Dark Truth

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February 10, 2019


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     Making love has different motivations. It connects the mind and heart. Sensuality and intimacy are at their peak when making love. The goal or the focus isn't necessarily about the orgasm, but listening and responding to each other and reading your partner's body language to reach their emotional core. Making love is telling each other how they feel about one another. It's when you say, " I love you" with your words, your body, and your actions. Making love is a vulnerability and showing more emotion without feeling awkward, no matter how cool or smooth you are.

     Making love is a different personality than you put out to the rest of the world; it doesn't care how smoking hot you are or how many muscles you have. It's the extra love and affirmation you give your partner. It's the time to be yourself; lowering the walls, everyone else sees the insecurities. It's letting go of the stereotypical masculine bravado or the sexy unattainable bitch and just being yourself with one another. Your mind doesn't wander. You're in the moment. The risk of feeling alone in the experience is at its peak. This is the time to assure your partner there's nowhere else you'd rather be.

     Lovemaking is showing appreciation; the desire to do more than satisfy the physical, and more than just an orgasm. It's that confirmation you're with the right person. There's no embarrassment or shame of each other's bodies or performance. It has intent and forethought. Lovemaking doesn't mean penetration; it's about pleasing your partner.

     Sex is about the physical. The focus is getting off. It's the orgasm. Sex is taking your man in your mouth. Sex is the affair; the one-night stand. Sex is the fork in the road between making love and fucking. It's early in the morning before work and right before bed. It's the after the first date, and neither of you wants to say goodnight, so it's back to your/her place. It's when you don't want to be shitty about it being meaningless, but you have no intention of wanting to see them again. Sex is slipping in the shower behind them. It's building up to the moment. Kissing, touching, grinding, sucking, stroking, mounting, riding. It's about the penetration; wanting to please each other. Sex is the experimental phase or mutual control. You both can ask for what you want and be comfortable giving in to sexual fantasies and desires. Sex can be both awkward, yet satisfying.

     Fucking is Dominance, Lust and The hunger for pleasure. Fucking is selfish; the priority is nothing more than satisfaction. Fucking is raw and passionate. Fucking is about getting off; no kissing, no cuddling, no talking unless the word, "Fuck" is used in some way, shape or form. Fucking is primal. It's the physical release of fluid inside your partner, whether vaginally or orally. Fucking is dirty talk; It's what you've fantasized about and know your partner's down for it 100%. Fucking is role-playing, XXX style. Fucking is sucking your man during a commercial, swallowing his load, and letting him get back to the game; it's going down on your lady while she's on the phone with her girlfriend and telling her not hang up until AFTER she orgasms.

     A fuck is adventurous, outside, against the car or on top of the hood. It is bent over halfway in the trunk. Dressing extra sexy as hell, showing your body off for your man. Fucking is hot, sweaty, sticky, light-headed exertion. It's fucked-up hair. It's that 5-10 minutes you have while the kids are downstairs watching T.V. No buildup, No planning, it just happens. For both parties, fucking is about wanting to please yourself. Fucking is NOT a bad thing; nothing to be ashamed of and yes, you can fuck someone you're in a relationship, and both can enjoy it.

     A fuck is you getting yours; they won't even ask if you enjoyed it. It's not about how YOU like it, it's about how THEY want to give it to you, but wish you to give it to them the way they want it. They won't kiss or even want to talk to you afterward. Getting the hell away from you is the goal after that. They won't ask about condoms or birth control because they don't care; that's YOUR responsibility. They call the positions and the shots. Harder, faster, slower or deeper!

     Healthy physical or sexual interaction is significant to the success of any relationship. Knowing HOW and WHEN to make love, have sex, and fuck is critical. A more substantial percentage of women are in tune with the desire for making love and having sex; men are more focused on having sex and fucking. Let me be possibly the first person to inform you that ALL 3 ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT!!

     Learn to communicate. Listen to your partner. Learn the differences, signs, and hints. Learn your needs. Respond to HER needs. Don't be a selfish or constant giver. Don't be embarrassed to say what you want. Try new things; if they work, great. If not, don't dwell, move on. You make love with your heart, have sex with your mind, fuck with your body. Making love doesn't ALWAYS have to be a more profound, spiritually-based emotional experience. Making love can also feel like fucking. Sex can be a romantic connection between people who honestly and sincerely love each other. And sometimes you HAVE to fuck the person you're in love with. These acts aren't definite in their categories. The point is to understand there IS a significant difference and all three must be practiced regularly and mastered.


Dark Truth

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February 3, 2019


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      It's that time again. The beginning of the new year. The aftermath of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve. The time of resolutions is upon us, and no bigger resolution could rival the resolve to quit smoking or lose weight/get in shape. The sad truth is in making decisions to do both or either, understand they'll lead to failure after just a few months. How can I say this? Very easily. If you wanted to stop smoking, you wouldn't wait until the beginning of the new year to do it; if you wanted to lose weight and get in shape, you wouldn't wait for the new year, you'd start now. Making resolutions is nothing more than a way to procrastinate a failure. Even so, I'll give at least 20% of resolutioners the benefit of the doubt they'll stick to their goal to take a more active interest in their fitness.

     The squat masters. The cardio gods. Machine hogs. The weight wizards. The plate kings and the dumbbell hoarders. Being a newbie in the gym is already intimidating for a lot of people; the pressure to not look like you have no idea what you're doing. Gym virgin sweat is oozing from every pore as you scan the room, trying to figure out where everything is and where to start. You're a target for the headhunters, also know as personal trainers who patrol the floor, looking for people just like you. They offer sessions for WAY too much money and deliver slower than realistic service and results to keep you spending until you get frustrated and quit or you realize they're robbing you. Not to say ALL trainers are that way, but there are enough of them to where you should be wary of the snake-oil sales pitch or myths they try to make you believe you need them.

     There are some excellent and AMAZING personal trainers out there who thrive on seeing their clients outgrow their need for private sessions and that should be a source of pride and accomplishment. The truth is if you still NEED your trainer after about six months, you have a shitty trainer, and they're just keeping you around, providing you the bare minimum of results to keep you satisfied and convinced they're doing their job and keeping you paying. If you decide to go at it alone, you'll undoubtedly receive advice, tips, and direction from both trainers and the veterans, whether you want it or not. Another sad truth is that a lot of the information that's passed down and around range from the inaccurate to bullshit, to the just plain ridiculous. Let's debunk some of these myths right now.

     In my research and studies, in pursuit of gaining my personal training certification, as well as seeking information from long-time trainers. I've decided to tackle some of the biggest gym/training myths that circulate most of the gyms I’ve worked out.

- MUSCLE WEIGHS MORE THAN FAT: This just ridiculous! A pound is a pound, no matter what the material is. Sure, an 8 oz. glass of muscle will weigh more than an 8 oz. glass of fat. Because muscle is denser, so more muscle can be added to the glass, increasing its weight but unfortunately, we're all not 8 oz. glasses, so this myth is fucking FALSE!!!

- STRENGTH TRAINING ADDS BULK: Women tend to avoid weight/strength training because they believe it'll bulk them up. Women produce less testosterone, which is a dominant precursor to adding size. Both weight and strength training aids in weight loss, since maintaining muscle actually burns calories continuously.

- YOU CAN BURN FAT FROM SPECIFIC AREAS: This is also false! Body fat is just that, BODY FAT. A person can't just burn fat from their triceps, legs, or midsection. Fat burning is a TOTAL body process. Everyone loses body fat in different areas; some loose upper body fat first, some lower, etc. It's not the same for everyone.

- CARDIO IS THE BEST WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT: There are countless ways to lose weight: nutrition, Healthy Eating Habits, and Regular exercise. I can't even begin to list how many different ways there are to lose weight better and other than cardio. Ever been in the hospital for longer than two weeks? You come out weighing less, but you didn't do a lick of cardio; that should disprove this myth right there.


- IF YOU WANT TO GET STRONGER, LIFT HEAVIER WEIGHTS: Strength can increase with using both weights or even your body weight. Heavyweight and low reps will yield the same results as medium weight and high reps. The same goes for the myth, "If you want to get bigger, lift heavier."

- SWEAT TELLS HOW HARD YOUR WORKED: No. Sweat is an indicator of your internal body temperature. Sweat tells how hot the room is. Sweat is an indicator of humidity. You're going to sweat more when the place is 78-80 degrees than if it's 65-75 degrees. If you're prone to lower body temperature like I am, You're going to sweat as much as someone else.

- WHEN BENCH PRESSING, THE BAR SHOULD TOUCH YOUR CHEST: What a great way to cause injury to your shoulders and possible crack your sternum with repeated bouncing off your chest to get the weight up. Not to mention knocking out a significant amount of air from your lungs doing this, causing you to hold your breath while you strain to put the weight back up, putting you at risk for a hernia, or passing out and dropping the weights on yourself. Stopping at an inch or so before touching your chest is proper technique.

- SQUATS ARE BAD FOR YOUR LOWER BODY: Wrong. Bad squat form is bad for your body. True, squats can and WILL cause severe injury if done incorrectly, especially if you're one of those squatters who bounce off their knees to get the weight back up. However, appropriately executed, squats are unrivaled in the area of leg development.


- BIGGER MEANS STRONGER: False. I've seen some of the biggest guys in the gym bench 250 easily, but can't curl worth a damn. I've also seen 185-pound guys put up some serious weight. It's all about your training program.

- IT'S BEST TO DO CARDIO FIRST: I hate cardio, so I do it last, but some people choose cardio first to get it out of the way. Otherwise, they'll talk themselves out of it at the end of their workout, or they feel they won't have enough energy to do it after burning themselves out from their exercise. Cardio is cardio, no matter when you do it, as long as you do it.

- LIGHTWEIGHT/HIGH REPS TONE FASTER: Proper form tones faster. The tearing and rebuilding of muscle fibers through repetitive movement is what tones the body. Ensure proper form and extension/retraction.

- SAUNA SUITS: Just stop! True, you burn calories, but that's the result of the exercises being performed and not because you're wearing a sweatsuit made from a heavy-duty trash bag. It's all water weight loss anyway. As soon as you're sauna suit workout is done, you'll grab a bottle of water and put it all RIGHT BACK ON!

- STEP MACHINES/EXERCISES INCREASE THE SIZE OF YOUR BUTT: False. "Step" exercises, target hips, thighs, butt, core, and calves to name a few. You have a big butt because you have a big butt. Stepping burns calories and fat, therefore, giving the illusion that your rear end is bigger when in actuality, you're just losing body fat from those areas.

- IT TAKES AT LEAST 20 MINUTES OF CARIO TO BE BENEFICIAL: False. Any high-intensity training is going to burn calories, whether cardio, cross-training, weight/strength training or whatever floats your boat for that day. Not to mention, depending on the type of cardio one is doing because some are more beneficial than others and can equal far more burnt calories in 10 minutes than 30 minutes doing others.

