up; it's time leave that, "Traditional" shit in the past.

     Where are all the good men? We're right here, staring you in the face. The chubby guys, the hard-working guys. The guys who don't drive luxury vehicles, or have a pocket full of money. We're not smoothest guys, or the guys with, "Game" We don't dance, or maybe we do like to, but we're not good at it. We're the guys you stick in the "Friendzone." The men you complain to when the man you pushed us aside to treat you like shit. Let us know you want to be approached, plain and simple.


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April 28, 2019


     We all like having friends; no one wants to go through life not having at least one or two people in their lives who they can truly count on or confide in. Social interaction not only boosts our self-confidence and self-esteem, but it also affects the way we participate in relationships. Our early friendships help form and develop us into the type of adults we are. Our intermediate and later friendships teach us about loyalty, honesty, trust, acceptance, communication, problem-solving, selflessness, and compromise, to name a few. Friendships are essential to our social development and positive interaction in our personal and interpersonal lives.

     Then there are those friendships that are just plain toxic; poison to everything we are and strive to become. From childhood to yesterday, we've all had or have someone in our lives who isn't good for us. Someone, we're better off not knowing, never meeting, or getting the fuck out of our lives. They allow the worst in us to show. They give others such a shitty impression of who we are by association, we've probably missed out on good friendships and possible relationships. These are people we need to eject out of our lives, no matter how long we've known them.

- THE SERIAL CHEATER - This person can drive away not only your good friends but prevent you from meeting someone special. Especially when it comes to men, in a woman's eyes, if one of your group is a cheater or player, you're ALL fucked up, and none of you are worth shit!

- THE CRITIC - No matter what the situation, this person can find SOMETHING to complain about. 100% free trip to Europe? They'll bitch about about flying coach. If they won $5 million the lottery? They'll bitch about the $1.7 million they have to pay in taxes. There's always a catch to complain about.

- THE PROFESSOR - The person who believes that no one knows how to do anything. If they can't do it or figure it out, then it can't be done. They always feel as if they need to correct every imperfection in a conversation. They'll bombard you with unnecessary facts that have absolutely NOTHING to do do with the main point of the fucking conversation. They want to show how smart they are.

- THE INTERRUPTER - That person who always finishes your sentences with his/her own story about the subject. They could care less about what you have to say. They want the spotlight. Everyone else's' opinion is insignificant.

- THE BORROWER - Why buy something for yourself when you can just borrow someone else's.What's the point in having your own shit when your buddy has one, and they won't tell you NO when you ask for it. Then after six months, you have to go them to get your own shit back. It's sad when a person has to actually ASK someone you thought was a good enough friend to loan $250, but you have to track them down to get your money.

- THE NARCISSIST - The guy/girl who believes EVERYONE should fall to their knees and thank the heavens they allow people to hang out with them or even be seen out in public with them. The man who believes every woman should want to fuck him and woman who believes she deserves to be treated better than, "Normal people."

- THE FIGHTER - That guy who wants to kick everyone's ass for staring at his girl, bumping into him, or scuffing his shoe. Any little thing will set him off, resulting in a fight or your entire group being thrown out.

- THE DRUNK - They can't go out and have just 1 or 2 drinks, they ALWAYS have to go overboard. They're loud, boisterous, and unruly. The drunk will sometimes evolve into the fighter. Then this asshole will fight his friends when they try to prevent him from driving or fighting.

- THE OVERAGED PARTY GIRL - She got married/had kids far too young and now that she's divorced or her kids are old enough to be at home by themselves, she has a lot to make up for. She'll want to go out every night she can, get shit-faced and drag her friends out with her. She'll grind on, flirt with, and try to fuck every guy that smiles at her, leaving her friends to rescue her when she gets herself in a compromising situation, ruining their night and bringing animosity on herself.

- THE ARGUER - This person can't have an intelligent conversation without getting loud and causing a scene. This is someone you can't disagree with, no matter the subject. If you don't see things their way, keep it to yourself to avoid the bullshit.

- THE DOOR CLOSER - This person just shuts the fuck down when they don't want to talk about anything serious, especially when it comes to problems in their relationships.

- THE MOUNTAINEER - This person ALWAYS has to be right about EVERYTHING. No matter how small the subject or infraction, they know how to make a molehill into a fucking mountain. True, seatbelts are required by law, but these people with recite word for word the statue on the wearing of seatbelts, plus its penalties. This person will flip the fuck out if a can of green beans is mismarked by .17 cents and will proceed into a 15-minute presentation about false advertising. They will make any issue more than what it really should be, then spend the next 3-5 business days talking shit about it.

- THE LAWYER - This person may run a cash register at the local retail store for a living, but for some reason, feel that makes them qualified to give legal advice on ANY fucking subject under the sun. They have an opinion about everything. They've been through it all and feel they have the knowledge to give anyone sound, credible advice, and direction, and will get absolutely piss-bent if you don't accept and apply it. These are the people who feed off the need to say, "I told you so." and can't survive if someone won't admit they were right for once in their lives.

- THE SUPERFAN - This is the asshole that screams at the TV in the middle of the fucking restaurant when someone scores a touchdown, or the referee makes a questionable call. They behave as if the people in the game can actually hear his stupid ass. This guy will ignore his woman/family for a fucking game. This is the ignorant fucking ass-dragon that will fight another ignorant fucking ass-dragon because they're wearing rival team jerseys.

- THE PORN FREAK - After infidelity and finances, porn can be viewed as another cause for problems in a relationship.

- THE LIAR - Enough said!

- THE ONE-UPPER - No matter what you've read/heard/done, they know someone who did it just a little bit better. If you know of someone who ran into a smoke-filled building to rescue three people, they know someone who ran into a BURNING building and rescued eight people. If you saw someone eat 25 hot dogs in 2 minutes, they've seen someone eat 35 in 1.5 minutes.

- THE-LOUDMOUTH - The HAVE to be the center of attention. They HAVE to be heard. They HAVE to be the alpha male of the group. Even when they realize they're wrong, they'll just get louder and obnoxious until they get their way.

- THE LATE RUNNER - This person knows how to fuck up plans. Once in a while is understandable, but when it comes to when your friends having to invite them 30 minutes early in order to get you there on time, you're a problem.

- THE MISERABLE ONE - This pertains more to women. She's had shitty relationships one after another, and because of it, she's always miserable and wants everyone else to be miserable as well. She's unhappy with her life and resents any and everyone who's doing better than she is. She'll intentionally cause rifts with her friends because she wants them to share her misery.

- THE BABYSITTER/THE BABY-SAT - These two go hand in hand. Again, referring almost solely to women, the babysitter is the "Mother hen." She feels she has to look out for everyone, to keep them honest, under control, and faithful; most of the time going WAY overboard. Then there's the woman who can't keep her tongue out of every man's mouth or control how much alcohol she had. She can barely stand, needing everyone in the group to take care of her, fucking up their good time.

- THE BIBLE THUMPER - As a religious person, I don't consider talking about religion to be toxic, but don't force your beliefs on other people. If you know someone isn't religious, don't force yourself on them. If they're not interested, respect their wishes and leave them the fuck alone.

- THE BUM - They ALWAYS want to go do something, but they never have the money; and they won't tell you they're broke until it's time to cough up funds, forcing everyone else to cover for them. They'd rather smoke pot, spend money on cigarettes, liquor or strippers than save for a rainy day. They use your loyalty to the friendship to their advantage.

- THE HUMILIATOR - This is the person who thinks it's funny to make you look like a fucking idiot in public whenever they can. Essentially a bully who doesn't hate you, they try to embarrass you in ridiculous and almost cruel ways, they think it's funny and you should too. They generate entertainment and pleasure from making you look stupid as fuck and will blame you for not being a good sport who, "Can't take a joke."

- THE SNOB - If it's not top-shelf, 5-star, or on the best of the best list, they're not interested, or they'll turn into the CRITIC. These people don't know how to, "Be normal." They enjoy being seen, being in the spotlight, being at the coolest places, surrounded by the coolest people.

- THE OPPORTUNIST - This person only wants to hang out and associate themselves with people who they can benefit from. For example, a ride to work or the grocery store, picking up their kids from school or a night out on the town. Someone to borrow money from. For professional or personal connections. Pretty much, anyone, they can latch onto and siphon what they need.

     How do you deal with a toxic friend? First, accept the fact they're never going to change. Keep them at a safe distance and respect your other friends if they don't want to hang out with you because your best friend may be the asshole in question. Don't get sucked into their misery or negativity. Stay positive. Don't be afraid to or worried about ending a toxic friendship due to misplaced loyalty or obligation. Do what's best for you.

     While there's no such thing as a perfect friend, you shouldn't have to subject yourself to people who are toxic to you as a person or the dynamic of your social circle. It could be someone you've to know for just a short time or all your life; it's YOUR choice to allow them to continue alienating you from your other friends or potentially sabotaging future relationships. Not all your friends are going to get along or even like each other, but as long as they're capable of respecting one another for their individual differences, that's all you can ask for. If you've gone through this list and you can honestly say you don't have ANY of your friends who behave 


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Q & A Vol. 5

April 22, 2019


Q: It's been two years, what's he afraid of?

A: Muscle strain & early arthritis.

Q: Who's her favorite author?

A: Betty Crocker

Q: What does she eat with her steak?

A: 2 more steaks.

Q: I meant, what vegetables?

A: Vegetables are for the weak.

Q: Are any men at her job interested in her?

A: Not unless she works at a blind school.

Q: What's her favorite color?

A: Cookies & cream.

Q: I said, COLOR

A: Gravy.

Q: Gravy isn't a color

A: Brown gravy.

Q: How do I get him to notice me more?

A: Give him less surface area to notice!

Q: I don't know why he keeps looking at that other woman; I'm twice the woman she is.

A: That probably why he's looking at her and not you.

Q: Why hasn't she called to let me know she got home after her night out?

A: Because it's still rude to talk with her mouth full.

Q: When you guys fuck, what's YOUR favorite position?

A: Blindfolded.

Q: What's HER favorite position?

A: Upright, fork in her left hand, spoon in her right, and extra napkins on the side.

Q: What song gets her in the mood?

A: The Oven Timer.

Q: When is it acceptable to allow another man to buy a woman a drink?

A: Right after he breaks up with her for accepting a drink from another man, no sooner.

Q: What's her favorite drink?

A: Log Cabin.

Q: I mean, what drink gets her in the mood?

A: Log Cabin Butter Flavor.