- YOU NEED TO STRETCH BEFORE WORKING OUT: True, stretching does warm up the muscles and prevents injuries, sprain, and strains, but so does warm-up exercises. You don't want to lie down and immediately benchpress 225 lbs., cold. Warm up with a set or two at 75-100 lbs., Just as good as stretching.

- YOGA ISN'T WORKING OUT: You've never done yoga!

- LEAN MUSCLE: There's no such thing as, "Lean muscle" ALL muscle is lean, just like ground beef; 75% lean/25% fat. The body works the same way.

- YOU CAN TURN FAT INTO MUSCLE: That's just fucking ridiculous! They're two COMPLETELY different materials! Muscle resides UNDER fat, and as you burn fat, the muscle is what's left. You can build UP your muscles.

- SIT UP/CRUNCHES ARE BEST FOR ABS: They don't hurt, but not the best, and they will not give you a six-pack. Your abs/core work better for your body when you're standing, so it would make sense to perform exercises from the same position, right?

- RUNNING IS BAD FOR YOUR KNEES: Shitty shoes with poor support, improper insoles, weak quads, and hamstrings are wrong for your knees when you run. The base of your feet are designed to spread upon contact with the ground when running so improper shoe fit or lacing your shoes way too tight will also cause discomfort.

- ABS ARE DIVIDED INTO 3 AREAS: Low, middle, upper abs. It's all one muscle. If you look at a diagram of your ab muscles, it one big muscle. It feels like three because of the very top fatigues first, then the middle and leading to the bottom.

- RUNNING IS THE BEST WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT: False. Running is a good way to burn calories and improve cardiorespiratory fitness. Weight training burns fat more than running.

- ALL CARDIO MACHINES DO PRETTY MUCH THE SAME THING: NO, NO, NO!!! The treadmill and bike focus more on cardiorespiratory health and calorie burn while step, elliptical, and cross trainers focus more on cardiovascular health and fat burn.

     As if walking into the gym for the first time isn't bad enough, we don't need garbage stuck in our head that's going to frustrate or cause us to give up or even injure ourselves because we don't know any better. The best thing I can say is to do your research. Find out what works for you and your goals. When people try to give you advice, take it for what it is and allow them to move on. Practice gym courtesy and above all, stay motivated and dedicated. Your results will come, and you'll be glad you started and stuck with it.


Dark Truth

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January 26, 2019



     Why WOMEN cheat is the final installation of the Faster Than A Cheating Bullet series. Both men and women cheat for many of the same reasons; there are a few differences, causes, and situations that are specific to women and why they cheat. For one, women don't usually cheat for just wanting to fuck. Unlike men, women don't often go out for the night with the intention of just looking for dick. Even if she is, she can and will maintain her standard the entire night and would instead go home and get herself off before bringing or going home with someone who she views as beneath her standard.

     Women are significantly better at cheating than men. A woman will cheat with the ability to keep it to herself, essentially taking it to her metaphorical grave. Women don't cheat to brag to her friends about how much dick she can get. She doesn't care about kudos, hi-fives, or receiving accolades for quantity. Women are more capable of ending a cheating situation than men. She can meet a guy, fuck him that night, see him the next weekend and walk right by him without a second look. She can see him at work and pretend nothing ever happened. She can also work on the same project with him without being uncomfortable in the least bit.

     A woman won't cheat with a good man who's in a good relationship with a good woman. She knows he's a good man and she's wasting her time. Or if she knows he has a great woman, she won't risk putting that other woman through what she's gone through in the past herself. On the other hand, women are more likely to lie and tell a man she's not looking for anything more than just sex, knowing it's a lie, especially if she knows he's a good guy. She'll flirt, use subtle hints and innuendos, but when he doesn't take the bait, she'll play it off as, "Just joking."

     Even if just for short-term sex, a woman still has to find the man she cheats with attractive on some level, whether physically or mentally. Where men will fuck a woman built like a trash bag of crumpled up the paper and dry sticks, a woman has to find chemistry with the other man; meaning, women are more likely to cheat with someone she already knows, works with, or interacts with on a regular or semi-regular basis. Women, "happen to cheat" they don't leave the house for the night, hoping or looking for somebody to cheat with. A woman will end up cheating for emotional reassurance/stability. Her needs aren't being met at home. Women are more inclined to cheat emotionally before cheating physically.

     Women are more likely to cheat, realize how damaging an affair can be, learn her lesson, and never do it again, even if she gets away with it. Women are more likely to admit having an affair, even if there's little to no chance of her man finding out about it. Because women are more biochemical and cheat for more emotional-based reasons, they're more likely to leave their relationship for the man they cheated with, or just to be by themselves, to, "find themselves." She'll jump from one relationship right into another, not taking adequate time to heal or get over her previous relationship, whether she was the cheater or the cheated. Women will jump from ship to ship, while men will try to fuck his ex out of his system with random pussy.

     A woman will ALMOST always cheat UP, about looks, money, etc. Where men will cheat with anything with an ass and tits. A woman will NOT cheat with someone who's less of a catch than the man she's with. A woman in a relationship with a successful man won't cheat with a man on welfare. A woman won't cheat with a good man who makes a good living for them with an aspiring 35-year-old gas station worker who's STILL trying to chase his dreams of being a pro ball player or rapper.

     In the workplace, while men are more inclined to cheat DOWN the corporate ladder, women will cheat with someone of an equal position or HIGHER. Women are more likely to develop feelings for the man she's cheating with, and she'll be more likely to hold his job over his head if/when he tries to end it or wants to date someone else in the company. If a woman cheats for just sex, she'll be up front about it, and she'll only fuck that other man once, maybe twice, then she's done. The last thing she wants is to risk the other man catching feelings for her or vice versa. If she cheats with you and doesn't initiate contact info, don't even bother to ask for hers or offer yours, she's not interested.

     Women cheat due to lack of intimacy in her relationship, lack of communication. Hypersexuality coupled with a man who's lost interest in her or is cheating himself could also lead to her infidelity. She'll cheat because she wants to be with the man she's cheating with. A woman will cheat for revenge. A woman will cheat to rebuild her self-confidence/self-esteem. Women cheat because they feel hindered, but can be sexually free and expressive with the other man than in her relationship. Feelings of neglect or unappreciation will also persuade a woman to seek emotional support and satisfaction outside her relationship. Prior or present emotional, physical, or sexual abuse can also contribute to a woman not being able to commit to healthy monogamous relationships. When cornered with even semi-circumstantial evidence. A woman will cop to having an affair. She's less likely to lie about it. A woman would immediately begin to apologize, but won't try to deny it.

     Because women are more prone to cheat emotionally BEFORE physically, her signs are more gradual and subtle, making it much more difficult to pick up on by her partner. While the majority of the signs between men and women can be/are similar, there are a few that are specific to women.

Women will become critical of their relationship, criticizing everything her man does, no matter how insignificant it seems. They'll complain about the smallest things and make who left the cap off the toothpaste into a fucking motion picture-quality production. She'll show less and less respect and call her man out in public, in front of anyone and everyone.


     Women will start paying more attention to how she looks and take a more active interest in her physical fitness and her body. She'll begin to wear sexier, more provocative clothing and start going out with her girlfriends more. She may start to drinking or drinking more than usual. She'll flood social media with posts and pictures of herself and of her friends out having fun. Her friends will act differently around her man if they know she's cheating. Of course the increase of unexplained texts, calls, and emails. Her daily routine will change, spending more time away from home.

Just like men, signs could come in reverse; the relationship can turn a complete 180 degrees for the better; in HIS mind. She'll become more adventurous in the bedroom, expressing more of her sexual self. A woman who's cheating will embrace her submissive side more and allow/encourage her man to be more dominant, due to the fact the man she's cheating with has shown her aside to her sexuality she's never experienced, and now she craves it. Where men show more emotional improvement when he's cheating, women show more sexual improvement.

     Whether man or woman, emotional or sexual, when the truth comes to light, a decision has to be made; whether to stay and reconcile or end the relationship and move on. If you choose to stay, wipe the slate clean as possible; don't pretend to bury the ax and leave the handle sticking out to swing every chance you get. No one says you have to forget, but if you're going to forgive, then forgive. If you choose to end it and move on, take the time necessary to heal your heart. It's going to take longer than a few days, weeks, even months. Before moving on to another relationship, make sure you're ready.


Dark Truth

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January 22, 2019



     Why do men cheat? In part 4 of Faster Than A Cheating Bullet we're sitting down to the table, and getting to the meat and potatoes. People step out of their relationships to seek physical or emotional validation and satisfaction from somewhere or someone other than their partner. Both men and women cheat, but for different reasons. To say one cheats more than the other is a falsehood, but men always seem to get caught more so than women; mostly because men are fucking dumb as fuck when they cheat.

     Men feel it necessary to brag about every sexual exploit and conquest to their friends to bathe themselves in their admiration and envy. What he fails to realize is that same thinking is what gets his dumb ass caught. It may never even occur to him that one of his, "friends" will turn right around and set him up to get caught so he can swoop in and snatch his lady from right under his ass.

     Men do stupid shit when they cheat. Not only will they brag about fucking around on their lady, but they'll also take women they're cheating without to all the places he goes with his woman, thinking he'll look like a player or a ladies man. In essence, everyone who sees him and knows he has a lady isn't staring at him because they think he's cool; women are looking at him, thinking, "What an asshole!" Other men are thinking, "This stupid motherfucker!" Men will start off being super spy careful with how they cheat. They'll have all their bases covered, a foolproof plan, and execute that plan with flawless accuracy. After a while, he'll get comfortable with his success and begin to cut corners, resulting in him getting caught.

- In the beginning, a man will receive intimate photos from another woman and delete them almost immediately. He'll get used to his lady not touching his phone, so he'll start to save them after a while. The same goes for sexual/romantic text messages or emails. He'll even actually start to show his friends these photos and messages.

- In the beginning, a man will either resort to car sex or will go back to the other woman's place to fuck. Then he'll start to bring women back to his place because he's too fucking cheap to pay for a room. Or his lady has to work the next day, is going out of town, etc. so he'll plan for her not to come over, even though she has a key to his place.

- He'll be careful not to get caught in pictures she takes with her phone until one night he gets drunk and ends up on social media.

- When it comes to children, they'll lie about stealing a cookie before dinner, brushing their teeth, breaking a plate or coffee mug, or even leaving the back door open; they WON'T lie about who comes over when the lady of the house isn't there. A 4-year-old will not lie about, "Aunt Carol from down the street" coming over and she and daddy went upstairs and locked the bedroom door.

- STD... What the fuck?? If a man has a legitimate reason (Bladder infection, UTI, etc.) He'll tell his woman about it and leave the antibiotics in the medicine cabinet or on the counter/table. If he's hiding it, he's got some shit wrong with his dick.

- As I've said before, men not only won't admit to having or being treated for an STD/STI, he won't even get tested between partners, unless he feels he has an immediate reason to.