Q: Is he cheating?

A: Depends... Is it Halloween, or do you REALLY look like that?

Q: Is he lying to me?

A: Are you asking him a question?

Q: Why do men always want their cake and eat it too?

A: It's pretty obvious you're eating more cake than he is.

Q: Does he miss me?

A: Obviously... sooner or later, he'll buy a better scope.


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March 31, 2019


     When people comment on the way others behave or represent themselves, what exactly does, "Acting black" or "Acting white" mean? Does it refer to the way they dress, speak, or carry themselves? Is it about the company they keep or who they choose to be friends with? Is it the music they listen to, or their dominant peer group from their younger years? The truth? All of the above, and then some. It's funny how people will categorize each other in such a ridiculous and trivial way when the truth of the matter is that no one race or ethnicity is any better than another, and there's no patent or copyright on how a person, "Acts."

     How does a black man or woman, "Act White"? Because they pronounce the ER or ING at the end of their words? Because they'd rather read an actual book instead of searching social media, keeping up with the stupid shit the latest idiots are doing to perpetuate negative stereotypes? Maybe acting white refers to those who choose to watch something on television other than sports? Maybe it's a black man who enjoys playing hockey or LaCrosse, instead of football or basketball. Could it be because a black woman chooses to associate or hang around white or Latina women, instead of limiting herself to women of similar skin tone? Perhaps a black man who walks into a room and doesn't seek out the only other black man and immediate segregates himself from everyone else earns him the title of, "Uncle Tom." His interest in music may extend past Rap and Hip Hop and include country or classic rock. Black women may want to expand their horizons and open herself up to the experience of other cultures, due to being bombarded by the stereotypical, "Black culture" for most of their lives. That may have been enough for them.

     "White" isn't plastic surgery, breast enhancements, botox and/or liposuction. It isn't more successful than anyone else in the corporate world. It's not an excuse for why other races or ethnicities can't or don't advance professionally. White isn't swimming, poetry or fine arts and museums. All are welcome to experience ballet, opera, and fine dining. White isn't calamari and lobster bisque' White isn't pop music. White isn't doing well in school or wearing your pants up where they're supposed to be.

     "Black" isn't being good at basketball or football. It's not just collard greens and BBQ. It's not sagging pants or $200 sneakers with ballplayers names on them. Being black isn't malt liquor or throwing up gang signs whenever the latest East Coast/West Coast bullshit rivalry starts up again. Black isn't underachieving because you're expected to, based on being black, then turning around to use it as a shield to rationalize a person's conscious choice to underachieve.

     We look at white men and women who can put it down on the dance floor like a circus attraction. White women who can shake and earthquake that ass is seen as a freak of nature and be accused of acting black. We've gotten so bad that we've even assumed racial ownership of specific body shape. Anyone other than black women with thick legs, hips, and ass is trying to be black. Black women with who aren't built stereotypically or choose to get/stay thin are shunned as not being, "Real." A black woman with no rhythm will have her, "roots" questioned. We expect every black man to know how to shoot a basketball or throw a football. Black doesn't mean he's smooth with the ladies and white doesn't mean he can't pull any ass. Black doesn't mean she cooks/eats traditional, "Soul Food" and white doesn't mean Sushi and rack of lamb.

     When a black man becomes successful, he doesn't go out and, "Get himself a white woman" It's funny when black women turn their nose up and call a man out for not bringing a black woman up with him. The chances are that black man and a white woman were together BEFORE he became successful. Calling him names makes you look ridiculous. When a black woman walks in with a white man, it's because she's tired of the BS black men bring with them, and she's a hero and a survivor.

     People accuse others of acting a certain way based on what they feel belongs to them. They feel they have a right to claim particular racial interests and behaviors as their own. We accused black kids who did well in school of acting white. Kids who didn't wear, "cool" clothes were nerds. If black kids hung out with more white kids, it was because other black kids made them outcasts. Adults assign a label to people who chase the corporate ladder without crediting themsleves by their ethnicity as not having pride in their race. We call them, "Uncle Toms", we question their, "Blackness" and comment on how they, "Forgot where they come from" Why can't a person just be promoted to CEO of a company or win an award, based on the quality of their work or contribution to the company? Why is it so damn necessary to inform the world they're the first BLACK person to receive an honor or the first LATIN person?

     Rap music doesn't belong to black people. It's lyrics weren't meant to be recited strictly by those who aren't white. Certain brands of clothing, speech patterns, slang, mannerisms, etc. are NOT the property of one or two particular ethinc groups. We see a white guy with his pants sagging, hat turned to the side or with cornrows and readily call them out. We see a black man getting as excited about hockey as others do about basketball and other black people look at him like he's a freak of nature. Black women think every black man belongs to them and white women are stealing them away. We call them sellouts. White women are still worried about what their family and friends will say if they bring a black man home.

     There's no such thing as, "Acting" black or white. How a person represents themselves stems from the life and experiences of growing up, and continue to acquire during the course of their life. Infuences by their peer group, their upbringing, along with lessons and values instilled or left clueless to by their parents. Claiming a percieved right to something based on race, skin color, or ethnicity is not, "Acting" anything. The truth is those who label another person's character or personality by the color of their skin is racist. Call it what you will; Racial misappropriation, Ethinic misrepresentation, or whatever the hell you want to call it to make it sound like you're NOT a racist fuck, but it's just plain, old-fashioned racism. The type of racism that our anscestors fought to overcome, only to have it dug up again by so-called, "Modern society" It's the same racism, just wrapped in a different package.

     Why does it seem like I'm picking on black people? I'm not. That's not my intention in the least bit whatsoever. The truth is that white people don't normally accuse each other of, "Acting Black". Most of the time, they could care less what type of music their friends or family listen to, or the brand of clothes they wear, and so on. Sure, there are racist, white people out there, quite a few, but they normally keep their opinions, thoughts and comments to themsleves or share them with like-minded peers. They don't call out others of the same skin tone for how they represent themselves. So think about that before looking to me as being a so-called, "race hater"

     Black or White isn't a culture. It's not a personality, a behavior, or state of mind; it's a fucking color. Actually, one is the abscence of color, while the other is a combination of ALL colors. Nothing more, nothing less.


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March 24, 2019


      Triple-scooped ice cream, drizzled with caramel. From chocolate-covered strawberries to the richest pineapple-topped cheesecake. No dessert is as sweet as the taste of victory. Competition is an experience we've all had and will continue to have until the day we die. Whether we actively seek out competition or it finds it's way into our lives by circumstance, the mantle of victory will eventually be awarded.

     The battle between genders can and will come to us all, even if/when we're prepared for it or not. Woman vs. Man. Woman vs. woman. Man vs. man. The battle can take place over any subject, at any time, at any place, and at the drop of a hat or after adequate planning and preparation. One key truth about the battle is understanding the risk, what's at stake, and the prize. There are two aspects to the gender-based battle plan; the physical and the psychological.

     Men are brainwashed into thinking he has to stay single for as long as he can. In his mind, when he's single, he can't find a woman ANYWHERE; but as soon as he gets into a relationship, he's getting women all over him; they're coming out of nowhere and everywhere; he'll even think his female friends or co-workers are coming at him now that he's in a relationship. The truth is, that shit's just in his head. There isn't a regiment of women, hiding in the trenches, waiting until he has a lady to spring some sort of sexual ambush on him. There's no jumping out of trees, from behind bushes, or strategically-placed firing positions bombarding his base with smiles, winks, waves, or sexual innuendo. Women are more cordial and likely to interact with a man they don't see as a threat. Women will avoid a man they're not interested in when he's single because they don't want to have to deal with his attacks on her installations.

     Ninety degrees to the right or left. There may be a few instances where the man's scouting party may be right on the money. His spies could be correct when it comes to a woman being interested in him AFTER he's in a relationship. While the guy believes he's THAT damn smooth or good-looking, the reality is he's NOT the "Hot shit" he thinks he is. When pursued by this type of enemy, he needs to realize the goal of his adversary; it's either compete with the woman he's with, or she sees him as a skirmish; nothing more than training to get her soldiers warmed up and ready for the REAL battle she's seeking victory over.

     What do I mean? Meaning, a woman will pursue a man who's in a relationship (Even marriage) for 1 of 2 reasons. 1. She doesn't want a commitment, and she knows you're attached, so she doesn't have to worry about you becoming attached to her. They can flirt, fool around, fuck, whatever; but eventually, you're leaving. No overnight stays. No expectations past that night. No dates, trying to get to know each other, and DEFINITELY no drama. 2. It's a competition between her and your lady. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with you, past being one of the spoils of victory. You're nothing more than a trophy to be held high and a source of bragging rights when she tells her friends about how she's hot enough to make a man fuck around on his wife or girlfriend. The funny part is that she may not even fuck you; just the fact that she knows she could if she put it out there is enough for her to claim her victory.

     A woman will see another woman as an enemy. She'll compare the strength and capabilities of her army against that other woman and if she judges her enemy inferior in terms of beauty, figure, ass, hips, and tits, she'll wage war. She'll deploy her forces and do whatever she needs to in order to wipe that other woman off the map and have that man's eyes and interest on her. Resources drained soldiers beaten; the other woman will surrender, walk away and show interest in someone else. As soon as the victor knows she can have you, she'll lose interest. It's not about him; it's about destroying that other woman's army.

     The same will go to a man, although his battle strategy is much more stand-up and head-on than a woman's stealth approach. He won't take rejection lying down. To him, if a woman says, "No, thank you," it ceases to be about the woman as a person, and she becomes a conquest. A prize. The flag of his enemy that must be captured at all costs. If she has a man or a husband, he doesn't care about that. His goal now is to convince her to change her mind about him. He'll use, "Game" and smooth moves to weaken her defenses. He'll brag about what kind of car he drives to how much he makes to flank her. He'll use high-altitude bombers to weaken her fortifications until she concludes she may have been hasty and decides to give him a chance. He won't stop there; once her walls have been breached, he'll send his infantry in full force and slaughter the remaining opposition, ending up at her place or his. And after she gives up the ass, he'll take his victory lap, hoist his flag and she'll never see him again. Or at least until he can't find any other pussy to invade.

     A man won't care if a woman's single or married; it's all about pussy to him. There's no more glory in fucking a married woman than a single one; to him, it's all about the competition; the conquest. HIS glory comes from the battle itself. Beating his enemy into submission and claiming victory. Going back to his command base and reporting to his comrades his battle campaign was successful for the night, and they WILL celebrate this victory with high-fives and beers all around.