- Something as simple as checking his pockets before getting in his car. After a while, he'll get lazy and forget to empty the random phone numbers and used condom wrappers from his pocket. He may even be so dumb that he'll wait until morning to locate and toss the condom wrapper, that couldn't found in the car the night before because he was so drunk.

- In the beginning, he'll make sure to delete the phone call/map history on his GPS. His lady NEVER drives his car, so he got lazy and stopped clearing it every night; until he wakes up one morning and remembers her vehicle is in the shop and took him to work.

     Men will cheat, get away with it, think he's a fucking super spy, and continue to cheat until he's caught and castrated, even with video footage, multiple sworn statements, witnesses accounts, texts, call logs, etc. A man will deny he cheated to his dying breath. He'll reach into the deepest part of the pocket of his pants he bought from the ridiculous fucking shit to say store and pull out some ridiculous fucking shit to say in his defense when he's caught.

     When confronted with evidence of his cheating, a man will attempt to deflect the conversation and attention from himself to her. He'll accuse her of being jealous, possessive, or continuously suspicious. He'll even get defensive and attack her for violating his privacy and trust when he finds out you went through his phone, text, emails, etc. A man will try anything to take the focus off himself. He'll get angry or insulted that you had to go super spy yourself to catch him. When caught in the act, men will try to lie their way out. A woman will try to run away from the situation. Sooner or later they both will come back (sometimes days later) and attempt to apologize for it. The truth is that neither are apologizing for the affair, they're apologizing because they got caught or because they hurt you. Don't get confused or be fooled.

     Men will try to cheat outside their league; meaning a bald, chubby, loser of a guy will not only try to cheat with someone who can OBVIOUSLY do better than him, but he'll also honestly believe he DESERVES it. Men go out, looking to step out on his partner, with the intent to cheat. He plans for it and will drive home at the end of the night, pissed off at the world because he couldn't find some pussy to fuck. But when he gets home, he's not the least bit interested in fucking his woman. A man will blame his cheating on some sexual addiction. Which again, is 1000% BULLSHIT! If were, "addicted to sex, why hasn't he fucked his wife or girlfriend in over three months? He's not addicted to sex; he wants to fuck new, random pussy.

     In the professional world, Men cheat more with their subordinates; support staff, secretaries, junior partners, clerks, etc. with the promise of leaving their wives, "As soon as the time is right." Men will string these women along for as long as they can while the other woman eventually develops more and more of an emotional connection with this man, thinking he'll eventually divorce his wife and leave his family for her. In hopes of speeding up the process, she'll agree to any and every deviant sexual act he can come up with. Men cheat with younger females. Otherwise, he may as well stay home and fuck his wife. He'll believe she's gotten too old and he deserves someone younger on his arm. He may not come right out and admit it, but rest assured, pretty much everyone in the office knows he's fucking his secretary/assistant.

     A man will tell his woman he got bit in the dick by a Boomslang snake and the woman wasn't sucking his dick, she was sucking out the poison, and will get mad when she doesn't believe him. Not to say every WOMAN will admit to cheating when confronted, but they sure as hell won't tell her man she was choking on some food and the guy was trying to dislodge it with his dick. A man caught with another woman bent over the hood of his car will try to convince his lady they weren't fucking; he was INNOCENTLY walking through the parking lot, noticed a woman had stopped breathing and was applying a new style of CPR he read about online.

     Men are less likely to leave a relationship after cheating, even if he's developed feelings for the woman he's cheating with. He'll stay with his lady and fuck as many women as he can until they piece shit together or find out he ain't shit. They'll tell him to go fuck himself as they walk out the door, but he could care less; after all, he still has his MAIN lady to go back to. Men cheat more for physical pleasure. Men are more likely to cheat with someone who is less attractive than their partner. If her ass is big/thick enough, he'll fuck a woman who looks like she was face-fucked by a swarm of bees.

     Again, why cheat? Why not just end the relationship amicably and go your separate ways? Why go through the cloak and dagger bullshit? Why deal with the stress of lying, then lying to cover up the lies you already told? Then you have to lie to support the lies you've told, PLUS, keep track of ALL the lies you've had to come up with? Because a man doesn't want to risk leaving his lady for pussy, he may not want fuck after only a few times. He knows he has a damn good woman and he'd be dumb as hell for leaving. Some men are so fucked up in the head, they may not even WANT to be in a relationship, but they'll be damned if another man ends up with his woman and the idea of someone else treating her like the princess she is would kill him. A man's ultimate fantasy is to have a damn good woman at home who's fine as fuck, but will also let him go out and fuck other women whenever he wants and still treat him like a king.

     There's an old saying when it comes to cheating, "If he cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you!" And that's the truth. What the fuck makes you so different that if a man cheats with you, leave his lady or family for you, that he won't do the same to you if or when something better comes along and catches his eye?

     Men cheat because when it comes to pussy they can be shady as fuck and habitual liars, Men will sell out at least 60% of his friends for pussy if he wants to fuck THAT bad. Men cheat because they're insecure. There are a lot of guys who know they're severely limited to what they actually have to offer in regards to women.

     They wrap themselves in false bravado and liquid courage. Men brag about how much money they have, what they drive, or their history. Men cheat because they're immature; they don't want to commit to a monogamous relationship; they may never want to. He's damaged from a previous relationship. Whether he admits it or not, when a man has honestly given his heart to a woman, and his heart gets broken, it takes far longer for him to recover. Men cheat for self-preservation. They want to avoid being hurt, so they limit themselves to the level of commitment they're willing to invest.

     Men have unreasonable expectations. They want a chef in the kitchen, a 4-star maid for the home, and an acrobat in the bedroom. He wants his woman to meet HIS needs and ignore hers. He cheats because he's bored. The thrill of the hunt appeals to him. He's confused about the difference between like, love, and lust, or he just doesn't care.

     Men require a constant need to feel validated, wanted, or desired by women. Men cheat because some time in their history they were emasculated. Men cheat because they secretly want to end their present relationship. For some reason, it makes more sense for him to get caught and dumped than, to be honest, and end the relationship. Long distance may also be a factor. Peer pressure can also lead to deciding to cheat. Acceptance from the alpha male of his social circle or even to re-enforce his staus in the circle can lead to infidelity. A man can also learn about cheating from his parents or parental influences; however, it can go both ways. A man can learn to cheat/view cheating as acceptable due to witnessing infidelity in his parents. 

     On the OTHER hand, he can also witness the damage cheating can cause and avoid it at all costs.

Men are quick to accuse when they're super-ultra jealous and possessive. The reason for their behavior can be guilty of cheating themselves. Men will become judgemental about their partner; they'll point out every flaw, no matter how minute or insignificant, while convincing themselves the person they're cheating with would be a better choice. I will avoid confrontation about cheating. He's cheated in the past. Men will become mean and disrespectful; starting arguments whenever he can or blame the partner for everything wrong in the relationship or even their own personal issues and problems.

     Communication will fall off to almost non-existent. Sex/intimacy will come to a standstill, or he will act like sex is more of an inconvenient obligation instead of an enjoyable experience. Men will guard their phone like the stone tablets bearing the ten commandments. They'll leave the room every time their phone rings and claim they didn't want to disturb you. The unexplained increase in random calls and texts. His phone is ALWAYS either on silent or just plain out of sight. His phone is always upside down.

     An almost dead giveaway is the change in the way he speaks on the phone. A man doesn't talk to a woman the way he talks to his friends; his tone, inflection, volume, even the words he uses will tell who he's speaking with. When he's talking to a woman, his voice will get softer, deeper, and more romantic. He'll not only enthusiastically encourage, but he'll practically insist on frequent outings with her friends and even trips out of town without him. He'll plan a trip for the two of them they have to bail at the last minute for work, family emergency, or something and will suggest she take one of her friends instead.

     Don't rely solely on your gut, but if a woman has a strong feeling her man's not faithful at the very least, it's worth looking in to. She'll catch him in small lies at first, graduating into larger ones. Charges on the credit card or money missing from the bank account. Receipts for items you know you don't have, or for meals, you weren't the recipient of. His friends who know will act differently towards you. His everyday routine will change. He'll have to work late more often or go out of town more. He won't answer his phone.

     There are those instances when things begin to go the other way; they improve dramatically. After a lengthy dry spell, the relationship will suddenly turn for the better; much better than they've ever been before. He'll become more affectionate and attentive. Sex will improve and become more frequent. He'll try things in the bedroom he's never tried before.

      Whatever the reason a man will cheat may not make sense to her, or anyone else. It may be the absolute most ridiculous reason on the fucking planet, as long as it makes sense to HIM, that's all that matters. My advice is to never ask why; what's the point? He cheated, got caught and if you've decided to end the relationship, knowing the reason won't make any difference whatsoever. Even if the purpose is closure for herself. But before you choose to get back out there, jump into another relationship and bring the pain, heartache, and malice with you, take the time to recover. Heal and revitalize yourself. A certain level of emotional baggage will always follow along with you, but don't put the next man in a place where he has to pay for or account for what the last man did to you because you were still damaged.


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January 11, 2019


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     On a regular basis, we see single women working their fingers to the bone, trying to provide their children with everything they need, and sometimes the things they want when some shitty, asshat of an of man heads for the door or goes ghost on her when she tells him she's pregnant. It doesn't make it any better, but some men wait until after the baby's been born and he realizes it's not what he wants. After a divorce, men will not only walk away from their marriage but also their children for another woman that may not want to shoulder that responsibility or the man may no longer want it because he's searching for a partner who has no interest in taking on HIS children.

     It's not like this woman can do the same, so she's forced to become mom and dad; the protector, the provider, the breadwinner, and the role model. Balancing work and home life, these women definitely deserve to be recognized and regarded as true heroes and survivors.

     Unfortunately, in doing so, people tend to overlook another side of this social coin; the second man. The second man is the guy who steps up to enter a relationship with a single mother, especially a single mother of multiple small children and raise them as his own. As we herald the woman for all the hard work and sacrifice she makes for her children, the second man is almost always overlooked for his choice to shoulder the responsibility of not only raising his children from a previous relationship but taking on another man's children. This man's sacrifice should be credited just as much as a woman's.

     The second man jumps in feet first into a family dynamic that has already been somewhat established without his participation. Whether he's a bachelor or a single father himself, he's sailing in uncharted waters, using a map drawn from his own experiences, attempting to navigate this journey with.

     One more member of this dynamic that gets even less credit for his sacrifice would be the bachelor who chooses to cash in his bachelor life to be with a woman with children from another relationship. Unlike the man who already has children, the bachelor is the epitome, the pinnacle of superhero status. He trades in his 2-door sports coupe for a minivan or crossover, his bachelor pad for a house in the suburbs, his man room turned into a nursery or toy room. His Friday nights out with his friends are now reserved for the family game night. This man CHOOSES to turn his entire life around for a woman and her children; this man deserves the same recognition and credit a woman gets for her personal sacrifices.