     A woman will use her spies, her sleeper agents, and her assassins to carefully maneuver her armies in place before executing her offense. She'll pretend to be a friend and confidant to another woman and earn her trust. She'll spend weeks, even months learning her enemies reaction plans, response time and vulnerable areas. Men will use brute force, armor and the courage of his infantry to attack from multiple angles, relying on sheer firepower and strength of number to win his battles. 


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March 9, 2019


     Seeing a player at work is entertaining. Seeing someone TRYING to be a player for the first time is funny. Witnessing an over the hill player at work is fucking hilarious! There are few things funnier but worse than watching a 50-year-old player, trying to remain relevant when it comes to working his, "Game." What's worse, the gut, his floppy man-boobs pressed against the tight fucking shirt he bought, thinking just because he got it on, it works for him. He doesn't even notice the buttons hanging on for dear fucking life around his belly area. The threads are unraveling and tearing every time he exhales. He could be wearing his Sunday best; that SAME fucking suit he wears every weekend, thinking he's going to bring the polyester/rayon blend back into popularity. Perhaps he went the other route, raiding his grandson's closet for the latest in clown clothes that make him look like a fucking idiot, I mean, the latest hip hop star or entertainer. Nothing says, "Single and ready to mingle" Like a man 50-year-old or older, wearing a fucking t-shirt three sizes too big with a marijuana plant on the fucking front.

     The player past his prime will go out for the night, dressed in his best, feeling like a fresh, crisp $20 bill and bitch about paying $5 to get in the door. (Because he's on a fixed budget). He'll sip on the same drink all night long, scared he won't have enough money left over for gas to get him home PLUS that obligatory drink he feels compelled to offer a woman he's trying his game on. Secretly, he's praying to the gods she declines. That's why he gets pissed when he gets turned down because he spent half his gas money for the week on that drink for that woman and now he's left assed out. Every weekend, you see them, sunglasses on (at night), ball cap turned backward. Basketball jersey and shorts or sweatpants with one leg rolled up, strolling through the door. He's eye-fucking every woman in the room, trying to figure out who the single women are and who looks like they're going to require the least amount of alcohol (Again, because he's on a fixed budget) and conversation to get his shriveled dick a go-around.

     The truth is these guys could barely satisfy a woman when they were in their prime. Age, gravity, that trick knee, bad back, heart issues, and his stomach became an issue, the chances of his success are as non-existent as his receding hairline, which now looks like the U-shaped second seat you sit on to take a shit when you're in the bathroom! This is the guy that looks at porn and believes if those guys can land hot women, HE should be able to as well — weighing in at just under 290 lbs. At 5'10, he'll dismiss a woman who weighs 180 lbs. and will adamantly refer to her as, "that big girl over there." Are you fucking kidding? Do you think you deserve to be selective when you have seen your dick since Bush Sr. was in office? REALLY?

     Players past their prime are a direct insult to any woman they approach; that's just the sad truth. It's bad enough to be hit on by an OBVIOUS player, but to get hit on by a washed-up player will make the wrong woman suicidal or homicidal (Metaphorically). You risk causing irreparable damage to her self-image and esteem. She's holding her breath while you're talking, wondering and thinking what is it about herself that's so fucked up at that moment that made you feel you had a chance. Call it shallow, arrogant, or whatever you want. A washed-up player can't afford to be choosy, even though he believes he has a right to be. Any woman who goes for him will be more than likely, overweight, unattractive, desperate, low self- confidence, and just fucking happy someone's talking to her. She'll know what he's all about, but she won't care; she's just glad she gets to brush the dust and spider webs out her pussy. That being said, ANY woman he hits on will think that's how HE sees her; that's why she'll take it as an insult.

     MORE truth? You're old. You're out of shape. You're built like someone double-wrapped a rubber band around a pillow. You look stupid as fuck, wearing skinny jeans and a jersey when you are 50+ years old. Turn your fucking hat forward. Your feet are ashy and crusty as fuck. Your big toe looks like a fucking eagle talon hanging past the front of your open-toe leather sandals. You've smoked for so long when you talk, you sound like a coat zipper, and your cologne smells like a mixture of sore muscle cream, bad aftershave, and old adult diapers. You'll walk up to a group of PROFESSIONAL women, with the worst and lamest pickup lines that didn't work for you even when you were in your 20's or 30's, thinking you've got game. When you get rejected, you'll turn into a pouting fetal bitch and insult her and her friends because your breath smells like old, wet cigars and denture glue.

     Knowing when to stop trying to be a player and graduate to being a man isn't a hard thing to do; it's hard for men to accept they don't have it anymore. Hell, they may have NEVER had it in the first place. Seeing a guy walk up to a group of women and asking each one of them to dance makes you look stupid and desperate as fuck; believe me, EVERYONE in the building is watching your dumb ass, whether you realize it or not. No matter how much of a player you think you are, there's absolutely NOTHING you can say to a woman she hasn't heard at least 20 times before in her life, so save that shit.

     The old man, "Cockblock" is even funnier. That's when a guy KNOWS a woman isn't interested in him in the least bit, but he'll be damned if anyone else will get a chance. He'll hang around her; far enough away to not creep her out by his smell or be obvious, but close enough to keep other men at a distance, out of respect. They'll see another man, checking her out or vice versa, and that cockblock now and then will lean over and ask her a question or make a comment, hoping to spark enough of a conversation that the other man will look somewhere else. We have a name for those; we call them scarecrows. Don't be an old, dirty, fucking scarecrow. That shit's creepy as fuck.

     Old time players are stuck in their high school and college years. They're either trying to relive their days as a ladies man, resurrect their player status or hang on to their youth WAY too hard. Or they were NEVER players, and they want the experience.

     Players past their prime feel they have to take advantage of every situation they can, no matter how potentially explosive the possibility; for example, in the workplace. I don't know where some of you learned about being a player, but one rule that should ALWAYS be observed is that you NEVER fuck with that are co-workers. That's drama, with cornbread asshat stuffing, seasoned with scalloped bullshit, basted with pineapple-flavored stupid, baked at 400 degrees for 2 hours with dumb fucker pie for dessert. Of all the women in the world, there's no fucking reason to be dating women you work with, especially if you're trying to be a player. That's just as fucking dumb as trying to to be a player, dating multiple women in your apartment complex; WHAT THE FUCK???

     The old saying goes, "You're only as old as you feel." That's a fucking lie. You're as old as your age; act like it.


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February 24, 2019


     When it comes to things we don't understand or are unable to relate to, our insensitivity can get the best of us. What we see as an innocent gesture, question or statement can fuck with someone else's head, causing them to feel like shit. Of course, the majority of us don't do it on purpose, but the effect and damage are still the same. Most people ask or say shit without thinking first, and it makes them look like a fucking idiot or a raging asshat, as well as the other person feeling indifferent about themselves, the question or statement. One such subject is about a person's physical body. People will say the dumbest shit, thinking it's funny or makes sense to ask while trying to mask it as a concern or the seeking of information.

     I've been both underweight and overweight, and I can tell you firsthand, people are fucking stupid. They'll say and ask some of the dumbest shit and not see any issues with it. As I've said before, I hate the word, "Fat" Even as an adult. I know how much it hurts and the emotional damage it can cause.

"Are you STILL hungry?" There's no way you can ask that and not come off like a fucking asshole who EXPECTS a bigger person to be more hungry.

Don't ask someone if they want to work out with you. If they wanted to, they'd bring it up. Especially if it's your significant other; your job is to tell them you love them.

"Did you lose weight? Have you been working out? You know they haven't. They know they haven't. You're an asshole.

"Are you sure you want more?" Fuck you.

"When are you due?" Fuck you twice.

" Do I look fat in this?" You're 5'8, 125 lbs. They're 5'4, a deuce and a quarter. Fuck you three times with a red ribbon in your hair. Bitch!

"Are you okay to go? (Hiking? Work out? Bike riding?) Asshole.

"Would you like seconds?" Of all the people in the fucking room; why the fuck would you ask the largest person first if they wanted more food? Why would you assume they were still hungry? Just because they're big doesn't mean they eat any more than someone of a smaller size.

"Do you really want to eat that?" It's on my plate, isn't it, you assdragon?

"Have you tried?" (Insert latest diet trend here). NO, I haven't! I sure as fuck don't want you to pull out your phone and search for it. I don't want to spend the next 20 minutes standing side by side with your inconsiderate ass as you read about that shit out loud, thinking I'm fucking interested.

"Don't you want to be healthy?" No fucker, I WANT to develop high blood pressure, I WANT to have a fucking stroke. I WANT to have heart disease or a heart attack. What the fuck kind of question is that?

"Have you ALWAYS been big?" Fuck you in the ass with an old, dirty wooden broom handle, riddled with thick fucking splinters in it.

"Don't you want to meet someone?" No bitch, I want to die alone. Asshole.

"When's the last time you worked out?" When was your last business trip you had out of town? Your husband sure as fuck enjoyed working her big ass from behind because fucking your skinny ass is like him wedging his dick in a fucking vice!

"How much do you weigh?" Why? Why the fuck does that matter? They weigh more than the person who's asking. Why would you put someone on the spot with a question like that? Even if they're confident in themselves enough to answer honestly, in their mind, you're still a fucking douchbag for asking.

"How much weight do you want to lose?" Who cares? Even one pound is a step in the right direction; support that 1 lb. Don't fucking worry about the total goal. Celebrate the small victories with them first, you inconsiderate fuck!

"Did you just fart?" REALLY? Did you really just assume just because someone in the room farted, it's one of the big people in the room? The truth is, smaller people tend to experiment more with new and exotic foods, so if someone ripped a vicious, stinky fucking fart, most likely it was one of them skinny fuckers!

"Do you want the leftovers from the potluck?" Fuck you. Fuck your mother and father. Fuck Your brother and sister. Fuck all your aunts and uncles. Fuck your dog. Hell, fuck the last person who changed the oil in your car! Bitch!

Along with stupid fucking questions, some people go even farther and say shit that could get them fucked up on many levels:

"At least you have tits and ass."Why's that a fucking shock? Can't big women be sexy? There are a lot of men who find sex with bigger women far more enjoyable than smaller, thinner women. Big tits and a nice, big, thick ass? Sign me up! Some women prefer bigger men because they're more eager to please a woman, instead of thinking they're the best thing since jelly in a fucking squeeze bottle.

"Oooof!" You are an asshole!

"I wish I could eat that much" WHAT THE FUCK???

"You're not fat, you're just fluffy" That's not a compliment. On what fucking planet would you think it would be? Nothing would make my dick harder and ready to fuck quicker that being called, "Fluffy."

"You're lighter than you look" Fuck you. Just... FUCK YOU!

"You should model PLUS SIZE or BIG & TALL."

"You have such a great personality" Don't be an ass; we ALL know what the fuck that REALLY means. "Mooooo!"

"That's cute; I might want to borrow that skirt/dress sometime." Bitch, you're a size 4; I'm a 14. You know it, and I know it" Fuck your first born child.

"You'd look better if you were smaller" Your husband doesn't think so. He loves the way her big tits slap together when he's fucking her from behind. It sounds like she's clapping for him, applauding his ability to wear that thick ass out.

"You're: Pretty cute. Pretty flexible. Pretty cool. You Can move/dance for a big girl."

"I love you, regardless of how much you weigh or what you look like." Translation: You look like shit, I don't want to fuck you, but you're a great person.

"Wanna see the pussy parachute? Try, "Damn baby, You can FUCK for a big girl!"

Telling your man you can't suck his dick because his belly sweat makes your face break out in acne isn't the best thing to say, even if he asks why you don't give him head anymore. Don't be an ass an grab your woman in the places you know she's self-conscious about. Don't play with your man's chest, pretending he has tits; that shit ain't funny or cute. Jiggling a person's belly fat should most certainly be a good reason to smack the fuck out your partner. Pet names about your partner's weight or size are also fucked up, and they're not fucking endearing in the slightest.

     Knowing they're a great person with a lot to offer, but no one wants to give them a chance because of their weight/size and settling for some jackass who's beneath them — being the fat friend who's always the DD. The purse/table watcher. Depression. Cancer. Premature death. Diabetes. The relentless teasing or the barrage of unwanted advice on how to lose weight. The "Cute" nicknames. Don't you think big people have enough to worry about already without your insensitive bullshit as the cherry on top? 


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Q & A VOL. 4

February 17, 2019


Q: Why haven't we had sex in the past week?

A: Because it usually takes seven days for antibiotics to work

Q: Where are all my SKINNY JEANS?

A: In the drawer, next to your fucking legwarmers!!!

Q: Why won't he ever go clothes shopping with me and offer his opinion?

A: Because he's honest, he loves you, and doesn't want to lose you.

Q: What does he do when he goes out with his friends every other weekend?

A: Tries to forget he eventually has to come home to you.

Q: Why doesn't he say, "I love you" anymore?

A: He does, you're just not around when he tells her.

Q: Why does she always criticize me and everything I do?

A: Think about it.

Q: What does she want from me?

A: Fresh breath, good dick, and an orgasm for once in her life.

Q: Does she think I'm fat?

A: Why would you think that? Just because you're the same cup size?

Q: Why don't we go to the beach anymore?

A: It's unlawful to remove marine life from the property.

Q: Does he still want me after all these years?

A: Depends... Do you still swallow after all these years?

Q: What's that white girl got that I don't?

A: Gym membership.

Q: What's he think when he looks at me?

A: FUCK!!!

Q: Is he not attracted to me anymore?

A: If you have to ask, then NO!

Q: Is he embarrassed by my big butt?

A: Nope, he knows every brother in the room wants to fuck you.

Q: Why won't she give me road head?

A: You can't drive with your gut on the steering wheel because your man-tits are in the way.

Q: What's her favorite candy?

A: Morning after pill.

Q: Why won't she role play with me?

A: She does; every time she tells you she came or had an orgasm.

Q: What's his favorite color?

A: Any color you don't have yoga pants in.

Q: How do I get him to eat my pussy more often?

A: Eat less often.

Q: Why does every guy like pulling my hair when we're close?

A: They're checking for an Adam's Apple.

Q: How much longer should I wait to bring up moving in together?

A: 35 pounds.      


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January 26, 2019



     Since we've covered the different types of jealousy and how to deal with them, I feel I should also point out a different form of jealousy that I've started to notice more recently, even though I'm pretty sure it's been around for quite some time. We all know when it comes to certain things, women have been known to be what pop culture refers to as, “Catty" to each other.

     We've all seen it before. We've been the subject of it, some of us have personally fallen victim to it. It's the first 5-10 minutes, that initial spark that lights the fire on the road to full-on jealousy. Men don't behave the same way as women when they're catty to each other, but you can bet your ass they exhibit the same emotions and reactions as women when faced with certain situations. I wouldn't necessarily refer to a man to being catty, because we react differently and on a different level, but it does happen. For the reaction and behavior exhibited by men in those instances, I've coined the phrase, "Bitch-Up" or, "Turning bitch" about men who display the same symptoms as being Catty.

     We've all seen it at one time or another. Either at work, in our social lives, even at church. A group of women will be the best of friends until an attractive, eligible man walks into the room and suddenly the claws come out.

     Jenny, Sarah, and Maria are the closest of friends. They belong to the same gym and frequently work out together. Darius is the new trainer to the facility; 6'2, 235, Dark-skinned, single accompany his great personality and willingness to offer workout advice. He DEFINITELY has the eye of all three women. To keep from causing friction in their friendship, each agrees not to pursue him. In actuality, they're all plotting to get Darius to approach them to honor their agreement. Jenny starts her work out a little earlier than her friends, hoping Darius will notice her attempts at eye contact and approach her. Sarah will pretend to struggle with her workout to catch his professional attention, positioning him to offer assistance and/or one on one sessions. Maria might wear more revealing workout clothes to catch his eye.

     Men, on the other hand, will turn bitch when it comes to someone, they've expressed an interest in and was either rejected or categorized as just a friend by his intended interest. He'll respect her, but will get Grade A, all-beef American hot dog, and apple pie butt-hurt if the subject of his attraction shows interest in someone else, particularly someone she doesn't know or just met. In the mind of the bitch he sees and interacts with this woman regularly; she knows him and, in his mind, has at least an idea he's a good, decent guy, but for some reason, doesn't want him. He'll rack his brain trying to figure out what it is about himself that makes him undesirable to her, but some guy in the passing.

     John and Megan have worked together for almost three years. Some time ago, John asked Megan on a date or expressed his interest in more than just a friendship or professional relationship which she politely declined, stating she didn't want to ruin the bond, or she'd just gotten out of a long-term relationship and focusing on herself at the moment.

     While working on a project, the new water delivery guy stopped at John's desk, asking for the locations of the water machines, to which Megan immediately offers to escort him around, leaving John to continue working. After 10 minutes, John finds Megan next to the water cooler by the break room, chatting up the delivery guy with small talk and playful flirting, showing no intent to disguise her attraction and interest. She sees John and assures him she'll only be a few more minutes. Ten minutes later, John finds her at the elevator door, smiling/laughing, etc. Returning to their project, Megan is now so OBVIOUSLY distracted; she doesn't even realize the look on John's face or the change in his demeanor towards her.

     You may be wondering, "What's the difference between being jealous and "turning bitch?" The answer is pretty simple. Jealousy normally manifests itself over some time and involves people who know each other. It takes longer to get over jealousy. Both men AND women can experience jealousy. When a man turns bitch, it's because he knows the woman involved and the other man is either new or temporarily introduced into their dynamic. People are far more able to conceal their jealousy, while a man's facial expression, immediate demeanor, even his interaction with the woman in question will be apparent almost immediately after he turns bitch on her.

     Usually, I'd say a man would only turn bitch when a woman is involved, but there are those rare occasions when he turns bitch in the workplace. We all know women will turn catty if one of them receives a promotion or special recognition. Rumors of flirting, being inappropriately social, or even accusing each other of sleeping their way to the top aren't beyond the scope of being catty. Men are less likely to react in that manner. They're much more discreet about how they turn bitch. They'll strike up a conversation with the big bosses about their interests and try to insert themselves into situations to be invited on fishing trips, golf rounds, etc. They'll take credit for a subordinate's hard work and pass it off as their own or ignore the chain of command and walk right into the senior manager's office with an idea if there's a credit to be given.

     Nowhere near as frequently as women, but a man will turn bitch towards his friends. Mike and Jay are hanging out at the club, and Mike sees a woman he's interested in sitting at the bar, having a drink. After a light conversation, she decides to join Mike and Jay at their table. Instantly, her attention turns from Mike as she clearly shows more interest in getting to know Jay. Seeing this, Mike will immediately turn bitch, even though Jay shows absolutely no interest in this woman. For the rest of the night, Mike will look at Jay in light of betrayal without giving any thought to the fact Jay turned her down.

     How does a person avoid turning bitch? The truth is, you can't. Whether you're prone to it or not, it can sneak up on you like a cobra. It can come out of nowhere and strike. The best thing to do is to recognize it ASAP and deal with it internally. If you're turning bitch over a woman, remember, there are so many fish in the sea, there's no reason to get bent because one of the many isn't interested. If at work, your time will come.


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January 18, 2019


     We've all been there at some point in our lives; whether it be over someone we knew, someone we had feelings for, been in a relationship with, professionally, materialistic, or whatever, we've been jealous of someone else for one reason or another. As we get older, you'd think those feelings would go away, or it would be easier to identify and avoid them, but that's not the case for some people. Shoes, clothes, toys, and popularity have been replaced by professional standing, looks, talent/creativity, relationship status, etc. The variables may have changed, but the jealousy remains the same, and instead of being able to get past it quicker and easier as we mature, it gets worse as we come to terms with the realization of our mortality.

     Jealousy is officially defined as a feeling of resentment against something or someone because of rivalry, success, or advantages. There are four recognized types of jealousy.

(1) Sibling: Sibling rivalry or believing a parent or loved one prefers one particular child over another.

(2) Professional: Competition at work for a particular position, money, social status with co-workers, unofficial benefits, etc.

(3) Time: Resentment of the time spent at work, on a hobby or any other outside interests that don't include the person who's jealous.

(4) Sexual: Refers to the possibility that someone from their partners' past may have been more sexually satisfying and enjoyable than they are/were.

Plus, there are three types of sexual jealousy.

(1) Normal: Refers to an actual event. Jimmy meets Mike, his girlfriend Sarah's Ex who's a 6'0 255 lb. Former college football star or male model. Jimmy's 5'7, 185 lbs. Jimmy played the flute in his high school marching band. Upon meeting Mike, Jimmy starts to become jealous and wonder how he compares to Mike when it comes to sex with Sarah.