     The next time you see or meet a full-time or 50/50 mother or you know of a woman who's taking care of her children on her own while applauding her for doing the best she can with what she has, remember the second man. If she's found a man who loves her and her children and he's chosen to invite all of them into his life as well while giving that woman credit for doing what she needs to do to provide for her children, consider the sacrifices that man's making as well. There are more than enough men out in the world who ain't doing shit for their kids, they're just out there having more and more kids and bolting out the door. Let's put our hands together for the ones who are, let's give credit where recognition is deserved. Raise your hand for the second man.


Dark Truth

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December 30, 2018




The people named in this particular article are 100% fictional. Any actions or similar situations that may have happened are coincidental.


     In part three of this 4-part article, I'm going to focus on something I can almost guarantee most of you haven't given much or any thought to whatsoever. The fact that a large percentage of people don't even consider it a possibility, it doesn't make it any less of a dangerous weapon in relationships. It's an EXTREMELY formidable weapon, sharper than a katana blade, silent like a ninja hits harder than a wrecking ball and can cause as much damage as a nuclear warhead. It can strike out of nowhere, approached from any angle, and can take on many forms, like a chameleon. Even in the hands of a rookie, it has the destructive force of five small children left unsupervised in the toy section of a retail store at Christmas time.

     What is this, "Weapon" that can cause so much unspeakable damage? The one, the only, the SET-UP.

     I'm not talking about setting someone up to meet someone, I'm talking about being set up when/if your partner thinks you're being unfaithful and want concrete proof before bouncing your ass to the curb, or choosing to seek revenge, depending on how bad you fucked up and what you were caught doing.

     First of all, I think it's necessary to accept a little bit of abstract truth before getting too far into this subject. At some point in time, depending on how long you've been together, whether you're a man or woman, one of your friends, acquaintances, whoever has had a crush on or feelings for your partner. Second, if someone cheats WITH you, they'll cheat ON you. Don't get pissed if the person you cheated with and broke up your relationship cheats on you! Last, but certainly not least, one of the most golden of relationship rules: NEVER, EVER, EVER TELL YOUR FRIENDS HOW GOOD YOUR PARTNER IS SEXUALLY!! You're just asking for trouble!!!

     There is a list of rules and etiquette when it comes to the set-up. Women will snitch to another woman about her man but won't lie in him. On the other hand, men will lie to another woman about her man, but won't snitch on him. For example, ...

- Sarah will tell Megan her man, Jimmy was doing something dirty, but Sarah won't lie to Megan about it.

- Jimmy won't snitch to Mike about Sarah's infidelity, but he WILL lie to one of Sarah's friends, hoping it gets back to Mike.

     On a side note, after a breakup, women find it necessary to think it's their responsibility to, "Warn" another woman about what her EX did to her, and she should stay away from that man. The fact of the matter is that woman who calls herself, "Looking out" for the new lady her EX is dating or might be talking to has absolutely NOTHING to do with that other woman; she's doing it out of revenge, spite, anger, or heartbreak. If Jimmy and Megan broke up three months ago and Megan sees Jimmy out with someone new, or even just talking to someone, she'll either wait until he excuses himself or she'll walk right up and proceed to tell the new woman how much of a shitbag Jimmy was. Megan doesn't give a damn about that woman, and her goal is to make Jimmy's night miserable. What she says may be true, even quite possibly embellished, but the truth of the matter is Megan will be damned if Jimmy finds someone else or moves on before she does.

     While men don't see it as their place too, "warn" another man about his EX in any aspect, he WILL lie to another man about a woman he doesn't know to get him out of the way, so he can get his chance at her.

     Another undeniable truth is that no matter how fucked up a woman will tell a stranger, or her friends how fucked up her EX may have cheated on her, if applicable, she will absolutely, positively NEVER admit to her own bullshit, using the old fallback line, "We're not talking about me!"

When discussing the set-up, there are numerous sides to its use and can be used not only catch your partner or exonerate them, but also test your friendship.

- Sarah will ask Jimmy to make a move on Megan to prove her loyalty to their friendship.

- Sarah will ask Jimmy to make a move on Megan but ask Megan to go along with it to prove Jimmy is a cheater.

- It's a rare reversal, but it does sometimes happen where a woman will take it on herself to make a move on her best friend's man, to prove how shitty he is. But you have to be careful with this one, because if your friendship not strong enough, it's easy for this tactic to backfire, making the friend appear shady as hell, so it's best to avoid this one, or at least inform your friend or someone else they trust before proceeding.

     On the other side of the coin, Mike may have feelings for Sarah and will set Jimmy up while they're out for the night, only to run back to his lady or a mutual female friend, knowing she'll run back and tell Sarah. Trust me when I say to you, A woman will do the same if she has feelings for her friend's man.

- Mike will take Jimmy out for a drink or whatever and convince him that if he hooks up with the woman that's been all over him the whole night, his secret's safe and he can even take this woman back to HIS place for sex. Little does Jimmy know Mike's got a video camera set up, plans to tell Sarah everything (And of course add a few extra lies on top of it), or even call Sara and invite her over to catch Jimmy in the act.

     My personal opinion is if a person needs to go to any of these lengths to convince themselves or someone, they know their partner isn't 100% with them, chances are something is going on, and a few conversations need to be had between those two people. If a person finds themselves attracted to or plotting the breakup of someone they know, rest assured, karma will come back with the vengeance of a biblical flood and hopefully wash your shady ass out to sea, never to seen or heard from again.

     One more thing; if you're going to take someone else's word that your partner isn't faithful, check, double-check, even triple-check your references, ensuring they're from credible sources. Also, if it's from your "Best friend" there's no harm in asking how they came about the information they're giving you. Is it an eyewitness account, from someone you trust without reproach, or did they hear it from a friend of a friend who met your partner once at a BBQ 3 months ago? You'll definitely kick yourself in the ass if you have to apologize for taking the word of someone who wanted to break you up or over a case of mistaken identity.


Dark Truth

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December 23, 2018



     While writing the first part of this 4-part article, I felt it only fair to point out something a lot of people don't give much thought to; the difference between physical and emotional infidelity. Granted, most people will agree that a man sticking his dick into anything other than his lady, or a woman allowing anyone other than her man to penetrate her vaginally, orally, or anally would be viewed as cheating without a doubt, but the act of forming an emotional or mental bond with someone, other than your partner is also a recognized form of cheating, even if there hasn't been any physical contact yet, and I stress the word, "YET".

     What is viewed as emotional infidelity will differ between men and women, and in many cases, on the level of the bond that has formed between the individuals involved? What one person may consider harmless flirting or even just plain conversation to one, may be viewed as disrespectful or hurtful to another, even when it comes to the people involved. An emotional relationship can be formed by accident, without either person realizing it, or intentional by one or both parties. It can begin as innocently as one person noticing that something may be wrong or, "Off" about the other's normal behavior. Even after a harmless inquiry, they've taken the first steps toward an emotional relationship or connection.

     Emotional cheating can be also viewed as an inappropriate friendship, depending on who you ask; there's no definite line to cross between friendship and an emotional affair, which may or may not lead to anything physical. The best way to determine if a friendship is, in fact, an inappropriate emotional connection is whether or not it would bother you if your partner was in the same position with another person. Basically, if you're not okay with the interaction between your partner and someone else, most likely your partner won't be okay with you being in the exact same situation. Better yet, ask yourself how your partner would react if they read a written dialogue of the conversations you have with that other person.

There is and can be a gray area to be considered when discussing prior friendships. You can't expect someone to end all their old friendships, just because you've entered a new relationship, as long as it remains exactly that; a friendship. When asking yourself if you're in danger of that line being crossed, the first thing to accept is that if you even have to ask or wonder, most likely you've already crossed the line, and it's pretty much on its way to an eventual physical affair. However, in case you're genuinely naive' or a stupid fucking idiot, the warning signs are pretty clear...

- Not being upfront or lying to your partner about the past or how close your friendship really is or was.

- Complaining about your partner to your friend; talking about your problems and/or seeking advice. Also, providing too much information about your relationship can be an indicator as well...

- Defending the friendship when your partner clearly has an issue with it.

- You share big news with them before your partner. Confiding in someone other than your partner is pretty much fucking stupid too.

- Inappropriate compliments, innuendos, messages, pictures, etc. Calls or texts at weird times. If your friend is sending you a "Good morning" text on a Saturday morning, or sharing details of their date from the previous night, especially if it didn't go very well, that's probably a solid indicator there's more than just a friendship brewing!

- You've made your partner a substitute friend.

- Covering up your contact history. You're deleting texts and call history, even if there's nothing questionable being discussed because you're concerned your partner wouldn't, "Understand" your friendship and would get unnecessarily upset. Remember, just because YOU don't see anything wrong, doesn't mean your partner shouldn't. If you feel the need to hide how much you communicate with someone else, that's an obvious sign it's an inappropriate amount.

- You put the friend's feelings, concerns, ideas, etc. ahead of your partner.

- Showing or acting like you're a couple when you're hanging out. Trust me, we're all adults and SHOULD be capable of handling a situation that may come up when the two of you are, "Hanging out" or whatever. There's no need to pretend to be a couple because some other guy won't take no for an answer. Nor does HE need his female friend to be all over him, acting like his lady to prevent other women from approaching him. Having work or social-setting, "Wife/Husband" is also a bad idea, that also includes having a, "Crush" on someone else.

- Lying about how the friend really looks, in reference to being physically attractive. In the same respect though, don't be fucking stupid and refer to them as being, "Smoking hot" either!

- Spending more time with your friend than necessary. This includes staying at work after hours or after you're off to interact with them. Taking on extra work when you know they're going to be around. You can't stop thinking about them or anticipate seeing them the next day is also a bad sign. Planning to spend time alone together or allowing to happen is also a HUGE no-no!

- Be careful of how much you talk about the other person to your partner. Nothing would give them a reason to question you faster than if every other word that comes out your mouth has to do with the other person.

- You start unnecessary fights/arguments over the most trivial things. Do you really expect your partner to think you're THAT pissed off about what type of BBQ sauce you used to coat the fucking chicken, or that you brought home orange juice from concentrate, instead of freshly squeezed with fucking pulp?

- Giving and receiving gifts from someone other than your partner can be a tricky and slippery situation, depending on how personal and expensive the gift is. a good rule of thumb is if it's something you'd be okay with your partner giving or receiving as a gift, you're probably in the safe zone.

- You compare them to your partner. Never, EVER verbally compare how your friend would react to a situation in retaliation to a reaction your partner may have to the same situation.

- Changes in your appearance. You dress differently when you know you're going to see or be around them. Don't think your partner doesn't notice the new clothes you're wearing, the cologne/perfume, even the soap you wash your ass with. You're taking the time to iron your clothes, down to the socks. You start working out, changing the way you behave, and spend your leisure time; instead of sports every waking minute of your life, now you're reading classics, learning a new language, reading the fucking dictionary, etc. Also, changes in the music you listen to. Going from your normal, "Bitches and Hoes" to sexier "Slow Groove" music and vice versa will DEFINITELY raise a red flag with your partner.

- Sex with your partner gets different. Whether better or worse, nothing will alert your partner to something being wrong faster than the sudden change in the frequency or type of sex you're having. If it drops, you'll give the impression you're no longer interested or getting it somewhere else. If it increases, they'll think you're overcompensating for something that may be going on behind their back. And yet, if it becomes more adventurous and beyond the normal, you may also get yourself in trouble.

- You don't or won't introduce your friend to your partner. There's ALWAYS a reason or excuse as to why they can never meet. But be careful about treating your partner differently if/when they ever DID meet; because you'll have a shitload of explaining to do for the next few days!

- It bothers you if someone else shows interest in your friend. You find yourself getting bent out of shape if one of your friends inquire about them or they show a mutual attraction for each other. You become critical of every person that shows an interest in getting to know them or spend time with them, taking their time away from you. You criticize who they may be dating, or you inquire about the health of their relationship if applicable.

     So, how can you avoid crossing the line between just friends and an unintentional inappropriate emotional situation? For one, be honest with your partner about the friendship and allow them the opportunity to digest the information and communicate their feeling about it. If the two of you have a past history, don't hide it; it's a lot easier and genuine to admit your past than to have to explain it when they're pissed at you or they think there may be something going on between you. Encourage them to be just as honest with you about their feelings about the situation. Actually, listen to them and be considerate of how they feel, even if you don't agree or believe they're making too much out of nothing; trying to defend an outside relationship with an opposite-sex friend will most likely come off as you are being defensive or dismissive of your partner's feelings.

- Make sure the other person knows what you have is just a friendship, nothing more. Take the time to reaffirm the relationship with your partner so they know there's no chance of anything more. It may be awkward at first, but if they're TRULY just your friend, they'll understand, and it won't be an issue.

- Introduce your friend and your partner as soon as possible. Allow and encourage the opportunity for interaction between all of you.

- Put boundaries in place; don't do stupid shit like sending each other inappropriate messages or playful innuendos, don’t put yourself in situations to where you'd be alone together or caught at each other's place. Don't play the "Work wife/Work husband" game. Be careful about what you talk about to that other person and keep your business to yourself; don't talk about issues or problems you might be having in your relationship to that other person.

- Be careful how much you talk about the other person, how much you communicate, as well as the content of your discussions. "Babe, this is just how we talk." isn't a good enough reason to justify some of the shit you may say/talk to each other about. Confide in your partner, not your friend when it comes to personal things you may want to discuss or want advice about.

     DON'T EVER ASK, CRITICIZE, TALK ABOUT, OR SEEK ADVICE ABOUT PROBLEMS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH A FRIEND OF THE OPPOSITE SEX!! If your problem or issue is your partner, it only makes sense and safer for your relationship to try to talk to your partner first. If that's not an option for whatever reason, seek out a relative, then a same-sex close friend. Be careful with who you go to for advice, because that same-sex friend just may have feelings for your partner and wouldn't hesitate to use what you've told them to possibly drive a deeper wedge between you and your partner. Trust me, it happens a lot more than you may think.

- Be wary of giving or receiving gifts from your friend and be honest with your partner about it.

- If at any point it becomes or even feels like the lines are blurred in the slightest bit, it's most likely time to end the friendship.

     Can people of the opposite sex be just friends? Absolutely. I have opposite-sex friends I've never had feelings for or an attraction to. I have female friends I've dated and slept with. The lesson I've learned is to just be honest from the beginning about who they are and always remember if you have to ask, it's probably not a good idea.


Dark Truth

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December 14, 2018




     Here's another, a fresh batch of common lies that needs to be addressed...

     "SHE'S/HE'S JUST A FRIEND" Sure, that may be true now, but if your partner doesn't ask, you sure as hell won't admit there was a time the two of you fucked like rabbits on crack every chance you got. Choose to divulge the ENTIRE history at your risk though!

     "I HAVE TO WORK LATE" How ironically that happened the EXACTLY same night you had plans to do something with your partner, which is also is the same night as guys/girls night out at the club.

     "I LIVE WITH MY ROOMMATE" Yeah, but if the person you're talking to doesn't ask, are you REALLY going to come out and admit your, "Roommate" is your ex, your kid's mom and dad, your present girlfriend, etc.?

     "I WORK OUT REGULARLY" First of all, Just because you have a membership, doesn't mean you work out or you're an active person, it just means you pay money for a scan tag because it makes your key ring look cool and can be used as an icebreaker or conversation starter. It's obvious to people who work out to spot this lie a mile away, so save it for the other lazy, couch-dwelling fatties. Second, a 50- minute cardio class one day a week doesn't mean you work out regularly, especially when you celebrate your three months, 3 lb. Weight loss with a slice of pizza and regular soda.

     "I'M IN THE MEDICAL FIELD" Listen, if you work/run the front office in a medical or dental office, YOU ARE NOT IN THAT FIELD!!! You're a fucking administrator, a secretary, appointment-maker, whatever you wish to call it to make yourself feel or sound more professional than you are. That also holds true for most detention/corrections' officers; a lot of them like to pretend or misrepresent themselves as if they're law enforcement officers. Be proud of who and what you are, and if you're not, do something about it, or tell the fucking truth!!

     "I DON'T HAVE ANY KIDS" This is a new one for me to hear. Apparently, men lie about not having children (or about the number of children they actually have) to avoid giving off an impression they don't want to, and women will lie to prevent running a man off if they have multiple children by multiple men.

     "WE CAN JUST BE FRIENDS" Loosely translated, "I really want to fuck you, and I'm willing to wait and put in the time, to get to know each other until I can catch you at a vulnerable moment" But rest assured, he's going to be out fucking other women while he waits.

     "MONEY AND/OR EDUCATION" In an efforts to impress a potential partner or even just short-time fuck, people will lie about their education to seem more exciting and about their income, hoping to impress the person they're trying to hook up with. Be careful with this one though, because it can get out of hand very quickly and usually requires more than one lie to support the initial lie.

     "YOUR FRIENDS ARE GREAT" A lot of people tailor their attitude, behavior or personality; based on who they're hanging out with. So be ready; if HIS friends are pothead drug users or loud, boisterous sports fans who yell and scream at the TV when there's a touchdown. You bet your ass he's most likely going to behave the same way, just as if when she's with HER friends, she's more of a party girl than usual, or the stuck up bitch they portray when they're out together. If neither one of those situations works for you, be honest about how you feel. There's no golden rule that says you HAVE to like all or any of his/her friends.

     "I'M NOT DRUNK" Yes... Yes, you are. This is also another situation that can have unrealized disastrous effects. A woman should be able to go out, have a few drinks, perhaps one too many and expect to get home safely. Unfortunately, this is the REAL world where everyone doesn't or won't have your best interest in mind. As a man or woman, don't put yourself in a position to convince yourself there's a difference between DRUNK and BUZZED... It's the same fucking thing, especially in the eyes of the law! Men, keep yourself safe from harmful accusations from someone who can't or doesn't remember giving consent or to where you may come face to face with an angry husband, boyfriend, or the business end of a shotgun because you got drunk and went home with the wrong woman, who also drank too much.

     "I CAN'T REMEMBER/I WAS DRUNK, I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING" The other side of the coin. The truth is, alcohol DOES NOT make you do you anything you don't want to do, it simply makes you not give a shit about the consequences of your present actions. If you go out drinking and end up in the back seat of someone's car fucking, it's something you wanted to do all along; being drunk is just an excuse that only makes the dirty asshat who fucked around feel justified for what they did.

     "I CAN'T BUST A NUT WITH A CONDOM ON" First you have to understand that friction is pretty much all that's needed for a man to ejaculate (cum). If he's out at the club, and he meets a woman who'll spend enough time grinding her ass on him, the generated friction between the two of them will eventually cause him to cum, and if that can happen while he's wearing jeans or pants, it can happen if he's wearing a condom. I will admit, the feeling and sensational experience between sex with and without a condom are significantly different and more pleasurable without one. Loosely translated, he hates wearing a rubber.

     "I PROMISE I WON'T GET MAD" Yes... YES, SHE WILL! Although you may not hear about it at that particular time, rest assured you WILL hear about it eventually. The fact she promised NOT to get mad pretty much tells you she'll get mad.

     "I WANT YOU, TO BE HONEST WITH ME" HE may want the truth, but most of the time, SHE doesn't; reason being is, for the most part, women already know the truth, she's either testing your honesty or hoping she's wrong. This one's tricky, depending on what's being asked. Caution MUST be taken when choosing to believe the person or avoid the situation entirely. The best thing to do is play it safe and avoid the whole fucking thing.

     "IT'S THAT TIME OF THE MONTH" Simply translated, "I don't want your dick in me" If it's TRULY that time, she'll at least offer to suck your dick or an alternative method of getting you off; if not, she doesn't want your dick... AT ALL!


     "I'LL LEAVE MY LADY/MY WIFE FOR YOU" If you believe a man would leave his wife of 10-15 years, beautiful home, cars, financial security, kids, etc. to move into your one bedroom apartment with you and your Chihuahua; you deserve to get fucked over. If he's been feeding you that same shit for the whole two years the two of you have been fucking; you deserve every heartbroken night you've spent, wondering when it's going actually to happen! You're a side-piece, a fuck hole, a cum dumpster who'll take it in the asshole because he can't get hard for his wife. You're a place for him to put his dick and rest assured EVERYONE in the office knows who you are and every nude picture, email, sex (text) you've sent him, he's shown his buddies before he deletes them, so his wife doesn't find them. He's not leaving her, and he knows you're too fucking stupid to leave him.

     "I JUST WANT TO PUT THE HEAD IN/FEEL HOW GOOD IT'S GOING TO BE" Men have this silly little thing called pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) which most men can't sense or control, so allowing him to, "Just put the head in", not only puts you at risk for pregnancy but also for any STD he may have. Second, in a man's mind, if you're allowing him penetration privilege, you're consenting to full-on fucking, and trust me when I tell you, a man's NOT going to just put the head or tip of his dick in you.  He will push his whole dick inside and fuck you, fucking moron!

     "I TOLD YOU ABOUT IT LAST WEEK" Translation: I'm hoping to give you as many details about a conversation we had long enough ago to put reasonable doubt in your mind that I told you something and you just forgot when in actuality, I NEVER told you a fucking thing!

     "I JUST BROKE UP WITH SOMEONE AND NEED SOME TIME" This is one of those lies where the person doesn't want to hurt your feelings because they believe you're a good person, just not for them.

     "I JUST GOT TESTED" In this case, the follow-up question should be, "Why?" There was a reason or concern to get tested whether the statement is the truth or a lie. Most people don't get tested without reason, especially men. Women are more likely to get tested after a relationship ends. Men pretty much get tested only when there may be a reason to.