(2) Delusional: Believing your partner's cheating with someone specific. Because they're working on a project together which causes them to interact more at work or on the phone than normal, Jenny believes her boyfriend; Matt is having an affair with his co-worker, Megan. Even though there's absolutely nothing going on between them other than the project, Jenny has convinced herself they're spending an unnecessary amount of time together, so they must be doing something suspicious.

(3) Projected: Seeing something innocent as something else or thinking something that's not there. This type of jealousy comes around usually when one person is doing something dirty, and they believe their partner's doing the same. It can also happen as a result of an outside influence convincing them the behavior of their partner is a sign of infidelity. When talking about projected sexual jealousy, more times than not, there's usually no specific individual or concrete evidence of infidelity; residing only in the accuser's mind.

     Another form of jealousy can include resentment among friends. One person can become jealous of how 2 or more members of the same social circle may interact with or without their presence. Sarah will get jealous because Megan and Pam go out dancing on Friday nights without inviting her. Another version of this situation Would be Jenny getting jealous if she saw her friend, Darius out on a date with another woman. Although Jenny and Darius are just friends, Jenny may want more and seeing him with another woman will awaken the monster. Jenny may not even realize she has feelings for Darius until that moment.

     What are the causes of jealousy? They are having little to no self-confidence doubts about a person's ability or skills. Insecurity. Shitty self-image, fear, depression, anger, anxiety, or feelings of inferiority. Honestly, it would be impossible to cover or even understand every cause of jealousy. It's just as impossible to determine how and when the green-eyed monster will rear its ugly head and cause someone to be jealous of another person. One thing's for sure though, men and women deal with and show their jealousy in completely different ways. For example, I'd venture to say men are more jealous of other men based on looks, ability to attract/interact with the opposite sex, and materialistic acquisitions, where women are more jealous of each other's age, professional standing, and background/education.

     Dealing with jealousy can be just as complicated as understanding the causes. Re-affirmation, both physical and verbal would serve as a HUGE deterrent from jealousy. If two people are reassuring each other they have nothing to worry about, the chances of either becoming unnecessarily jealous would decrease by a huge margin. It's when one or both partners aren't communicating their feelings for fear of being dismissed or appearing needy. Communication is another way to deal with or eliminate jealousy. It's also VERY IMPORTANT to communicate with your partner in an appropriate time frame; don't hold onto something that may have bothered you for days or even weeks before bringing it up, but that doesn't mean it needs to be addressed in public right after an incident either.

     Don't act on your feelings; you may end up doing or saying something you'll have to apologize for later or cause damage to your relationship. Calm down and address the situation in a way to not make the other person defensive. When facing jealousy in a relationship, trust yourself AND your partner; don't allow outside influences to affect how you interact with your partner. If you were cheated on in your previous relationship, take the time to heal; don't just jump from one to another with a massive hole in your heart or covered head to toe in armor, expecting the next person to make up for every other person in your past. If you're the jealous type, learn from your previous issues of jealousy, whether justified or not. Don't repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

     Dealing with jealousy of a friend is no different. Ask yourself what about them that makes you jealous. Remind yourself that everyone's different and some people excel in certain areas you may lack in but also remember that goes both ways; John may be jealous of Jimmy because of his natural ability to attract and interact with women, but Jimmy may also be jealous of John because of his professional status. Michele may be jealous of Sarah's weight/looks/figure, but Sarah may, in turn, be jealous of Michele's relationship with her husband or boyfriend. In any case, no matter what drives your jealousy, keep in mind there's more to you than insecurity. Focus on building your self-confidence and self-esteem, don't let your emotions get the better of you. Open the lines of communication, and above all, STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE!!


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January 5, 2019


     SCENARIO 1: After a long week at work, and still pissed off at your EX when you found out he'd fucked around on you during your entire relationship. Your friends convince you to slide on the shortest, sexiest thing you own and hit the club for girl's night out. After putting down your 3rd or 4th drink, he walks up and grabs your hand. You follow him out to the floor and IMMEDIATELY get to grinding your ass on him, grabbing his hands and letting him up your dress and all over your body. You've spent the last two years being the good girl for your EX; now it's time to let the slut loose for a night. During that time, you give him the short, brief version of how fucked up your week has been, on top of catching your EX with some other female, who KNEW he was already in a relationship.

     After a couple more, drinks and another 2 hours or so, you're standing outside his car, making out and he's fumbling to get his zipper down. You reach inside and wrap your hand around his shaft, and you're pleasantly surprised. He's a pretty decent size, and you can't wait to ride that shit, especially since he's been telling you all night how good he is and how good he's going to give it to you. You may be ready to fuck, but you'll still be damned if you're going to do it next to a fucking trash dumpster, so you suggest going someplace private, which he jumps at the chance at the pussy, so you head to his place. Once inside, you drop to your knees and take him in your mouth. He wastes no time flipping you around, pushing you against the wall, dropping his pants, and pulling your panties to the side...

     SCENARIO 2: You're sitting at the bar, sipping your long island iced tea, or laughing with your girlfriend’s, enjoying girl's night out when he walks up. He's nicely dressed and seems to carry himself pretty well, judging by his approach as he introduces himself and takes your hand, leading you out on the dance floor. After a song or two, you return to your seat and invite him to sit down and chat a bit. He's pretty impressive as well as interested in getting to know you as well. The chemistry is obvious an after a few more drink and dancing before either of you realize, it's the last call. You exchange numbers and make plans to see each other again, which also goes without a hitch. The physical interaction gets more and more intense each time you see each other, but he respects your boundaries and always makes sure he hasn't crossed any lines or made you feel uncomfortable.

     Fast forward to a month to 6 weeks later when the two of you have decided to take the relationship to a sexual level. He comes over, you enjoy a nice home-cooked meal, then settle down on the couch for a movie.

     Soon after, begins the kissing and touching, leading to a massive amount of foreplay in the form of mutual manual and oral stimulation. This time, you're ready; you take his hand and lead him upstairs to the bedroom...

     In both scenarios, you're soaking wet and take that first deep breath in anticipation of having him inside you. You exhale as he slides inside and grabs your hips, pulling you back towards him or he climbs on top of you, spreads your legs and pushes himself inside. The then the unthinkable happens...

     After 3-4 strokes, "OH SHIT, I'M CUMMING!"

     "Wait, WHAT???"

     He pulls out, breathes a sigh of relief and heads to the bathroom to flush the condom and wash up, leaving you to wonder what the fuck that was and what just happened. After a few minutes, he comes out and asks if you want something to drink or if you want to watch a movie or something. You're still standing/lying there, looking at him like he's the biggest piece of shit you've ever seen in your life. You're trying extremely hard not to be shitty about what just happened or didn't happen, but you can't seem to let it go.

     "WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT?" You get dressed, straighten your clothes and walk out the fucking door without saying a word. Two days later he sends you a text, saying he can't stop thinking about you and wants to know when he can see you again. Fuck him and his 2-minute dick, so you don't respond, and after a few days, he gives up and stops reaching out to you. Two weeks later you and your friends are the same spot again, and you see him there. By then, they already know what happened, and when he walks up to ask why you never responded to his texts, you try being polite, but he doesn't seem to take the hint. Finally, you tell him the truth, and after calling you a stuck-up snotty bitch, he slinks off, in search of his next disappointed conquest.

One of the most common things men do is build or raise an expectation he can't deliver on. He builds himself up to be a far better fuck than he actually is, setting a standard he can't reach in hopes of convincing the object of his conquest to want to fuck him. Another is he'll approach the situation drunk or, "Buzzed." They'll go even further to brag about their size and how the average woman can't, "Handle" what he's packing. Unfortunately, all these tactics set the guy up to be a HUGE disappointment to the woman. The sad truth is most of these men ALREADY know they're 2-minute men, and they'll use the old excuses,

"Oh baby, you're so good, wet and tight, that's never happened before!"

This is a lie and a shitty lie at that. Even if your pussy is fucking feather-light and feels like million-dollar memory foam, this isn't the first time that's happened, and if he enjoyed it THAT much, he'd had taken a break and came to get more. Some men blame stress from work or their personal life. I personally can't speak for anyone else, but nothing relieves MY stress better than having my lady ride me until she's dripping sweat and fucked all my stress out.

"My bad baby, I'm drunk or high, I don't usually cum that quick!"

More bullshit. If you'd rather drink or stay high than satisfying a woman or YOUR woman, you're a selfish asswagon, and you deserve to have your minuteman skills broadcasted to every woman who'll listen!

"It's YOUR fault! You made me wait too long, and I got too excited!"

     No comment... You ASSHOLE!!

     What DOES make a man a 2-pump loser? Is it physical? Psychological? Primal? We first have to realize and understand that during normal sexual intercourse the average guy will bust his first nut after about 3-5 minutes, what he does after that first one separates the minute man from 30-plus minute man. The truth is that some men are only really interested in their satisfaction and are okay with just getting HIS, whether it takes 5 minutes or 30 seconds. Most men want that first one, and that's good enough for him, and that makes him a selfish fucking assclown, especially if he has little to no concern to whether she gets hers or not.

But if you're the type who's actually interested in lasting longer than 2 minutes, try:

Breathing Normally

Slowing Down

Sticking to Basic Positions

Increasing Foreplay Before Sex; also, Between and AFTER Cumming

Jacking Off During Foreplay or Right Before Intercourse (Only if you're able to get hard or stay hard afterward)

Distracting Thoughts

Only Putting the Tip In

Taking Breaks In Between

Laying Off the Alcohol

Using A Condom

Increasing How Many Times You Have Sex

Stress the Need for Verbal Assurance That It Felt Good (Even though it didn't last long)

Go Until You're About to Cum, Stop Relax, Then Start Again.


     Does it make the woman a bad person when she walks out and refuses to communicate or see him again? Some will say YES, some will SAY no. The truth is that it's up to that woman. Would a man do the same thing if the roles were reversed if he came across a woman who gave him a horrible blowjob or even worse, the pussy was too tight to penetrate or felt like fucking a glass of water? The lesson here is that if you're just trying to fuck, bragging about how big your dick is or being able to, "Beat the pussy up" doesn't impress a woman at all; not in the least bit. She may STILL fuck you, but the whole time you're telling her how she's going to be limping after you get finished with the pussy, she wishes you'd shut the fuck up and just do it. If you actually like and care about him, don't be so quick to dismiss him; maybe he WAS nervous; perhaps he was a little too excited, and he came too quick. That's when verbal assurance and patience would come in. But it if happened again, not many people would blame you when you tucked tail and ran for the door.