     "I USUALLY LAST LONGER THAN THAT..." Ha haha hahaha. This one's pretty classic in itself when it comes to the 2-minute, 3-pump chump. This golden oldie is usually followed up by putting 100% of the blame on the woman with a compliment; "You must have Kyroptonite in that pussy, because I NEVER cum that quick before" Yeah he did, the last time he had some pussy.

     "I WAS ASLEEP" Another classic when justifying why calls/text went all evening/night unanswered.

     "I'M ON BIRTH CONTROL" Again, we all know the sensations are much more intense and enjoyable WITHOUT a condom, but don't be a bitch and lie about that shit either. Because you want a specific type of orgasm, you hate the way condoms feel, or even worse, you're trying to get pregnant, knowing that's not what HE wants!


     "OH, I REMEMBER NOW" No... No, they don't. They just don't want to hear that long ass, boring fucking story again.

     "I'LL CALL YOU RIGHT BACK" This can be an unintentional lie. Most people say it out of habit, knowing they're not going to, or be able to call RIGHT BACK. Take this one with a grain of salt and don't let it bother you too much.

     "I COULDN'T ANSWER; MY FRIENDS TOOK MY PHONE" When at the bar or club and your partner's calls to make sure you're okay or whatever. it's always easy to blame your friends for taking your phone away so you can enjoy a night out with having to check in, check social media, or whatever, especially when you're in the back seat, getting your dick sucked, or bet over the sink in the bathroom, taking it from behind.

     "MY PHONE DIED" And your social media page shows pictures of your night out when it was supposedly dead, you fucking ASSJACKET!

     "I HAVE TO GO OUT OF TOWN FOR WORK... LAST MINUTE" Translation: "I've met or know someone who lives out of town, and I'm going to go fuck her." This a lie that men tell more than women, seeing as how a woman can get offered and turn down dick twice in the time it takes her to walk outside and check the mail.

     "I HAVE TO TAKE THIS CALL, I'LL CALL YOU BACK" This a quick and easy way to get off the phone when the conversation has turned stagnant, or you just want to get off the phone, for whatever reason.


Dark Truth

An ongoing series of Dark Truth


December 8, 2018


Faster than a cheating bullet

     I decided to write this in multiple parts for many reasons. First, because it would be WAY too much to read at one time and I wouldn't take the time to read all of it myself, so I wouldn't expect anyone else to either. Second, I feel this is an important subject that should be taken seriously, and I didn't want any of the points to be missed and to eliminate confusion. Third, I feel there are so many facets and opinions; I want to give the opportunity for responses, views, personal beliefs, and experiences, as well as comments.

     Why do we feel the need or desire to cheat? Why would someone put the time and effort into meeting and cultivating a relationship, only to step out and seek satisfaction outside their relationship, instead of fixing or ending it? Before getting into this, I feel it's only fair as well as necessary for me to admit to my bullshit.

     Yeah, I've cheated; both physically and emotionally. I've stepped out on my partner and my relationship on more than one occasion, and in the process, managed to burn and fuck over a few exceptional women who didn't deserve what happened to them; their only mistake was to have met me while in the middle of my, "Dumb as fuck" phase of life.

     I could say I was drunk, but I don't drink; I haven't had a drop of alcohol since around 1997. I could tell It was difficult to turn down the pussy because I've had it thrown at me all the time, but that didn't happen either. Medical issues? Used to have a variety of women to choose from and the thought of settling down with one woman didn't appeal to me? Not even close. I could say it was just pussy and it wouldn't hurt anyone, as long as no one found out. I could also go the coward route and use the oldest excuse in the book and say I thought she was cheating on me... No, I didn't. No matter the reason, the truth of the matter is they're all bullshit, just bullshit to rationalize being a cheating fucking assclown.

     So, why did I cheat? I cheated because I wasn't honest with myself or my partner about my needs. I cheated because I didn't concern myself with her needs or expectations. I didn't know anything about love languages; both mine or hers. I couldn't communicate what was important to me in a relationship, which also meant I couldn't hear what they were saying either. I chose women I wasn't attracted to, women who were emotionally unavailable. I decided three fourths to full-time mothers of multiple small children who had limited amounts of time and availability to spend with each other. I picked women who wanted me, no matter what they looked like, how big they were, what their hang-up’s or issues were. I went after women who were just like me, just fucking grateful that someone wanted to be with me, and even seen with me in public. I went after women who wanted more out of the relationship than I did, even though I knew I wasn't interested in them in the same capacity. I went after women who I felt no one else wanted, who thought they were just as unattractive and undesired as I was.

     I cheated because I didn't like myself. I cheated because I despised what I saw in the mirror. I was fat and unattractive, and I hated myself. I cheated because I knew no one wanted me and I didn't know when the next time I was going to meet someone who wanted to be with me, so I felt I needed to take advantage of every opportunity that came my way. I chose women I couldn't or didn't see a future with. I cheated because I had shitty self-esteem and even lower self- confidence. I cheated because I was a fucking loser, wallowing in a pool of self-loathing, pity, and hatred.

     Then I got sick; ridiculously sick, spending time in and out of the hospital for the better part of a year, trying to get my medical situation under control. One of the biggest things the doctor was adamant about was the need for me to lose weight and get into shape, take a more active approach to my health and physical fitness, or I'd be destined for a worst-case scenario. And so, I did; signed up to a gym, lost the weight, changed my eating habits, and improved my overall health.

     Then the unthinkable happened while on my path to better health; as a side effect, I saw that I was not only gaining muscle, I also found myself drawing attention from a percentage of women as I'd never experienced before. It was pretty damn cool; everywhere I went, I was getting checked out, approached, hit on, etc. and it was fucking cool... I fed into it and allowed myself to be swept into the whole thing, not giving any thought to the relationship I was in. I lied about where I was going, who I was going with, what I was doing; ANYTHING I could do to get out by myself, so I could see how many phone numbers I could get, females I could meet and hook up with. I was so wrapped up doing dirty shit; it never occurred to me that I was leaving such a visible trail of bullshit, I pretty much telegraphed the fact I was lying and cheating that it was only a matter of time before my fantasy world came crashing down around me. Believe me when I tell you it came crashing down hard.

     I cheated because I got wrapped up in myself and the attention I was getting. I cheated because I allowed myself to get caught up in my bullshit, dealing with shallow fucking women who wanted absolutely nothing to do with me before. I liked the inattention I was getting, being accepted by not only women but from people who wanted to hang around me, because of the women I was attracting and I was into every second of it. Soon, I was spending more time away from my relationship and more time stepping out, trying to fuck around.

     I cheated because I wanted to be accepted by my peers; I wanted to be seen as a player, popular with the women. I didn't care about them, and I craved the hi-fives and accolades from my boys whenever I walked into the club and could get up on one of a half-dozen women, thinking that other women would hopefully see me as, "The man" and want to come at me. I cheated because I was sick of being a nobody; I wanted to be somebody. I was tired of going out, not meeting anyone, and I sure as hell didn't want to be seen out in public with some of the women I went after. I cheated because I wanted the best possible partner I could get and, in my head, having more than one woman on the line to choose from and adding to that line as much as I possibly could make the most sense to me at the time.

     The fact of the matter is no matter what rationalization I can muster to explain why I cheated. It's all bullshit, straight bullshit, and even though I'm proud to say I'm not that person anymore. It still embarrasses me to look back and see myself for who I was and although I can't make up for the past, I can tell my story, in hopes I've reached at least one person and maybe stop them from making the same mistakes, and damaging others the way I did. And to those who I've personally damaged or caused heartbreak, I honestly and sincerely apologize.


Dark Truth

An ongoing series of Dark Truth


December 1, 2018



     For every positive, there's a negative; for every light, there's a dark, every weapon, there's a defense unlike such beneficial tools from back in the day. From the Mixtape, the CANDYGRAM we used to send girls we liked in school on holidays such as Valentine's day, or the subtle, "Do you like me, YES or NO (circle one)" Folded note, to the "Finger fortune-teller" there's a darker, more sinister tool that needs no introduction, but DEFINITELY requires defining... THE COCKBLOCK.

     Make no mistake; the COCKBLOCK has been around far longer than any of us could ever imagine and is a bitch to reckoned with. Like the prehistoric MEGALADON, it's an Apex Predator with no known natural enemies, rows and rows of sharp teeth, armored skin, and the ability to sense its prey and cover vast distances extremely quickly. The COCKBLOCK is stealthy, sneaking up at a moment's notice, lifting its head just in time to bite you right in the asshole and retreating back into the bush, or comes charging full steam like a Juggernaut, crushing everything in its path.


     Before REALLY getting into its depths, there are a few things we must understand when discussing the COCKBLOCK. First of all, the cockblock knows no gender lines; women can use it against women, women against men, men against men, and men against women. The cockblock can also be used ANYWHERE, from the club to church, to the grocery store, pretty much everywhere people frequent or congregate, even if just briefly. It's a weapon that never runs out of ammunition, never needs maintenance or breaks down. It is adaptable to any given situation and can pass through any metal detector, making it virtually universal and user-friendly.

     "How is it Used?" The cockblock is used to make sure no one else has the opportunity to have his/her chance with someone of the opposite (or same) sex after the user has been turned down. For the purpose of this article, we're just going to focus on the opposite gender aspect.

     SCENARIO 1: Sam and his friends are out on the town, having a few beers, looking to hook up and get some ass. He sees Sara at the end of the bar and decides she's the girl he wants to take home and fuck. Sam approaches her, and maybe she takes him up on his invitation for a drink or dance, and they head out to the floor. After a song or two, she thanks him, and he walks her back to her seat, all the while, trying to hold her hand, as if they're together, but with no luck. Without even being invited, he takes a seat and starts in on her with all the swagger and game that's gotten him pussy in his past, but Sara is unimpressed and uninterested.

     During their dance, Sam notices that Darius was checking Sara out and she was doing the same, showing a definite physical attraction, which is why Sam tried so hard to make it look as if he and Sara might be together. Much sooner than later, Sam realizes he's wasting his time with Sara and knows she has no intention of fucking him, but he'll be damned if Darius gets a chance. So he either continues trying to get to know her, or he'll back off enough to keep from bugging the fuck out of Sara but remain close enough to keep Darius at bay, wondering if they're together or not. After two or three beers, Sam may have to piss like there's no tomorrow. He knows as soon as he goes to take a piss, Darius is going to walk up and ask Sara what the deal is with her and Sam and that silly asshat will risk a fucking bladder infection than to lose pussy that didn't even want him in the first place!

     SCENARIO 2: Tracy and David just broke up a month ago after a 2-year relationship. While out for the night, Tracy sees David having a conversation with another woman and it seems to be going well. Some light touching, laughing and a few dances confirm obvious physical chemistry. The exchange of cell phone numbers takes place before the other woman heads to the restroom. Tracy follows and catches her in the bathroom or the hallway and proceeds to break down every single one of David's faults or explains what he did that lead to their breakup, all the while, never admitting her own indiscretions. Whether the other woman believes Tracy or not, she decides that's WAY too much drama her to want to be a part of and removes herself from the situation entirely. COCKBLOCK SUCCESSFUL!

     SCENARIO 3: Jenny and her girlfriends are out, kicking up their heels at their favorite spot when John walks in and IMMEDIATELY catches Jenny's eye. After 30 minutes or so, John approaches Jackie and asks her to dance, which she turns him down, putting a smile on Jenny's face. Another 30 minutes go by, and Jenny's friends have boosted her courage and confidence enough to walk over and talk to John, and the two of them head to the dance floor. Their chemistry is almost instant, and they spend a good 30-45 minutes, killing it on the dance floor, all the while, agitating Jackie, who not only turned John down but doesn't even know Jenny.

     Determined not to let Jenny and John enjoy their night, she posts herself to where she catches John's eye, and she starts smiling and flirting with him while he and Jenny are obviously into each other and having a good time together. John, being a stupid fucking idiot, returns her smiles and playful glances; sooner or later catching Jenny's attention, causing her to feel disrespected and lose her interest. John doesn't care, and in his mind, he has a chance to fuck Jackie, who now has no interest in him because she was successful in blocking his dumb ass from getting pussy from somewhere else. It was never about him; it was about eliminating the competition... COCKBLOCK SUCCESSFUL!

     SCENARIO 4: Henry sees and chooses Maria as soon as he notices her walking in by herself an takes a seat along the wall. He makes his way over to her and strikes up a conversation. Not wanting to be rude, Maria obliges and leaves the opportunity for possibility open for the time being. Then, in walk James and asks if the seat on the side of them is free. James takes the seat and orders a drink, not giving any thought to either Henry or Maria. Shortly afterward, Maria notices James' a little more and finds herself attracted to him. She keeps looking over at him, even managing to shift her seat over closer to him, periodically brushing against him, "accidentally" to initiate some form of physical contact and communication in the form of an apology. It doesn't take Henry long to notice this, and not to want to lose out, he stands up to, "Stretch his legs" before slyly but patiently shifting to the opposite side of Maria and wedges himself in the small void between Maria and James, cutting off her view and the possibility on any continued, "Accidental" brushings.

     Unaware of Henry's motives, and still determined to get James to notice her, Maria tries her hardest to maneuver herself back and forth, in her seat inconspicuously. Henry's no fool though, he wiggles himself deeper and more prominently in the small fucking space between Maria and James, almost either pushing him halfway off his seat or sitting in his lap, Causing James to either shift farther away or getting up and finding another place to sit... COCKBLOCK SUCCESSFUL!

     SCENARIO 5: The music is cranked, and the dance floor packed when Corey and his friends walk into the club. Ladies from the door to the tables are checking him or at least one of his friends as they head to the bar for drinks. A little while goes by and Tasha, an attractive black woman, approaches Corey and asks him to dance. Not being attracted to black women, but not wanting to be rude, he accepts her invitation, and they head out to the floor for a song or two. Later, that same woman or a different woman approaches and asks for a dance, where he politely declines, stating he's hanging out with his boys for the night. She understands and walks away.

     Sometime later, Corey looks over and sees Amanda, a beautiful, thick redhead, built EXACTLY how he likes his women, and the two of them make eye contact. Corey excuses himself and makes his way across the room, takes Amanda by the hand and they hit the floor. The physical attraction and chemistry are IMMEDIATE, and they lose themselves on the floor, dancing, grinding touching, and even some kissing. Tasha sees the display and gets pissed. "How the fuck is he gonna turn me down then get out there with that white girl?" She grabs her friends and heads out to the dance floor, right to where Corey and Amanda are dancing. Tasha and her friends take turns, "Bumping" into Corey and Amanda. No matter where they manage to move to on the floor, there's Tasha or one of her friends, "Accidentally" bumping into them, almost knocking them over, before they just leave the dance floor... COCKBLOCK 50% SUCCESSFUL! Tasha knows Corey and Amanda will most likely dance again, exchange numbers, and quite possibly interact after that night, even showing up together the next weekend, but she successfully stopped them from enjoying their time together to where she can see them.

     Women will block for:

     - Revenge: Her EX-screwed her over and she'll fuck up his trying to meet someone else. A woman will also block the EX of one of her friends or at least make him EXTREMELY uncomfortable on her friends' behalf. She'll most likely block, using either the FLIRT or BITCH method. She'll either be the bitch and cause the woman not to want to be a part of their drama. She'll play the flirt, and like a fucking dumbass, he'll actually believe he has a chance to fulfill a fantasy of fucking a friend of his EX, running off the other woman, just to have the blocker laugh in his face and walk off... COCKBLOCK SUCCESSFUL!

     - Pain and Suffering: A woman who's been heartbroken will block because she essentially wants to keep her EX single, so he'll have time to miss her and want him to come back. In most cases, women take longer to recover from a serious relationship/heartbreak, where men will try to find a new pussy to fuck to force himself past the heartbroken phase.

     - Spite: A woman will cockblock for the simple reason that she'll be damned if her EX will meet or move on to new pussy or a new relationship BEFORE she does, even if she's not ready to move on, she'll keep his ass single for long as she can!!

     - Because she can: Women will get a wild hair in her ass and cockblock people she doesn't even know, just for the pure satisfaction of being able to do so.

     One thing to remember though, when it comes to a woman cockblocking another woman, 90%-95% of the time, it has very little to absolutely NOTHING to do with the guy in question. It's more about the direct competition with that other woman. She'll block another woman from getting a man the blocker doesn't even want, while the man sits there, like a goofy fucking idiot, thinking he's the man because he believes he has two women competing for his little hairy dick.

     A man will block because he wants his EX back, or he'll be damned if another man ends up with a woman he wants. A man who's TRULY out for just pussy won't cockblock another man; he'll move on to another piece of pussy. If he blocks or attempts to block, he's genuinely interested and may WANT something more substantial with her than just a fuck, no matter what comes out of his mouth.

     There you have it, the breakdown of the COCKBLOCK as I see it. As I said before, it's a formidable weapon, capable of devastating effects. The cockblock is versatile, easy to use, sometimes challenging to identify and even harder to defend when it catches you off guard.

Before my conclusion, I want to address two more, less-than-lethal weapons in the arsenal of social/sexual interaction: The PUSH/PULL method and NEGGING.

     The Push/pull method is a practical, straightforward to use, but the percentage of success is lower than the cockblock. Only a guy will put himself between two women and immediately begin showing one interest. After a short while of getting to know each other, or when he senses her budding interest, he'll merely halt and shift his attention to her friend or another woman in the direct vicinity, most of the time, subconsciously putting the first woman in direct competition with the other woman for the man's attention. If successful, she'll step out of character and become extremely flirtatious or physical with him, to shift his focus back to her, which in turn will have the same effect on the other woman. So now, he has two women almost climbing all over him for his interest/attention.

     Negging is much simpler. A man will approach a woman, and after a short time of small talk and getting to know each other, he'll point out something small but negative about her, causing her to react in a way to solicit more personal or physical interaction through touching, playful hitting, etc. While he, "Apologizes," and assures her he didn't mean it the way she took it; it gives him the opportunity to increase the physical contact between them.

     In conclusion, we've covered the COCKBLOCK, the push/pull, and negging, the not-so-new weapons most people have either no idea existed or being used against them. Consider yourself informed and hopefully, you'll be more aware of these techniques being used against you, or you're able to refine them to where your own shit isn't so lame.


Dark Truth

An ongoing series of Dark Truth


November 16, 2018



     These are words that serve as one of the cornerstones of our justice system. The dictionary defines a lie as a false statement made with the deliberate intent of deception; and inaccurate or false statement or intention. The punishment for perjury depends on various things, but once the punishment has been served, it's rarely remembered unless the liar is called upon to testify or serve as a witness in another situation.

     Being caught in a lie in reference to relationships have far more severe consequences, the effects last much longer, and the chances of being trusted again depends on the content and magnitude of the lie and its impact on the relationship. Some people believe in, "Little white lies," while others believe a lie could be necessary in order to spare someone's feelings. Whatever the reason a person may lie to another, there are certain lie's that shouldn't be told, such as...

     "I DON'T KNOW WHO THAT IS" Look, we all have a past, and we're bound to cross paths with people we've dated, had relationships with, had sex with, etc. If you're with your partner and you get a "Happy birthday" text, your phone rings and you know it's your EX, someone you fucked before meeting your present partner, or whatever, just be upfront and say who it is. If you have nothing to hide, there's absolutely NO REASON to lie in this situation, it's unnecessary, and it'll cause the other person not to trust you; it's easier to admit it than to have to explain.

     "I LOVE YOU" If you don't, don't say you do! A lot of people will say it due to natural response, obligation, pussy, to keep the other person from feeling vulnerable, etc. It takes the level of commitment to a place you may not be ready for at the time, or maybe even ever. Once it's said, you can't take it back, so, mean it BEFORE you say it.

     "OUR FINANCES ARE FINE" Other than cheating; finances are the leading cause of breakups and divorce. Some men feel as if it's their sole responsibility to handle the finances. Lying to your spouse or partner, knowing there's a problem with what's being spent in relation to what's coming in is NEVER a good thing, just because you believe it makes you less of a man, or to hides expenses. Whatever the reason, you're asking to get shit on if/when you get caught! Not to mention, it has the potential to put the idea in your partner's head that their opinion doesn't matter when it comes to how the money's spent.

     "I'M SORRY YOU TOOK IT THAT WAY" No you're not! If you did or said something fucked up to your partner, you meant it, you meant to say it, you meant to do it, and the only reason you're apologizing for it is that the other person was intelligent enough to realize how fucked up it was. Now you're trying to backtrack to keep them from being pissed off, leaving you, or not fucking you.

     "IT'S OKAY/DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT/I'LL GET OVER IT" And if you believe that, you're a fucking idiot! If you're the person saying it, you're even worse than the person who said or did whatever it was that prompted your lie. If you're pissed off, say you're pissed off! If you're offended, say so. If you're hurt, admit it, and if you decide you're going to lie and tell your partner not to worry about it, only to bring it up later, then YOU'RE an asshole. Your partner's not a mind-reader, so they can only go on what you tell them. Own up to being bothered by whatever the other person did or said to bother you, get past it, and let it the fuck go!

     "I DON'T LOOK AT OTHER MEN/WOMEN" Shut the hell up! You've got eyes, and you're going to look if someone attractive walks by, and there's nothing wrong with that; it becomes disrespectful when noticing becomes eye-fucking. If you're dumb enough to think your man/woman doesn't notice other people, there's something wrong with you... If you're the one saying it, you're probably doing more than just noticing!