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Q & A VOL. 3

December 30, 2018


Q: Why did he go right to the shower when he got home from the club?

A: He knows you don't wear lipstick

Q: Does my breath smell?

A: Yes

Q: Does he want to fuck any of my friends?

A: Of course, not... You dumb Fuckrag

Q: Is that video game more important than me?

A: Apparently.

Q: What's porn got that I don't?

A: Women who are prettier and weigh far less than you.

Q: What's that other WOMAN have that I don't?

A: 50 fewer pounds, the ability to see her feet, find clothes in her size virtually ANYWHERE

Q: What's that other MAN have that I don't?

A: Actual dick & the ability to piss PAST his balls.

Q: Is he telling me I could stand to lose some weight?

A: Not at all... He's saying tell your twin sister to stop following you so close everywhere you go!

Q: If she says, "Not right now," how long should I wait before asking her to dance again?

A: 3 months from that very second.

Q: Why does he always blast the music when we're in the car together?

A: You talk too fucking much, and your breath smells like ass

Q: Why does he look depressed when we're out together shopping or at the club?

A: Because you're still alive and breathing.

Q: Is she ashamed of me?


Q: Does any of HIS friends want to fuck me?

A: Depends... does he know you're walking up to the front door?

Q: Why won't he ever dance with me?

A: Probably because there are another 50-60 extra pounds of you to dance with and his arms will get sore sooner


Q: Why won't he kiss me in public?

A: Because every woman who knows him will think he's a nasty fuck for making out with his cousin or an asshole for kissing his best friend's woman.

Q: Why was that black girl trying to fight my man?

A: He ripped the sales tag off the back of her shirt, so now she can't return it.

Q: Why is that look on HER face when we go out?

A: It's 11 pm... Why does this ASSBANGLE have on sunglasses?

Q: Why's she so against anal sex?

A: She doesn't want to go where another man's gone before

Q: Does my pussy get too wet for him when I orgasm?

A: Depends... Are we heading out or coming home?

Q: When's the best time to tell him I don't suck dick?

A: 1941

Q: How do I know if he's lying about what he did last night while he was out with his friends?

A: Because you asked him about last night when he went out with his friends.    


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December 14, 2018


     For some, the gym is just a place to kill time; because it's cool to go or be seen, for others, a place to run, bike, lift a little weight, etc. For an even smaller percentage, it's a haven, a sanctuary, a chamber of transformation from a newbie (caterpillar), to regular (butterfly), to Dreadnaught. Where goals are set, met, and crushed. The gym is an altar of personal pride, growth, and self-confidence.

     Just like high school, the gym has cliques, ranging from the, "1-2 days/weeks", to the cardio kings and queens, to the zealots. No matter your inspiration, motivation, goals, or reasons for walking through those sacred doors, a certain etiquette should be observed.

     THE GYM GOLDEN RULE... No matter what someone looks like, how they're built, how much/little weight they lift, what they wear, how thin or how big they are, you NEVER make fun or berate ANYONE in the gym!!!

- Benches are for working out, NOT FOR KEEPING YOUR SHIT OFF THE FUCKING FLOOR!! Be it your phone, water bottle, etc. Don't take up a bench someone else could be using!

- The SQUAT RACKS ARE FOR SQUATS!! There are plenty of other places to do curls, bench press, etc.

- Wipe off the fucking equipment when you're done; people have no idea how much shit can get passed through your nasty ass sweat because you're too fucking lazy and inconsiderate to wipe the bench/machine when you're done.

(For the example of what can be passed through your sweat: HPV, MRSA, Influenza, and a variety of Staph infections)

- "HOW MANY SETS DO YOU HAVE LEFT?" This is a pointless question; whether I have 1 or 100 sets left, I'm done when I'm fucking done!

- There’re no such things like a "Favorite" machine or bench; just sit down and lift, ASSJACKAL.

- Some gyms are set up to where a piece of equipment is behind or close to another; sometimes women perform exercises that may make them uncomfortable to have a male behind them while they exercise. Be respectful and make sure they're okay with you being close to, or behind them, they'll appreciate it.

- Stop bunching up... there’s nothing worse than 5-6 guys working out in a ten by ten area when there's three times the amount of space being unused

- The gym IS NOT a single or pick-up spot. Granted, some actually go to the gym, hoping to meet people, but not nearly as many as one would think.

- THE GYM IS NOT A FUCKING LIBRARY!!! People will grunt, weights dropped, dumbbells will clang together, or bounce placed back on the racks. There will be guys bigger and stronger than you, lifting WAY more weight than you. There's going to be women walking through the door with great figures, in workout clothes that leave very little to the imagination. Don't be a lightly-powdered bitch with sand in your crotch because you feel, "intimidated" by someone making noise or showing off their hard work and progress about their attire IT'S THE FUCKING GYM!

- Don't be creepy! Of course, there's going to be physically attractive people in the gym, with figures and outfits that look really fucking good; that being said, especially guys, stop following women around, trying to find reasons to work out behind them to watch them squat, etc.

- Headphones are gym language for LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!

- WARNING... OBJECTS RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR ARE NOT STRONGER THAN THEY REALLY ARE! Back the hell up. Just because YOU can't lift it, doesn't mean nobody else can. It's rude as hell to put someone in a position to have to pick up and carry 85 lbs. Weights to the opposite end of the rack because you want to watch yourself curl 30 lbs. Weights right in front of the heavier weights.

- Working right off the rack makes you an asshole!

- If you absolutely MUST have a conversation with someone, get up from the machine you're on, or don't block or lean on the fucking machine, I'm using.

- If you're texting, GET OFF THE BENCH/MACHINE!

- This is something that only happens in the men's locker room; Guys will shower, and instead of wrapping themselves will walk around the locker room naked, with their towels OVER THEIR SHOULDER.

- Women don't go to the gym, looking for love, no matter what you may think.

- Women will talk to each other with another person in between them; this annoys the fuck out of people; or they'll sit on the machine, talking for 5-15 minutes, hogging the machine and doing nothing with it.

- If the bench has a towel on it, IT'S TAKEN, ASSHAT!

- Stop being focusing on your weight loss! Stay off the scale; there's absolutely NO REASON to weigh yourself EVERY DAMN DAY. What you eat and drink that day will affect your weight. The weather and time of day affect your weight. For women, her menstrual cycle affects weight.

- STOP WEARING TRASH BAGS UNDER YOUR CLOTHES!! Mostly women are the ones who wear trash bags and sauna suits, thinking they help sweat off more calories and fat; for one, you look ridiculous, wearing a trash bag. Second, the number of calories burned wearing a sauna suit just isn't enough to justify buying one, and as far was the WATER WEIGHT you shed during the exercise, as soon as your workout's over, you're gonna grab a bottle of water and put it all back on again...

- If you were BORN a man, use the MEN'S LOCKER ROOM! Of course, that doesn't apply to post-M2F surgery.

- To couples who come to the gym together... Not everyone wants to fuck your partner. There's very little need or reason to piss a ring around your lady or stop by to kiss her every 5 minutes, for the purpose of marking your territory, especially if she's near men who are lifting far past HIS ability.

- If you're using your gym's personal trainer program, understand that if you still NEED your trainer after 5-6 months to continue your workout for any purpose other than motivation, you have a shitty trainer. By the 6- month mark, any GOOD trainer would've provided enough information and results to make his/her client confident enough to branch out and continue without them. Otherwise, it just comes down to them stringing you along for the money.

- Women are more likely to accept workout tips than men, even from men; men take it personally or become defensive when another man tries to keep him from injuring himself due to poor form/technique.



- Everyone's different; some will gain size/strength/definition quicker and easier than others. It's fucking rude and insulting to not only assume, but to ask someone if they're on steroids or any other PED's. It's not even funny to joke about it.


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December 8, 2018



     The simple answer is because they choose to; that's what they're attracted to based on preference, attraction (Both physical and emotional), even sometimes professional. The reason someone prefers to seek and cultivate a relationship is no one's business but theirs and should require very little explanation or justification past that and only has to make sense to that couple. However, if that reason doesn't satisfy your curiosity, there are also outside truths and factors that are considered.

     What would cause a black man to stroll past 30-40 eligible black women to approach 1 of 5 of the only white women in the same room? Let's cover a few of those reasons from a black man's perspective.

First of all, and most importantly, people of ALL races and ethnicities are attracted to who they're attracted to, and that should be enough of a reason to pursue someone of the same or different race, color, ethnicity, gender, etc.

- Physical attraction. A BASEMENT or FOUNDATION, the first rung on the ladder to choosing to begin and continue the possibility of going any further or running for the hills. Physical attraction gets your foot in the door.

- Chemistry. Is that "Spark" two people feel when meeting for the first time or the unplanned crossing of paths in a crowded room. Chemistry is almost instant; it can't be learned, forced, convinced, or persuaded, and it doesn't develop over time. It's there, or it isn't. Chemistry decides whether or not to graduate to mutual interest.

- Mental or Emotional attraction. Comes after the initial conversation or short-term exchange of information about one another; background, likes and dislikes, interests and hobbies, etc. At this point, the decision is made to exchange contact information or simply thank each other and walk away.

Some black women will argue how hard it is for a decent black woman to meet an equally reputable black man when there so many white women out there, with their tits hanging halfway out, or walking around the office in skin-tight/short skirts and dresses. They complain about white women being more sexually submissive and use words like WEAK, DOCILE, and DOORMAT to rationalize why good, decent black men won't approach them. Whatever the excuse or defense anyone comes up with, attraction and freedom of choice is STILL the plain and simple truth; however, if black women are still unwilling to accept this, perhaps it'll help to view it from other aspects.

- White women ARE NOT, "Taking away all the good black men" In most cases, if asked, it's almost always the black man who approached the white woman.

- White women are NOT, "Doormats" which that is covered in more detail in another article titled, "Dynamic Duo." There are strong-willed, independent, mentally tough women of ALL RACES; black women don't have the market on personal strength and courage cornered. Black women are no more mentally or emotionally stronger than anyone else and not superior.

- Black men are no one's property too, "Take."

- White women are not only more giving and accepting of PDA, but they CRAVE it.

- Not all white women are, "Freaks." To what some people refer to another's behavior as NASTY or FREAKY, is nothing more than normal behavior for those two people. Contrary to what black women tell themselves or each other, black men don't choose white women solely on the expectation they suck dick, swallow, or take it in the ass, etc.