     "YOU DON'T NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT" If they're asking, they already know they need to, they're just looking to you for a self-confidence boost. If your lady asks you if you think she's fat, she pretty much already knows she's fat; she wants you to tell her in a nice way that you love her and still want to fuck her, even though she's fat.

     "THAT OUTFIT LOOKS GOOD ON YOU" The worst thing a person can do is allow someone they care about to go out on the town, dinner, date, etc. looking like shit or wearing something that makes them look like someone wrapped a rubber band around a pillow. Granted, "You look like shit," won't go over very well but maybe suggest an outfit that is more flattering. When shopping, just because it looks good on the mannequin or because they make it in your size, doesn't mean it should be worn by everyone, especially if you have to ask, "Does this make me look fat?"

     "YOU'RE THE BEST I HAVE EVER HAD" When you're in your 20's, the goal of being the best lover your partner had thus far is definitely more attainable than in your 40's, so get a fucking clue. You may be a good, even GREAT lover, but unless you meet a virgin in their 40's. You're NOT going to be the best at every aspect of sex, so don't waste your time, trying to be the best they've had; concentrate on satisfying them by listening to them, responding to them as an individual lover, and giving verbal affirmation; you'll be just fine.


     "I CAN ONLY ORGASM IF YOU GO DOWN ON ME" This is a shitty lie that women tell men in order to manipulate him into eating her pussy, using his pride/ego as a weapon. Of course, men believe that if he can't satisfy his woman, she'll find someone who can/will, so she'll tell a man she can only orgasm (cum) if he goes down on her. Women are capable of 5 different types of orgasms: Clitoral, Vaginal, Blended, Exercise, & Skin (Goosebumps). Granted, some women are prone to specific types of orgasm, based solely on oral sex, but not all 5!

     "I NEVER HAD AN STD" If asked, be upfront about it. Most STD's can be cured with a simple antibiotic in just a few days, and if it happened in your past, why not be honest about it! If you have something incurable, don't wait to be asked; it's not only the responsible thing to do, it's also punishable by law to knowingly pass on a disease to another person. If the person finds out you lied about something as stupid as being treated for Gonorrhea 10-15 years ago, they'll believe you'll lie if you caught something more recently.

      "I'M 2 MINUTES AWAY" Hahaha hahaha.

     "I CAME SO HARD" One of the worst things a person can do is lie about/fake an orgasm... Even if it's to keep from hurting the other person's feelings. Having a small/weak dick or sloppy ass and wanting to hurry up and get it over with is one of the main reason people lie or fake an orgasm, trying to spare someone humiliation or embarrassment is just as bad. Most guys with tiny dicks, already know they have a small dick, and most women pretty much know their pussy's so loose, you could ride through it on a circus horse, so don't add insult to injury by having them learn they can't satisfy someone they actually care about or have feelings for.

     "YOU'RE SO BIG" Men pride themselves in their size and every guy wants to hear how big their dick is. The average erect penis size is 5.5 to 6.3 inches in length, 4.5 inches around, according to multiple medical sources. If a man has to ask if you think he has a big dick, he already KNOWS the answer, and he doesn't want the truth unless you're boosting his manhood.

     "I DON'T KNOW" Yes we do. Whether asking about where to eat, go out for the night, who's calling/texting you, what movie you want to see, whatever. We know, we're just not ready to say, thinking about a response, or know the answer will spark a conversation/debate/argument the person doesn't want to have.

     "MY PHONE'S ACTING UP" You just may not feel like talking when your phone rings; you may be wrapped up in a TV show, video game, talking to a friend, or whatever when your partner calls. To keep them from getting pissed or from thinking you're doing something you shouldn't be doing, some rely on them, "My phone's been doing that lately" excuse.

     "I LEFT MY WALLET AT HOME" Hahaha hahaha. Some guys will pull that shit when they realize at some point during a date that they won't be fucking, so he doesn't feel like he should pay if he's not getting anything out of it. He doesn't care if you get pissed or ever talk to him again. Accidentally leaving your credit/debit card in the pocket of the jeans you wore the night before or in your gym bag is more believable than leaving your ENTIRE wallet at home.

     "I DON'T USUALLY DO THIS/I'VE NEVER DONE THIS BEFORE" Is a man's supposed to believe he's the first man you've ever taken to your car after meeting him at the bar/club and put his dick in your mouth or riding him in the back seat on the first night? A woman's supposed to trust that you've NEVER bent a woman over the hood of your car and fucked her? Get serious!! Be honest about what you want and what you're after. Don't play the gentleman or the innocent waif to avoid the label of being out for just sex; you may be surprised when you find out you both are looking for the same thing.

     "MY CAR'S IN THE SHOP" An oldie but goodie, a lot of the time, this translates to, "I don't have a car, so you'll have to come to pick me up." He's hoping to get the pussy before she finds out he doesn't have a car, but in the rare case, he might actually like her. he's hoping she'll be emotionally invested before he follows up with the classic, "The mechanic doesn't think it's worth fixing, so I'm going to have to keep paying on it until it's paid off BEFORE I can get a new one."

     "I'M SINGLE" This is a hard one to decipher whether or not it's true. You'll have to trust your instincts on this one on a case by case basis...

     "I'M SICK" Whether you have another date, plans with your friends or side-piece. You want to go out and look for something else, or you just don't feel like doing shit, and you don't want to piss off the person you're lying to, this is another overused classic that's gonna have to be taken on a case by case.

     "I WAS LISTENING TO YOU" This one can backfire extremely quickly; she'll either believe you or quickly go to the fall-back, "OKAY, WHAT DID I JUST SAY?"

     "IT'S NOT YOU; IT'S ME" Nope; it's all you.

     "I'M LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP TOO" Hahaha hahaha. Depending on the circumstances, if you're dumb enough to believe this one on face value, then you pretty much deserve what heartbreak or STD comes with it.

     People lie for many reasons, whether for their own benefit or to keep from offending someone; whatever the reason when the truth comes to light, it's hard to get that trust back, even if possible. If you're the person being lied to and you choose to work through it and rebuild that trust, then do so with a clean slate; don't bury the hatchet, leaving the handle exposed to be picked up and swung whenever it's convenient or beneficial. If you're unable to get past the lie, walk away with a clear heart and mind.


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November 8, 2018


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     While writing an article called, "Shades of White," I felt the need to separate a point that I feel is important and worthy to discuss on its own in more detail, instead of writing just a few lines about it.

     There are quite a few black women out there who believe black men choose white women because they aren't as mentally or morally strong as they are, lots of times, referring to them as, "Doormats." This statement or belief is just not true, as many black men as I've asked, no one has ever even hinted this being a reason why they've walked past a black woman and approached a white woman.

     There are independent, strong-willed, and self-sufficient women of all races and ethnicities; just as there are soft-spoken, more docile women in every race. A woman's upbringing, environment, and family dynamics are more fundamental factors. In which none these makes one race stronger or weak than the other.

     First of all, I believe black women use excuses such as the DOORMAT theory. Along with saying black men only like white women because they, "Suck Dick" or they, "Do freaky shit a sista wouldn't put up with", or the classic, "These niggas nowadays can't handle a strong black woman" The fact of the matter is these are just verbal defense mechanisms in response to being turned down, that's all... it's no different than when a man gets turned down by a woman, and he refers to her as a stuck-up, snotty bitch.

     The environment doesn't necessarily refer to a place, but experiences, which go hand in hand with upbringing. I am in my mid-40's; my generation was the first major generation of the "Deadbeat dad," where the most significant percentage of any other in our current history black men were fathering children and taking off, leaving black women to raise their children as single mothers.

     The black women of the present who were raised at that particular point were exposed to the hateful conversations their mothers had with these men. Their mothers were asking and sometimes begging for emotional and financial help and support. They sat on the floors of their bedrooms when they were supposed to be asleep, ears pressed against the door, listening to the angry, tearful, conversations mom had with her friends in person, or on the phone about how their father wasn't worth shit and didn't want anything to do with her or her siblings. In some cases, the children were directly told by their mothers about how fucked up their father was, how he wasn't doing a damn thing for them, etc., essentially laying the groundwork for the foundation they'll build their walls of over-independence, self-preservation, and pride.

     As these girls evolved into black women and had their own experiences; their mentality became more justified by the steady increase in men having children without a second thought about taking an interest in them. Which in turn fueling their, "I don't need a man for shit" mentality, as well as their belief they're stronger, and have to outwardly project their, "A sista wouldn't put up with that shit" attitude."

     A larger number of white girls at that time came from an entirely different environment; her parents were most likely married when she was born and raised, and mom stayed home, tending to the home while dad went to work. Not to say that white men didn't walk out on their responsibilities, but during that time, white mothers were less likely to expose her children to the negative interaction between that man and herself. She didn't bad mouth him in front of her children, and she took the initiative to teach her children that just because their dad wasn't a good person, that didn't mean most men were shitbags.

     Having both parents present and active in their upbringing, white girls were more exposed to a completely different dynamic. Mom and dad discussed important decisions, they disagreed but didn't argue or fight in front of the children. They didn’t talk shit in the phone or to their children themselves about why they were, "Mad at daddy" they learned from their mothers that dad worked hard and when he came home, it was mom’s job to make daddy happy and comfortable because he worked so hard to provide for the family.

     Fast-forward to the present; white women aren't weak, docile doormats; they just came from a completely different dynamic than black women; they've been raised to appreciate having a good man, instead of thinking they're a fucking, "Queen" who deserves to be compensated for having a shitty upbringing. Where black women have the, "A sista wouldn't put up with that shit" mentality, a white woman will follow the example from the dynamic between her mother and father and decide much more carefully what's worth bringing up, as well as the time and place. She'll recognize the man she's with (If he's a good man), that he's doing his best and show him support, even if he falls flat on his ass. She'll cook his favorite meals; she'll have no issues, sliding into that short, fitted, low-cut dress that a black woman would turn her nose up and scream about not wanting to look like a fucking hoe. If her man likes it, she'll suck his dick and swallow every drop... That doesn't make her a Doormat; that makes her a woman, raised in a different environment/dynamic where she was shown the example and learned to not only appreciate having a good fucking man but to show him the appreciation and support HE craves, instead of what a black woman WANTS to give her man.

     Instead of congregating with other black women, talking shit, berating, and referring negatively to a white woman about how weak she is, or how black men only want her because she's nasty or freaky; swallow some pride, pull that white woman aside and ask her what she did to get that good, decent, hard-working, motivated black man and what she does to keep him. Wipe the filthy, nasty, "Fuck Off'" from your face when you go out on the town, dial down the "Queen" mentality, and a good man will be more likely to approach you. Too many times have I seen black women turn their nose up at a black man; just trying to say hello, without so much as a smile, but will surely have a lot to say when she sees him with a white woman. If the belief is true that some black men choose white women because they suck dick or take it in the ass. Then take the hint and put your man's dick in your mouth. Hopefully, there won't be any room for you to bad mouth that white woman for doing what she does to keep her king in her castle!



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