- Black men don't choose white women over black because he's WEAK or unable to, "Handle" a strong black woman! Nor does he choose white women because they have or make more money.

Now, let's examine a few more truths about black women that may give more insight as to why black men choose to pass you up.

     A black woman will claim a white woman as a friend, her very BEST friend. When approached by an eligible black man, if he shows that white woman more attention, the tables turn, and then it's, "That white bitch ain't shit."

     Although all women do this, black women openly preach and claim independence FAR more than others; they stress having their own money, car, pay their bills, and how they don't need a man for a fucking thing... UNTIL the dinner check comes, or they're standing at the ticket window at the movie theater. They wear their independence like armor, as long as it's convenient and beneficial for them. Black women say, "My money is MY money, YOUR money is OUR money."

     Say what you will about police, politicians, etc. When it comes to a white woman and a black man, black women can be just as racist as a modern-day clansman.

     Black women will express their disgust and disapproval of an interracial relationship, intentionally, out loud enough to be heard by others, especially that particular couple. They'll even comment and complain to THEIR man, as if he cares, or also WANTS to listen to her mouth about it.

     It is true, that white woman may look goofy as hell out on the middle of the dance floor with less coordination than a 3-year-old, trying to run an obstacle course. But at least she's enjoying herself and having a good time, instead of sitting on her ass, with a look on her face like she just took a bite from a shitty diaper.

     From my personal experience, black women are quick to want to say I TOLD YOU SO! They thrive on being right and want it acknowledged at every turn.

     More white women are turned on by having their hair pulled during foreplay and sex. A black woman doesn't want her new expensive weave pulled out her head when she's taking the dick, and if her hair DOES get messed up, guess who she's going to expect to pay for getting it fixed?

     Not limited to just black women, but from experience, black women are far too concerned about how they're viewed in front of others, much to the sacrifice of meeting their partner's physical needs. They worry too much about being disrespected, and they have a HUGE issue with PDA, thinking it'll make them look like a "Hoe" The, "Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" mentality doesn't work for some men. Some men enjoy having their woman show them attention and affection in public, along with physical intimacy and sensuality. Also, as long as the environment dictates, what's so wrong with getting a little dirty?

     White women can get sweaty during sex; they don't mind it at all; they ENJOY it. They don't care if their hair gets wet whether fucking or even making out in the shower without getting an earful about, "A sista's hair” Pool sex... Enough said. As soon as a black woman's hair gets messed up or wet, it's a wrap!

     A lot of interracial couples find the contrast in skin tone or color extremely attractive and sexy, also believing their union will produce beautiful children.

     In the eyes of black women, black men who date white women are weak-ass, "Sellouts." Black WOMEN who date white MEN are heroes who just got sick of a black man's bullshit.

     Black women believe black men use them to get where they want to be socially, financially, and professionally, only to ditch them for a white woman when they reach their goals.

     Some black women won't even blink if approached by a decent black man if he doesn't fit in a particular mold, she's set beforehand, but she'll have PLENTY to say when she sees that same man later in the night with a white woman.

     Not limited to just black women, but more so than others, black women have an issue with the word, "Submissive," believing they have to sacrifice their independence or whatever. They have minimal concept of how to be a woman in a relationship; they're too busy trying to play the role of an "Alpha Female."

Black women believe just because they share the same skin color or ancestry; black men BELONG to them.

     Black women have an "Entitlement" complex, coupled with a BLACK QUEEN mentality that leads them to believe that black men should approach and pursue them, while white women will more likely approach a black man, she's interested in.

     Black women are quick to say that black men choose white women because they suck dick and swallow; AND??? Even if that were true, why would doing what pleases your man be such a horrible thing to do? Perhaps it would benefit your relationship to suck more dick and bitch less?

     Seven words; "A SISTA WOULDN'T PUT UP WITH THAT!" Black women are always trying to give advice or convince other women to change; to not let anyone take advantage of them, disrespect them, or take away their power or independence.

     White women won't point out that a man has been talking to them for 10-15 minutes and haven't offered to BUY THEM A DRINK YET!

     Black women will HATE a white woman for the sole reason that she caught her man checking out a white woman, instead of being pissed at her man for being disrespectful.

     White women will THANK YOU if you tear the sales tag off their new top when they're out on the town with the girls, instead of wanting to cut you because they can't return it to the store the next afternoon!

     Black women believe they're superior in every aspect across the board, whether physically, financially, education, professionally, and mentally. They think the past challenges they've individually faced and conquered has made them stronger than other races and no one else could understand what it's like to be a black woman in today's society.

     Physical or sexual attraction being the case, Black men who work out frequently prefer women who do the same. From my personal experience, the percentage of black women who take a more than average interest in their physical fitness seems FAR LESS than white women. Black women take more pride in being big as hell, thinking every black man likes/wants that.

     In conclusion, instead of talking shit about white women taking away all the good, decent and eligible black men; perhaps it may be more beneficial to find out how and what that woman did to get her man. If it bothers you THAT much, try pulling one aside and asking what she did to get him to approach her and what she does to keep him; then take that information and put it to use.


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December 1, 2018


     It's sad but true, a large percentage of women are unaware of the real truth which once learned, can't be unlearned and that truth happens to be...


     Say what you will, but it's true. Most women don't realize it, and they never will because men are FAR more biomechanical than women; they have the ability to ejaculate (cum) from the act of continuous friction against their sexual organ. Even if they're not the least bit attracted to the woman they're dancing with, the physical act of grinding his shit against a woman is enough to cause him to bust a nut.

     Granted, a DRY FUCK may not be his first choice, but circumstances may come to play against him. Of course, his primary goal is finding the sexiest, most attractive woman possible to take home and fuck, but if he's having a slow/bad night, he'll be satisfied with getting his dick sucked, hand job, and lastly, the dry fuck.

     Also, we have to accept that a man's standards will diminish over the night; As the female pool gets smaller. There are, however, factors he does consider, such as environment and location. When trying to find something to get him off for the night, men have a hierarchy as to where he wants to fuck, depending on how attractive the woman he's fucking is. The order of location is as follows...

A. HER/her friend's place

B. HER car or outside the bar, club, etc.

C. HIS friend's place. (Depending on how she looks)

D. HIS car

E. Outside HIS apartment

F. Lastly, actually inside HIS place

     Trust me when I say that unfortunately, looks (Both face AND body) also determines what type of sexual release a man will seek from a woman.

     Ethnicity also plays a part in release type. Usually, white men don't really have it in them to accept the public dry fuck, due to the fact that most of the women they're attracted to, quite frankly, have ZERO ASS! So, there's a lot less potential for the type of friction needed to bust a nut, making oral and sexual intercourse their primary goal.

     Plus, white guys are normally unable to be as discreet as necessary if it came to the point where they actually DID bust a nut; meaning, their facial expressions would most likely give it away. Nothing would embarrass them more than the heavy-breathing, toe-curling, "Bitter Beer Face" everyone in the bar would notice.

     Black men are into an ass; plain and simple... ASS! The type of ass so thick when he's fucking her from behind, he can barely see his dick going in or out. That's the type of ass that'll provide the friction needed for a dry fuck nut.

     A large percentage of Hispanic men don't concern themselves with the dry fuck or getting their dick sucked as much as white or black men. For them, it's all about the pussy; that's their focus.

     Lastly, the important question: "HOW WOULD I KNOW HE JUST BUSTED A NUT WHILE GRINDING UP ON ME?"

     The answer is pretty simple; again, I promise many of you have noticed/experienced these signs, without giving a second thought to it...

A. He goes from bumping and grinding to simply walking off in the middle of the song with no explanation or warning; he may thank you for the dance, but he wants off the floor before you notice the huge cum stain on his pants.

B. He IMMEDIATELY becomes obsessed with pulling/keeping his shirt pulled down; or if he's wearing a shirt that was previously tucked in, he'll pull it out... Again, to prevent anyone from noticing the cum-soaked puddle in his crotch area.

C. He'll go from being all up on you, hands on your hips and bouncing you against his shit, grinding his boner on you, or rotating your ass on him, to an INSTANT foot or two of space between you.

D. He heads to the bathroom right when the song ends; obviously to use the hand dryer (If there's one available) to dry his pants off, praying there's no restroom attendant.

E. He actually TELLS you he's cumming...

F. He grabs your hips (Or your ass if he's facing you) as hard as he can and starts shaking, wiggling, or whatever he does when he busts a nut.

G. He goes from letting you touch, rub, and grab all on his dick, (Sometimes even shoving your hand in his pants to let you stroke him), then pulls your hands away suddenly, so you don't feel his wet spot.

H. He stops dancing for the rest of the night, or at least until his pants dry and maybe leaves the club altogether.

I. He doesn't want to dance anymore but still wants to sit and talk when he comes back from the bathroom, in hopes of still getting some pussy at the end of the night.

J. He shoves his hand in his pocket in hopes of pinching it off.

      There you have it... Right now, some of you are thinking back, trying to remember whether or not you've ever seen or experienced any of these in person or heard about it from one of your friends. I guarantee now that you've read this, you'll have an "Ah-Hah" moment, the next time you have or see somebody do one or more of these... You may laugh, be embarrassed, or even disgusted, but at least you'll be informed... Happy dancing!!


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Q & A VOL. 2 

November 16, 2018


Q: Will a woman lie and say I have a tiny dick out of spite?

A: No... If she says you have a tiny dick, you ACTUALLY just have a tiny dick!

Q: It's been six months, why am I not his lady yet?

A: Because you haven't required him to do so; by the sixth month, you're

already doing everything two people in a relationship would be doing anyway.

Q: Does he think my tits are too flat and flabby?

A: Depends... Have he ever seem a D-cup pancake?

Q: Why do guys wait until 40 minutes before the club closes to ask me to dance?

A: Because you're the last resort... you're either fat or ugly as fuck!

Q: Does he think I've gained too much weight?

A: If you have to ask, you already know.

Q: Why's he dressing better and working out all of a sudden?

A: He's either fucking somebody else, TRYING to fuck somebody else, or WANT to fuck somebody else.

Q: Why does he always want to fuck me with the lights off at night or from behind during the day?

A: He's saying in some way, shape, or form that you look like shit, but he still wants some pussy.

Q: Why doesn't he ever want me to ride on the back of his motorcycle?

A: You're too big to balance the bike, or he doesn't want to be seen with you.

Q: Why won't he kiss me after I swallow?

A: Because he's an asshole.

Q: Why does it bother him that my child's name is tattooed on my breast?

A: Most of the time, it's not your son's name, especially if your son's a Jr. or because it would be weird to be caressing/sucking your tits and having your child's name in my fucking mouth!! No man wants to open his eyes and see any kid's name covered in his slobber.

Q: Why do all my friends get hit on when we go out, but I don't?

A: Because you're not only built like you were assembled by a 5-year-old, but you're also not pretty.

Q: Why haven't I met any of HIS friends yet?

A: He's embarrassed/ashamed of you.

Q: Why haven't I met any of HER friends yet?

A: She's worried about what they'll think of you.

Q: Does this outfit make my ass look fat

A: No, your fat makes your outfit look like an ass!

Q: Why won't he pause the video game if I want a quick fuck or to suck his dick?

A: Because he doesn't want to fuck you and you suck dick like shit.

Q: How do I get her to suck my dick more often?

A: Walk up to her, pull your dick out and put it in her mouth.

Q: Why doesn't he take me out dancing as much as he used to?

A: He doesn't think he should have to pay for three people.

Q: We fucked once, why hasn't HE called?


Q: We fucked once, why hasn't SHE responded to any of my texts?

A: Again, REALLY??

Q: Where are all my yoga pants?

A: Casualties of war in the great battle of, "Yoga pants make your ass

look like a trash bag full of jagged rocks" campaign of 2018.

Q: Why are all my pot leaf t-shirts in the garbage?



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Q & A VOL. 1

November 16, 2018


Q: Why does he ALWAYS seem to walk faster than me when we're at the grocery store?

A: It's 2 pm, you're wearing pajama bottoms, a dingy wife-beater, your hair looks like it was rolled with a fucking firecracker and you smell like the girl in high school who fucked every guy she went out with.

Q: What's that look on his face whenever we go out together?

A: "Yeah, I know she looks fucked up, but she buys me weed through."

Q: Why does he act like he doesn't hear me sometimes?

A: Because sometimes you talk too fucking much!

Q: What's he get at the strip club that he doesn't get at home?

A: Women with smaller waists...

Q: Why Does he want me to shave my pussy?

A: Piss isn't a very tasty flavor and he prefers to floss AFTER he eats...

Q: Why does she always want me to shower before giving me head?

A: Your balls stink.

Q: Why won't he let me ride him?

A: Because it's daytime and he can see you, or he can only bench 215 Lbs.

Q: Why do we ALWAYS have sex at my place and not his?


Q: Why do I have to call/text most of the time?

A: They're really not interested, or they're playing games.

Q: Does he REALLY mean it when he says looks don't matter?

A: Depends... Do you swallow?

Q: How do I know if she's faking?

A: If You have to ask, she just faked.

Q: Why are all the men who hit on me already drunk?

A: Plausible deniability, or FUI (Fucked Under the Influence).

Q: Why does he keep turning me around when we dance?

A: You're ugly as fuck, and he's trying to bust a nut, so he doesn't have to put any more time into you as needed.

Q: Why'd he disappear in the middle of the song?

A: He just busted a nut in his pants.

Q: It's 2 AM... Does he REALLY just want me to come over and watch a movie?

A: Yep... ASSHAT.

Q: Does she think I have a tiny dick?

A: She KNOWS you have a tiny dick, and by lunchtime, Monday, so will everyone else at work.

Q: Why does he need meds to have sex with me, but porn gets him hard?

A: Go look in the mirror.

Q: When's a good time for me to ASK for head?

A: When university-educated winged pigs are spotted soaring through the sky!

Q: Why does she shove her tits in my mouth when we're fucking?

A: You talk too much.

Q: When's a good time to ask or bring up having a threesome?

A: Anytime you want to be single again.

Q: Why does his shirt smell like perfume?

A: No comment... ASSJACKAL. 



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November 8, 2018















     Don't recognize these names? I'm not surprised in the least. You may be wondering who these men are and what's so special about them; some of you may have already taken to google to find out. Allow me to enlighten you...

The first six names are of those with ties to Arizona who gave their lives in service to their country during one of the numerous stages of the Gulf War before April 22, 2004. The last six are servicemembers who ALSO made the ultimate sacrifice, but AFTER April 22, 2004, the day PAT TILLMAN was reportedly killed in action in Afghanistan. These twelve men were sons, fathers, husbands, and brothers...


     My point? To congratulate as well as express my disappointment, and frustration.

Congrats to not only Arizona But America for showing so much support for Tillman and his memory, The Tillman foundation, numerous events honoring his memory and sacrifice, immortalizing him for all posterity. We've successfully made him a source of pride for not only the state of Arizona but America as a whole.

     Unfortunately, in doing so, we've also managed to trivialize the same sacrifice of not only the 12 men mentioned earlier but also the other 200 plus service members from Arizona. As well as the other 6,800-7,000 Americans who deserve the same respect, recognition, and attention as Tillman, but won't receive because none of them gave up a professional football career to serve their country... WE SHOULD BE EMBARRASSED & ASHAMED OF OURSELVES...


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An ongoing series of Assorted Truths


November 8, 2018


     As in any battle, one must assess and gauge the capabilities and limitations of the enemy in order to devise the best and most efficient offense and defense possible to achieve victory. The battle between men and women being no exception...

- Women have more sensually sensitive areas than men. The back of the neck, between her shoulder blades, her ears, waist, and thighs are just a few.

- Women can dance with other women, but it's weird as hell to see two guys dancing together, like a fruit-filled dance battle.

- A straight woman can kiss another straight woman; enough said.

- Men can sit with their legs open; well, so can a woman... as long as she's prepared to have a lot of men dropping shit and picking it up in front of her if she's wearing a dress or skirt.

- People generally trust a woman more than a man.

- A woman can compliment another woman's body/figure; she can compliment a woman's ass or tits... Men can't do the same; "Hey Johnny, your dick looks good in those jeans" just doesn't sound right.

- Women can compliment a friend's man more than once and in more detail. While a woman can complement specific parts of his body, anything other than, "okay, he's sexy as fuck" might get your ass kicked. A man can't say some shit like, "You bro, your girl's got some big ass titties and a fat ass!" no matter how long you've been friends.

- Men can piss standing up.

- It's easier and more discreet for a man to jack off and cum than a woman to play with her pussy.

- It's easier and takes less effort for a woman to suck her man's dick than it is for him to eat her pussy.

- Women are multi-orgasmic and will always be capable of out-fucking a man, which also makes her more capable of sexually satisfying multiple men at one time where a man can barely fully satisfy one woman, much less two or three.

- Men lose weight/build muscle faster than women; however, women are generally more motivated to get into shape than a man as they get older.

- The women's clearance section in any clothing store will always be at least three times the size of a man's.

- There are almost always FULL curtains in the shower stalls in the women's locker room of the gym. For some odd, nasty-ass reason, the shower curtains in the men's locker room all look like they were split in HALF to make two curtains.

- Men can play fight/wrestle more so than women.

- An overweight, unattractive female will always get hit on or offered dick before her male counterpart.

- A woman can maintain her standard for the entire night; a man's standard will reduce by a half point for every half hour closer to closing time; he'd rather get his dick sucked by an overweight beastmonster with no teeth and snot dripping from her nose before he goes home with a dry dick.

- Most women have more clothes in her closet than a man.

- A group of men won't let one their friends hang out with them looking like shit. It brings down the stock of the entire group. A woman will at least let one of her friends go out looking like trash. Either on purpose to make themselves look better, to keep from looking like a bad friend, or not wanting to hurt their feelings.

- Women won't try to have a conversation with each other through the bathroom stall while taking a shit.

- A man will abandon/sell out his friends or bail out on guys night out for random pussy quicker than a woman will ditch her friends for random dick.

- Women stay mad/angry longer than men.

- Women can go long without sex than a man.

- Most men cum/orgasm much quicker and with less effort than a woman.

- A woman will suck her man's dick before he eats her pussy.

- When it comes to sexual history, men will always lie UPWARDS to seem like a ladies' man, where women will most likely either tell the truth or lie DOWNWARDS to avoid been seen as a slut.

- It (should) take a man less time to get ready to go out for the night than a woman.

- Men are less noticed if they wear the same clothes to the club two weekends in a row more than a woman would be.

- Women put more care into how they look; men care more about what they have.

- Women wash their hands after using a public restroom more than men.

- Women will ALWAYS get hit on more than men.

- Men are more likely to take a shit in a porta-potty.

- Workplace dress codes are ALWAYS more strict for men than women.

- Women can give each other, "pet names"... A man can't call another man, "Baby Boo-boo" or, "Sugar-nuts."

- Women can give each other, "Just because" gifts, birthday cards, and say, "I love you," after a phone conversation. A guy can't say, "I love you, here's a teddy bear I saw at the store, and it reminded me of you" to his boy.

- Women can hug each other tightly with no time limit.

- Men will generally pay more for a drink at a bar than a pretty girl.

- Women take rejection from a stranger better than a man.

- Men bounce back from a breakup quicker than a woman. A man will use another woman to fuck in order to forget about his ex.

- More men dress up like women for Halloween than women will dress up like a man... Halloween; the one day a year where a man can come out the closet, without being judged.

- Women can give each other massages, men can't do the same; "Yo Brian, you look tense turn around and let me rub your shoulders"? Wait, what???

- Women can refer to her guy as, "Young man" or, "Dirty old man." You'd better not call your woman a, "Dirty old lady" It doesn't have the same effect.

- Women are better at reading body language.

- Women have a more accurate, "Gaydar."

- A 50-year-old woman knows that when she gets hit on by a 26-year-old, he most likely just wants the pussy. A 50-year-old man will actually try to have a relationship with a 26-year-old woman.

- When eating out, women are more likely to send food back to the kitchen than men.

- Women will lie more about her age or weight and body type while men will lie more about his income and education.

- Male strippers earn more in tips than female strippers. Men are cheap and tip smaller bills, where women are normally tipping with their husband's money and will generally tip larger bills. Plus, male strippers allow more physical contact than females will.

- Women are more likely to report sexual harassment.

- Women fake orgasms WAY more frequently than men.

- Men avoid commitment longer/more than a woman.

- Women generally fall in love before a man.

- Women are more likely to say, "I don't know."

- Women are more likely to clip coupons and bargain shop.

- Men watch more porn.

- Men are more likely to believe a stripper actually likes him.

- Men are more likely to attempt to operate/assemble something without reading the instructions.



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